How important is your childs intelligence?

[redbear]

I am watching something today on that mum who doesn't want radiotherapy for her son and one of the reasons is because it can effect intelligence - im not going to go into that because i think it could upset some people but my thought was Alice's intelligence isn't that important to me, does that make me very strange!

Dont get me wrong i will help her and make her do her homework etc but if she naturally struggled it wouldn't bother me at all as long as she tried. If she was a happy, kind little girl but was doing bad at say maths i wouldn't see it as a major bad thing. I dont know if this is just me!

Me and her dad are Dyslexic (not stupid btw) I struggle with maths and spelling until college and her dad used to struggle with reading and couldn't read until he was 10 but now he reads a 500 page book every couple of days (i shit you not he is always reading) maybe this is why we know even if she struggles as a kid that doesn't mean she can't do well i got 12 GCSE's over a C and im a qualified gas engineer and her dad is a qualified Joiner.

What do you guys think how important is it to you how clever your child is? x

 

[Mrs N]

I don't think it matters so much as dh didn't do we'll at school and he now has a very good job but I do want h to reach his potential and have as many options in life and this does normally come with a good education. If he does try and isn't good at certain things then it wouldn't bother me!
Xxx

 

[wifeywifey]

To me it's important but not as important as drive and support I did rubbish at school I'm not stupid I just didn't have support and if I had the support I know I would have done better, being intelligent will just make it easier.

 

[mummy2b19]

I dont care as long as she is happy i loved school and did well so i would love alex to enjoy her education aswell but if she struggled i wouldnt love her any less. I had a proper mini melt down when i read this story in the paper my mum was laughing at me because i ranted on about it for 10 mins xx

 

[katie_lou]

My dad done awful at school not one single qualification and he has an amazing job .

Tbh I find some of the most intelligent people have no common sense at all , my cousin who is 18 is so clever that is scares me but he has no common sense at all which I find even more scary.

If ruby ever needed radio therapy I would never stop treatment , her health is far more important that intelligence . I don't understand why anyone would put there child's health at risk and refuse treatments xxx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

someone actually turned down potentially life saving treatment in case it affected intelligence erm, priorities!! IMO intelligence doesnt matter a jot, I'd far rather have a happy healthy child than an extremely intelligent miserable one! (not saying all intelligent people are miserable!) as a PP said, a close family member of mine is stupidly clever, was g&t at school and has not an ounce of common sense! I think quite often peoples brains are wired differently when they're super smart! Personally, I don't think being clever will get you anywhere that hard work and determination won't!

From my own experience, I was an "underachiever" at school, had to have special mentoring from the deputy head the lot I wasn't remarkably clever, but was top set for everything. I was painfully unhappy growing up and had a lot of pressure put onto me from various people! It completed switched me off and I just couldn't be arsed! Got my gcses and a levels and did chuff all with them then I look at friends who were bottom set for everything, no pressure on them, loved school and yes worked hard! They're the people that are now in "professional" jobs and doing really well for themselves! I do know people that became doctors and thing like that, but from what ive seen, its usually the people you'd least expect to do well that have done!

Gosh that was rambley sorry but in short, as long as my two work to the best of their abilities and are happy, I don't give a fig whether their abilities are less than someone elses!

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

Katie Lou, my dad came out of school with I think one o level and has done amazingly for himself! He was blinkered tho, knew what he wanted to do, knew he didn't really need the qualifications to do it, so didn't bother

 

[knopk@]

I would be different and say it would matter to me.
My DH's family have PHDs, DH isnt stupid and i wouldnt call myself stupid either.
He would struggle to be amongst us i think if he turns out to be below average.
So hoping he does reasonably well but there is no way of knowing.
I wouldnt turn down the trearment though, not a question

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[Hope81]

Intelligence is quite important to me. Intelligence is not only measured if at all with school progression and achievements ???
It's quite important for her during her life, both intelligence (that's usually sth that you can't interfere much) and good school progression.
I don't measure my love with how smart she is or how good she does at school but I want her to have great tools and opportunities to succeed in life.
I will never stress her with school if she can't do it but if she can I will "push" her and encourage her to do better.
Same did my parents and I had a wonderful childhood and a successful carrier.
Lets only hope I can do 1/2 of what they did with me...I am planning to be involved very active with her education and that ms not only math and history. I meant to help her become a well rounded educated, well mannered,clever little lady and really use all the knowledge that gets from school.
God I loved the 1 m in Egypt with pyramids vacation that my parents booked us to see with our eyes all the great things the stupid history book had inside. I joke you not really lived history if that meant I will go see great things all over the world and I did see many of them

 

[MrsR]

As other people have said, as long as my children do their personal best, I'm not bothered about how intelligent they are. If they work to their full advantage and are still bottom of everything I couldn't care less! I want them happy and healthy, everything else will follow.

 

[MrsR]

Intelligence is quite important to me. Intelligence is not only measured if at all with school progression and achievements ???
It's quite important for her during her life, both intelligence (that's usually sth that you can't interfere much) and good school progression.
I don't measure my love with how smart she is or how good she does at school but I want her to have great tools and opportunities to succeed in life.
I will never stress her with school if she can't do it but if she can I will "push" her and encourage her to do better.
Same did my parents and I had a wonderful childhood and a successful carrier.
Lets only hope I can do 1/2 of what they did with me...I am planning to be involved very active with her education and that ms not only math and history. I meant to help her become a well rounded educated, well mannered,clever little lady and really use all the knowledge that gets from school.
God I loved the 1 m in Egypt with pyramids vacation that my parents booked us to see with our eyes all the great things the stupid history book had inside. I joke you not really lived history if that meant I will go see great things all over the world and I did see many of them

I don't really class that as intelligence though. I don't think education and intelligence are the same thing. What you're saying here isn't that it is intelligence that is important to you but the opportunity to give your child/ren a good education. I don't think you need to be intelligent to be 'well educated, well rounded and well mannered'.

 

[Hope81]

I just said that intelligence is not the same with doing good in school?
That was my first point but as probably the op meant Mostly school and people respond to that same did I farther on my post??

 

[MrsR]

Yes I am aware that you said that but you also opened your post saying 'intelligence is important to me' but then just spoke about education-I personally don't believe education means just school-so it came across that way. I was just saying that the things you had mentioned wasn't, to me, connected necessarily to intelligence. That's just my opinion I guess.

 

[Hope81]

Ok it's probably not so easy to write in English for me but as I said that you can't interfere much with intelligence I left it like that and went on to school education and to education outside of school that means a good girl with food manners a good soul... I don't get why the problem is?
Those are things that are important for me. I want her to be intelligent cleaver a good student and a good person. I will do everything to achieve those but regardless what the outcome will be I will love her the same.
I said nth about you need to be good at school or intelligent to be a good person.
It's what I want for her and yes I do believe that all all important in her life.

 

[MelissaLindley]

Intelligence would be a bonus but I have no intention of pushing my child in the direction of Some career that was never chosen by them ( something I see Alot at work with the Dr's that have parents that are Dr's and have been pushed towards a career they didn't want).
Though education doesn't necceseraly mean intelligence but I intend to give my son a childhood filled with as much fun and great memories as possible and not expect a lot of him whilst he is young and I'll hope he does his best but I would never put on pressure in an attempt to make him super intelligent.

Manners and morals are much more important to me than intelligence x



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[Rachaellius]

Intelligence would never come before health or happiness no way. However I would like to teach her to be smart, independent and be able to support herself as an adult. As I left school early with no qualifications and regret it. Don't get me wrong though I'll always support her in whatever she wants to do and I'd never be really pushy just encourage her iykwim!?

 

[redbear]

I don't mean i wouldn't encourage her to try her best but i certainly wouldn't be disappointed if she wasn't naturally clever,
i mean if i send her to the best school i can and help her as much as i can but she struggled for whatever reason i wouldnt really care. I agree that the 'smart' people can lack common scene,
Dh's best friend was super clever went to uni and has degrees etc and guess what he does for a living - works at Game Station! All because he studied archelogy and there are no jobs, which we told him when he was picking a degree we said do something you can get a job in but no he wanted to do something different - he could be a doctor by now and was smart enough to do anything! He lacks in some common scene i think he was deluded with Indiana joans tbh, his last girlfriend lacked all communication skills when i first met her -
I asked her 'so how do you like Uni then?'
Her - 'well its suited for some people like me and **** but dont think people like you and DH would be able to do it'
Me - 'really i was once scouted by *** uni you know that one your bf applied to and was turned away'

Assuming im stupid because i didnt go to uni, i wasn't scouted i was just told to come in to see them when i was getting straight A*'s on my college assignments when i was on a childcare course they wanted me to apply thats all but she wasn't to know that.

Not saying thats all smart people its just i think some become confused between inelegance and class, she thought she was better than us just because she had gone to university (which i could do if i wanted but really how far can i go in plumbing apart from qualified?)

 

[redbear]

Oh and dont take them travelling the world and learning from hands on experience in term time or you will be fined lol

Sort of went of topic there ignore me xx

 

[Hope81]

Did I say that redbear? Because its sth that you don't plan or not like to do don't make it sound trivial or ridiculous for someone else.
I will step out of this thread though as apparently the only answer that people would easily accept is no It Dosent matter for me, I value more other things

 

[redbear]

no i was serious im all for learning from trips etc but that couple where fined i said it was stupid then because they will learn a lot from the world not just classroom i meant it as a joke at the school policies obviously didnt come across that way though!