How important is your childs intelligence?

[Hope81]

It's ok I loved school trips btw and kind of miss them? What a great fun that was? Less or more educational but great fun lol

 

[tweetyfoo]

Up until I had Aaron I wanted my kid to have no limits ... I wanted them to be a doctor or rocket scientist or whatever, because I was brought up to believe that people like me couldn't be doctors etc.

I am an intelligent person, but was never encouraged, only as an adult have I learned to apply myself. I wanted different for my kid.

Then I was told Aaron had DS and everything changed.

Now I couldn't give a monkeys uncle and I have a different outlook on life. Intelligence does not matter to me but I want my boy to be healthy and independant and to be able to walk and talk and live amongst his peers as
An equal.

Had I not had Aaron my response would probably be different but like I've said before he has taught me more in 3 months than I have learned I. 30 years!


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[redbear]

good i hate typing you can't get across who the sarcasm is aimed at it was the school lol. i loved school trips too i bet with how health and safety is going and funding there won't be as many as those soon xx

 

[MelissaLindley]

Erugh I hate health and safety lol. It's way OTT nowadays

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[Me, My Girls & I]

See I've changed my views over time too, I used to be very worried about what my kids intelligence would be like, probably because I come from a family where everyones quite smart and I just didn't know any different! But now I just want to give them all the opportunities and support I can without being pushy! It's no fun as a child feeling constant pressure to be the best at everything!

"ideal" world, yes they'd be brain surgeons and never struggle to get good grades etc! But sometimes I think it can be more of a hindrance than a help tbh!

 

[clairebear22]

I think education is quite important and if Jack (and Harry) are 'average' at school, that'll do us nicely! If either one showed potential to go further in a subject/skill I would try my hardest to push them to the best of their ability as long as THEY were happy. I was average at school and so was OH, we both 'got by' and we turned out ok.

I would defo like my boys to be street wise and have good common sense. I don't know my arse from my elbow when it comes to directions and I pray neither one inherits it!!

Mostly I would like them to try their best in everything they do and will praise them for whatever they achieve. Jack's particularly good with a ball, his throwing distance is amazing with very little effort so I tell people he'll be a tennis player (he loves watching Wimbledon )

 

[katie_lou]

I will 100% encourage ruby but I would never push her into something .

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[PyscoFalcon]

I would rather have a child that can't tie shoelaces up and needs velcro ones but is healthy and happy, than a child that has an awsome IQ but is really sick needing constant care.

I think to have a high IQ and be stuck in someones care for your life would be more damaging and tourtering for them, than it would be for a kid with lower IQ that finds even the slightest thing to smile atm. iygwim?

BUT support is what any kid needs. I did crap at school as I caught a disease in year 8 that made me go partly blind and death. (my retana was badly damaged) school just mocked me and wasn't suportive at all. My parents had many arguments with them including hospital letters with my requiremnets (sit at front to hear/see better, having tesxt books/work enlarged ) Hospital said could take up to 4 years to get my sight and hearing back if ever but still had 0 support.
Thankfully after 2 years I started to heal but had many fainting spells during it. School didn't care and just accused my parents of not feeding me!

So if anything like that happens to Katie I'll be giving her all the support she needs even if it means taking her out of school and putting her into special classes. I certainly won't push her to be something she's not tho.

 

[Pudds86]

It is important to me, however i don't think intelligence is completely nature. I think a lot can be nurture too therefore i believe how well he does depends on us supporting him and his education. However if he really struggled i wouldn't focus on that, rather on his strengths.

I wouldn't take any laziness and as long as he was trying that's what would matter Xx

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[littlemiss83]

I wont comment too much on the actual news story, other than to say, I think this woman had other concerns, chemotherapy has a lot of dangers, and I applaud her for looking into this rather than conforming to what she's supposed to do, not only can it lower IQ it can also cause alot of very serious side effects, infertility being one. Cancer can be cured without chemo & some ppl have chemo and still die of cancer, so its one of those things, its not cut and dry. (before anyone shouts at me for this, i've had cancer myself, breast cancer at the age of 17)

In saying that, yes, intelligence is a big thing in my eyes, I have to admit (and im being brutally honest here) I would be very upset if LO had some sort of learning disability or wasn't at the same level as their peers. Its not something you think about so much when they are babies, but when they start school, its a constant niggling thought, every parents worst fear is being told that their child isn't performing as well as others. Intelligence might not come from what we learn in school, but its a pretty good guide, yes, some people get well paid jobs without a good education, but lets be fair the chances aren't very high. I want my LO's to have a good job, good money, best education ect, but I value health more than that. Even though i'd be upset if they aren't intelligent, i'd also be upset if they wern't happy, grounded people.

At the end of the day, if you look back and say - i done the best I can, I didn't have them around stressful environments, I read them stories, encouraged them to learn (outwith school) then what more can you do...

 

[tinks77]

I hope my children will be intelligent but as myself & OH are both better at the doing side intelligence more than the knowing I hope she'll have both.

Tbh I'd be more upset to have an intelligent child who couldn't be bothered than a below average child who tried their hardest.

I do agree with littlemiss, I'd be devastated if my child had a learning disability but I wouldnt love them any less, I'd be devastated for what they might have been not for what they are if that makes sense lol


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[Lolly85x]

I wasn't good at school, it didn't interest me. I have a very happy life, I have a decent job, lovely family. I think that's more important. I want my children to not struggle in the world, have common sence. Yes I want them to do well at school and I will help them as best they can. Maybe he will be into sports more than books. Either way I want a happy child.xxxx

 

[knopk@]

I have to second that I would be upset if my child has a learning disability. It would be hard for me to understand but of course wouldnt change my love for him.
Health is important of course but having half a brain isnt going to hurt and if you do well at school, you are very unlikely to be useless in life as school teaches you not only maths etc but communication and so on.
I wasnt like other kids at school, I wouldnt say i was super bright but i did reasonably well but was bullied because i didnt smoke pot behind the school.
Didnt really care much and all I have to remember is how far apart we are now in life. I was determined to do well and my parents pushed me and encouraged me which i am grateful for

 

[Hope81]

I agree with Knop