Gutted - one of my best friends is pregnant.........

[3Beloved]

I had a similar situation. I told my brother (one who i'm closest too) that were TTC and his wife said I will just know when i'm pregnant as she does. And they were all for me having a baby etc...They have 3 and said they didn't want anymore, then i found out of somebody else she was preggers like 3 months after saying that. They didn't want to hurt my feelings, but not telling me was worse than if i'd have known. But it still dissappointing.

xx

 

[russellmuscle]

Hey Katkin!

I understand your fury, my best friend/cousin got pregnant by mistake and I was absoloutly gutted. She could tell I was gutted too and included me in a lot which actually helped me come round to the idea. At this point tho, we were WTT but I was still more broodier than ever.

My nephew is now 2! hes amazing and I wouldnt change him although I did even find myself not wanting to ask certain questions cause I would get jealous or annoyed by the answer lol!

If she continues to rub it in (maybe not intentionally) maybe mention it too her, she was TTC too once. She should understand!

 

[mummywanabe]

My friend just had her baby last month, I'm so thrilled for her but at the same time it makes mr so broody!!! She was pregnant before.and I was happy for her.and at the same time so.gutted it wasn't me! Unfortunately she lost her first baby and then I realised I was more gutted about her not having the baby than having one, I've now decided that there is a plan for me and everything will fall into place all in good time, when she told me she.was pregnant again I was so excited for her but then I started to worry that she had got pregnant twice in the time is been trying and I still have no baby but its not a race and I will be an amazing 'aunty' to her baby til my little one.comes along!!!

 

[Katkin72]

Thank you everyone for your positive stories and support, it really helps I'm feeling a lot calmer today and concentrating on the next few days when the witch pisses off and I can start my obsession with POAS again, waiting for ovulation!!
My BF is announcing her pregnancy on Thursday, after they have told her partner's parents - not sure how I will feel then, bit like rubbing salt into a wound. But then why shouldn't she be excited and want to tell the world!! I know I would too I will just have to put on a brave face.

Yeah, I know why you mean Russellmuscle - I'm scared to ask her any questions in case it makes me even more upset! The hardest part will be when the baby is born and I go round to see her. I know I will cry - unless of course I have my BFP by then.

I agree Mummywanabe - as hard as it is for me to hear about my friend's pregnancy, I would be heartbroken for her if anything happened to her baby. FX she has a happy, healthy pregnancy.

 

[Louise80]

Hiya,

I totally understand how you feel.
I'm 32 and the last one out of my group of girlfriends who doesn't have children.
My OH is 39 and already has 2 children, one of whom lives with us (an inherited
teenager, such hard work it almost makes me re-think ttc ha).
Anyway I've avoided nights out sometimes due to all the child talk and now
one of my friends has just announed she's pg after 9 days, yes 9 days!! of deciding to try!
How gutted did I feel to hear that?! Although we're only on our 3rd cycle I was still
sooooooo envious!!!
Also I've not told any of my friends we're ttc and they're always asking me when we're going
to go for it, I'm running out of excuses ha ha.
Don't feel remotely bad about your reaction to ur friends bfp, it's natural and
completely understandable xxxx
Good luck for ur ttc journey xx

 

[PinkDiamond]

I was really looking forward to going out last to my friend's house - we were going to have a boozy night of pole dancing and a takeaway and I thought it was just what I needed to take my mind off TTC. My friend started TTC on Xmas day and we have been talking about our journeys and frustrations and supporting each other. I have been feeling pretty crap about still not getting pregnant and thought it would help being with someone who understood how I feel.

Well, we arrived at our friend's house and she announced that she has just found out she is 7 weeks pregnant. My heart nearly stopped - it took all my strength not to burst into tears and run into the loo. Don't get me wrong, I am soooo happy for her and I know she will make an amazing mum but i was gutted. Sorry if that makes me sound selfish. I have read other peoples threads here about how they have felt when their friends have got pregnant before them and I always thought I would be different. I never though in a million years I would be so upset and devastated

The whole evening she sat talking to our other 2 friends about pregnancy and having babies (one of them already has a son and the other has 2 children). I had to stop myself from crying. As my friend, who just announced she is pregnant, was giving me a lift home I couldn't even leave early. When I got home my husband was waiting up to ask me if I had had a good night and I wasn't going to tell him but it all came pouring out. I feel soooooo miserable............
Sorry for the rant ladies, being so selfish and for feeling Sorry for myself. Xx

Hi There.

I 100% Know how you feel. I know how that feels. When you would love a little one so much and your friends around you have that be you dont seem to get anywhere. My best friend had a little boy In October 2011 and my other friend had one 4 weeks ago and 2 other friends I had at school have a 1 and 2 year old. Me and my OH decided last November that we were ready for a family and I have PCSO and finding it very difficult to conceive and my friends dont have this and dont have problems. You not alone in feeling like this, neither is it anyone's fault. I am also happy for my friends.

Lots of ladies here to talk to. Baby dust to you Big hugs to you