Heartbroken

[kaytee11]

Hey ..
So i havnt posted on here or been here in a while. Hope everyone is doing good in Tri 2 & feelin better

Basically anyone who doesnt know my story when i found ut i was pregnant ,y boyfriend had just left ot visit family and then was going to london to work .. im in Guernsey so im a plane jorney away. Basically my boyfriend is still married (whcih id kown from close to the beginning .. over a year ago) but has nothing to do with his ex wife until he gets his divorce in February or so at least thats what i thought. After 3 months of not seeing him he came back last week and it was great i could show him and tell him everything he wasnt here for but i had the nagging feeling f just knowing had he seen her so i asked and i told him to be honest and the answer i got was hed slept with her twice the last time being 2 weeks ago, one week before he came back here. He has also just left to go back to london for i dunno how long probably another 2 months. Ive spent the past three days not eating and crying my heart out. I feel like im doing this all by myself and have no one to blame but myself since i knew from the beginning ive to start wok of two weeks of nights now and with my job you meed moving and handling and theyve put me on with one other staff who is male so he is of no help to me with the 4 females we have in work. i just want to go home to my family and i cant until ive these two weeks of nights done. Ive out up with my dad and best friend dying in the past 5 years but i feel like this is the last straw and ive just given up this time. Sorry for the long sob story i dont mean for pity i just need to rant.

 

[vixxie77]

Aw so sorry for your situation hun just keep thinking about your lo growing inside you, that's all you need really hope things get better for you soon x x

 

[kezza1985]

So sorry to hear this but I know how u feel. I found out recently that my husband was seeing a girl out of work b4 I fell pregnant. My heads all over the place too. X

 

[winnie89]

Poor you hun I'm sorry sorry to hear all what you have been through some men just can't be trusted just think your little one will make everything better and you'll be better off with out him

 

[tillzy69]

So sorry for what your going through! Can't believe he did that to you. Still you have a beautiful baby growing inside you and you need to look after yourself for it!! No one deserves to be treated like that especially when you are pregnant. As if your emotions and hormones weren't already all over the place! I know its easy to say but try to stay strong for that LO, and remember you have loads of support on the forum and we will all try to help with words of encouragement and advice!


Stay strong

 

[nikki8092]

Aw hun, thats an awful way to be treated. He clearly doesnt deserve you. Even if you were to do it on your own im sure you would do a marvellous job. xx

 

[Bee7]

So sorry to hear you're going through this. What a terrible thing for him to do to you, especially while you're pregnant. Has he shown any remorse or said it won't happen again etc? If not, then you really need to think about whether or not you want to be in this relationship. It's not easy to make such big decisions when you're vulnerable and your head is all over the place, but just remember you're not alone. You have your family and you can always come here for support and advice.

Hope you get sorted hun, best of luck xxxxxx

 

[baby43]

Hi hun xxx HUGS to you and lots of them..

I know how you feel i swear i do hun...

The way iam dealing with pregnancy my own is... If the guy don't want to know now,he will never want to know!!!

I know iam at the early stages now, and i'd rather do everything alone now. I have done since day 1 since i found out.

Its hard i know but i'd rather have him gone now, then he come back in 6 months making more trouble and upsetting me !!!

I am scared and feel lonely but im getting use to it!!! day by day.. I'm putting my baby and myself first and thats the way its going to stay...

He said some horrible things to me since he found out and that will take time to forget, but i will forget!!! I've cut all emotional ties from him now, thats all i can do at this moment!!!!

He does have a new girlfriend so what!!!! He can do as he likes its just a girlfriend... I am the mother of his child and thats more important because he will never escape that for the next 18 years of his life .

Stay strong xxx your not alone !!!!

 

[roxane 1985]

sorry for what you are going through

1stly - you need to decide if you really want to stay with someone who while they are away is sleeping with someone they are meant to be divorcing (i dont mean to sound harsh i really dont) because that sort of stress really isnt good for you

2nd - if you did decide you deserved better, but was worrying how you would cope on your own trust me us women are alot stronger than we give ourselves credit for and can come through things like this far better than men, trust me i brought my first up on my own and it was far better doing that till i met my new partner who i could fully support and trust.

if you ever need to chat you can alway prvate message me hun xx

 

[masonowen]

So sorry to hear this

 

[Applecider]

Sending you xx

 

[BabyBrain]

Dunno what to say hunny, just wanted to give you a hug xxxxxxxxx

 

[kaytee11]

Thansk to everyone !!

The money im saving on counselling is amazing

Badically he has rang my phone about 50 times between today & yesterday i finally answered and he was all full of apologes & what not. He asked how baby was and i just gave one word answers. Ive also recieved a bunch of flowers & an early christmas present a a christmas crd sayign abby's first christmas with a ring inside .. NOT that kind of ring. Im not forgiving him no way .. ive now go get a screening test done because of him ad the embarrassment of that is killing me. I managed the first 3 months i can manage the rest .. if he decided to make more of an effort so be it but i still wont be letting him back in .. some serious amount of work has to be done before i will ever let him that close again. The last thing i said to him was if this baby is a girl i hope no man ever hurts her like you have hurt me. Think that might have hit home a bit.

Hope everyone is doing good. My headaches still wont leave .. the temptation for some neruofen plus is unreal !

xxxx

 

[Loula]

good for u xx

 

[babybo]

Oh Hun this is not what you need at all. All I can say is just stay strong. It sounds like your really giving him what for and making him learn.
Take one day at a time and look after yourself xxxx

 

[LilyMac]

You deserve much better than this
Stay strong for bubba, that's all that matters now xxx