Having a miserable holiday :(

[BabyBrain]

So...our last holiday before baby comes and I was really looking forward to it. We are away at York with the sister in law and her hubby.
Saturday was fine when we arrived and we had a chilled out Sunday after the travelling and getting rid of everyday stress. I went to bed early cos I was shattered......and then laid there listening to the 3 of them discuss me and the baby (the walls are paper thin). Apparently my OH's life isn't changing at all when the baby comes, he's still going fishing every night and going out with his mates (he'll go out and spend 50 quid down the pub then come home and have a go at me cos we have no money). After generally discussing how I can't even look after myself let alone a baby (says the bloke who still lives with his dad at the age of 39) he announced to his sister that it's a good job my due date is in the closed season for fishing cos otherwise he'd have to decide between going fishing or being at the birth I've had little sleep cos they are all drinking and he's snoring his head off.
Monday and Tuesday I have spent pretty much on my own the whole day and evening as they all go fishing, last night I said that I would like to go out today just the two of us......so we are going out with his sister and BIL somewhere .
So basically I am going to be a recluse for the next 18 years and will probably do everything wrong anyway .
It takes 15 muscles to smile.....13 muscles to frown.....and only 5 to pull back your fist and punch someone in the gob. He'd better hope I have more energy before the end of today.
Rant over, thanks for listening xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I'd confront the knob! How dare he say any of that when ur carrying his child! Really hope ur ok! Please don't let him get you down!

 

[redbear]

They said what!! you must have the patience of a saint to sit and listen to that! You should have a word with OH and explain you don't like the fact he is discussing your private life and your baby with those two, and if your going to struggle to cope so badly how does he expect to leave you and go fishing and to the pub! Also i would mention to the other two that they shouldn't make judgments on your life when there not exactly stood on there own two feet- I keep nothing inside tho- nothing im not very good at playing nice and would have hit the roof if i heared that!
All i can say is talk about it now rather than later and get it in the open... he really is behaving really selfishly xx

 

[Susanne]

Sounds to me like he was showing off and trying to sound all cool and not-bothered in front of his sister and brother-in-law. Maybe some underlying issues of being terrified of the responsibility of being a father? Still, talking about you like this is not on, and I think you should tell him so in no uncertain terms!

 

[Lilmoomin]

I cannot believe he spoke about you like that!! He needs a reality slap!! He doesn't have to give it up completely but he should be cutting back!! He needs to grow up a bit!! Hope you will be ok x x x x

 

[wannabmummy]

aww BB that is crap!! Sorry to hear you're having a rubbish time! Definitely take him to one side and talk to him about how you're feeling, he shouldn't be talking about you like that to other people. Lots of love hun xxx

 

[Kerrykins]

OMG!!!!!!!! I would go absolutely ballistic!!!!!!!!! I would HAVE to confront them all - how dare they talk about you like that! Who the hell do they think they are!!!!!!!! (sorry if I over-react, known to have an ever so slightely short fuse........).

 

[mustard]

That must have been horrible to listen to and you should give OH a piece of your mind but I'm sure he doesnt think any of that, it is probably just that male bravado thing to impress his BIL and sis. My hubby keeps saying if his favourite computer game releases it's latest version at the same time LO is born then he will spend his whole paternity leave playing it instead of helping with the baby. HE BETTER BE JOKING!!

 

[1986princess]

I'd confront the knob! How dare he say any of that when ur carrying his child! Really hope ur ok! Please don't let him get you down!

Totally agreed! Get him sorted! U shouldn't be feeling like that Hun! Hope u feel better about things x

 

[Olive]

Oh hun what a horrible thing to hear I think you should tell him that you heard him and how much it hurt your feelings. Not that it's an excuse, but he was probably drunk and showing off. I'd bet he'd be mortified (should hope so!) if he knew you'd heard them. Hope you're ok xxx

 

[Princess81]

I don't know how you stopped yourself walking in mid convo and confronting them Hun, totally out of line x