Am I in the wrong? - advise please...............

[Alicebabe]

So tomorrow is my graduation ceremony at university.

Two months ago when I got my letter to tell me the date, I phoned my mum to tell her and she looks in her diary and tells me she is away with the Red Hat Society in Ireland and that she can't change the arrangements and so wont be going to my graduation.

I bit my tongue about this for a long time until I phoned her tonight to ask if I could borrow her digital camera for the ceremony and she tells me she wants to take it on holiday with her but she can lend it to me if I really really do have to borrow it (er, yes doesn't she even want to see the photos?!)

The thing that really gets to me is my mum is like my best friend, we get on so well and she has supported me so much through university and then I feel second best to her other commitments. Its a very important day for me - surely she could have changed it.

So I mentioned to her that I was cross and she told me there was no point in getting upset as there was nothing she could do about it and handed the phone over to my dad (who is coming with my DH)

Am I being unreasonable? Just been sat crying at the thought she wont be there to share my special day Now I feel like a right cow incase I made her feel guilty!

 

[skairdykat]

I don't think your being unreasonable at all hun. It's a once in a lifetime day isn't it and she I'm sure she'll get another chance to go away with her society.



BTW have a lovely day hun and be sure to post some photo's

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

oh no hun id want my mum there to

 

[jools221181]

No I would react in exactly the same way! Don't worry, she will only feel guilty if she agrees she is in the wrong (hope that makes sense!)

Easier said than done I know but try not to let it spoil your big day

 

[lauramumof2]

You are in the right. If she feels guilty then thats her problem, she feels like that because she knows she is doing the wrong thing.

 

[Babylicious]

I agree with the others, I can't understand her thinking

 

[mum2be?]

i agree with you hunny.

I would be very upset about my mum not attending & would have let her know about it

 

[muppetmummy]

You are completely in the right! I wouldn't want to miss james' graduation for anything. There was a story in the paper the other day about parents who spend £2000 hiring a private jet so they could get to both their kids graduations on the same day!
Just try and enjoy your big day, it's your mums loss, she may regret it in the future

 

[Nicola]

I went to my graduation ceremony alone also - I'd just got back from the States (flew home for it specifically) around 10am the ceremony was 1pm so quick back to my flat, change and out again. My family didn't come because I was at Uni in London they lived in Glasgow and given I was in the States on holiday (well sorting post graduation work out acutally) till the day before they thought it was disorganised and wouldn't make the effort. Anyway I had the BEST day, graduation was good, they take pictures of you afterwards anyway and there were so many of us that kicked the robes off once it was all done and headed to the pub. We had a great afternoon and honestly I'd have liked my Mum there at least but I had a fantastic graduation all the same!! Enjoy your big day it's 3 or 4 years of hard work...celebrate!!

 

[jenna]

id be the same hun