When I found out I was pregnant, my aunt (who i was v v v close to) had just had a miscarriage. I worried myself to death about how I'd tell her, but she simply said "That's great. I lost my baby not your baby, and it makes no difference to me." She actually got pregnant within weeks - so we went through it together
One of my sisters had a miscarriage a year ago or so. She has always desperately wanted another child, but never tried as she's never been secure enough in a relationship (she suffered from postnatal psychosis last time so although she knows she can raise a child alone if needs be she worries about that and the effect on her other son so she needs a huge amount of support), it was an accident, but of course, once you find out all that goes through the window and you are happy about it.
When 2 of my other sisters found out they were pregnant not long after, they both visited her personally and told her before anyone else. When what happened to me recently happened - I made sure that I visited her alone to tell her. She was ok - although a little tearful - just as I was for years when I visited my new nieces and nephews and thought I had no chance of ever having another child. I enjoyed my new nephew much more because now I have hope
One thing my sister said really annoyed me though - and it might be worth bearing in mind for anyone else. She had actually only found out she was pregnant 2 days before m/c - she was about 8 weeks and she said to me - your's is different - after all you were only a little bit pregnant.
I was lucky I didn't need any medical intervention (except the most thorough internal I've ever had afterwards - I didn't know you could get that far
) but I still felt devestated that after all the effort, my body let me down - not "It's my fault" but I had always looked at the TTC as the really difficult bit for us and not thought of anything else afterwards.
god this is sooooo long sorry