CH0C0H0LIC
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Situation is as follows:
1x 11yo son lives with us (my son from prev relationship but OH adopting next year so basically we mum AND dad, no birth dad around)
1x 8yo daughter lives with her Mum (OH's daughter)
1x 4wk old son lives with us (product of me and OH!)
Dilemma is do we buy same amount of pressies/spend same amount on all kids (and risk upsetting 11yo because daughter will then have more from her Mum so will be better off for pressies at Xmas) or do we spend/get slightly more for the boys knowing that daughter won't technically be losing out in the grand scheme of things (and if daughter comments about it explain to her that she's getting pressies from her 2 families)?
I'm thinking of the 2nd option but want your views as concerned it'll make me look like I've favouring the boys cuz they my children. I was thinking of dividing the boys pressies so they open some in the morning then some in the afternoon when daughter comes over.
Does that seem reasonable?
Sarah xxx
1x 11yo son lives with us (my son from prev relationship but OH adopting next year so basically we mum AND dad, no birth dad around)
1x 8yo daughter lives with her Mum (OH's daughter)
1x 4wk old son lives with us (product of me and OH!)
Dilemma is do we buy same amount of pressies/spend same amount on all kids (and risk upsetting 11yo because daughter will then have more from her Mum so will be better off for pressies at Xmas) or do we spend/get slightly more for the boys knowing that daughter won't technically be losing out in the grand scheme of things (and if daughter comments about it explain to her that she's getting pressies from her 2 families)?
I'm thinking of the 2nd option but want your views as concerned it'll make me look like I've favouring the boys cuz they my children. I was thinking of dividing the boys pressies so they open some in the morning then some in the afternoon when daughter comes over.
Does that seem reasonable?
Sarah xxx