Getting your man in the mood

[clem]

I have trouble with this one. My DH works v long hours and is often tired. Plus he drinks too much and eats a meal quite late which not helpful for getting it up at night when its the best time.

Generally he is only good to go first thing in the morning, which is not helpful as I have to get up and showered as soon as it's over to go to work, and so cant keep legs up or stay lying down.

Sexy outfits have no effect if he's tired, he just gets grumpy about 'pressure' and shocking but true is the fact that he doesnt like oral! It used to be a fail safe way to get boyfriends going, but not my husband......

I have considered secretly feeding him viagra, but I think he might be a tad cross, only kidding btw! Maybe oysters though?

I need help! I've always had a higher drive than him but now we are ttc I need some tips on jump starting his engine. Any ideas?

 

[Bead]

Hi Clem!
Hmmmm, a late meal and a drink after a long day at work always puts me to sleep too! How about pouncing before he's eaten?

 

[LouiseB]

I have a higher drive than my husband too

I find that if my husband is complaining of being too tired that the best time to catch him is when he has just had a shower himself.

That is the only time he feels a bit refreshed before he remembers how tired he is

Plus he's already naked which makes it easy. And you know he's clean lol

You can even try climbing in with him - a wet boobie is too irresistable not to touch! And if he touches it... well, he won't be stopping there!

Besides that, just try catching him off guard before he gets comfy in bed or on the sofa because then he'll just want to nap.

If all of this is something that you don't reckon you'll be able to manage with your routine, maybe try softcup or a diaphragm - pop it in just after sex and it'll keep everything up there.

I just got myself a diaphragm and i think it'll be really effective

 

[clem]

thanks girls, yes, catching him before he eats or after a shower both might work, I'll try that today.

The soft cup is a good idea, though everything still going in the wrong direction. I tried to wake extra early so that i could stay lying in bed for an hour afterwards, but I am not a morning person, I just swore at the alarm and went back to sleep, lol.

I think I am pinning all my hopes this month on a few days holiday next week. He's great when we're on holiday, plus i should be ov at that time.

I've just remember that the tent has in fact witnessed some of our most frequent bding

Any other ideas that work for you much appreciated though

 

[scandicmum85]

Its a bit funny but I hve noticed the time he wants more sex than me is when I am not trying to have sex with him etc, say Im tired etc.. As recently I have been trying to do it often and my drive is higher than his( he works long hours and always got something on his mind) and also trying for a baby make it like a pressure for him even he wants it so much. So I decided not to do it with him for a few day or least not try to show interest etc... Guess what happened...

 

[Geminiblue]

google Focus Sensate its a programme for reigniting....and its about just touching without sexy nice time and when you tell a man he cant, he will always want to :-> you dont have to stick to the entire programme but just have a chat with you OH about it and when he thinks oh god I cant have sex for 2 weeks we have to just touch and cuddle, just wait... but see what you get from it xxx