broody2013
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I expect we have all felt this way at some point.
I am under a lot of stress at work and with my health and I think this might be what's stopping us conceiving. I am very slightly overweight with a BMI of 25 and my husband is still closed as 'obese' with his BMI but is almost moving into 'overweight' now which is good, and we hope to both continue to lose weight.
I have been using raspberry leaf tea, I've bought a higher quality multivitamin which has magnesium zinc and chromium as well as the other vitamins and minerals needed. We have BD every other day this cycle (I can't cope with every day we would just give up so every other day is the best we can do right now in order to keep BDing consistently throughout the month).
I can't really go to the doctor and ask for help because strictly speaking I am not meant to be TTC due to the antidepressants but it was making me more depressed not working towards a family as the guilt was killing me so we started again in October. we will be moving on to our 16th month TTC when AF comes. I am 10DPO BFN and don't feel pregnant so I'm just waiting for AF now.
My question is when should we call it quits and accept we might be a childless couple (well I would end up single as my husband would end up divorcing me as he is Catholic and family is everything to him). I am so upset that I would be a terrible mum anyway because of my health problems and low mood and I am very aware of the risk of PND and problems with the baby if you are depressed, but I've been depressed for over half my life now and it's not likely to go away anytime soon is it?
It's got to the point where even the pregnancy tickers are setting off crying spells even though I am so so happy for everyone on here who is expecting their babies. I just really don't feel like this could be me anymore.
What am I missing? I just be doing something wrong.
I am under a lot of stress at work and with my health and I think this might be what's stopping us conceiving. I am very slightly overweight with a BMI of 25 and my husband is still closed as 'obese' with his BMI but is almost moving into 'overweight' now which is good, and we hope to both continue to lose weight.
I have been using raspberry leaf tea, I've bought a higher quality multivitamin which has magnesium zinc and chromium as well as the other vitamins and minerals needed. We have BD every other day this cycle (I can't cope with every day we would just give up so every other day is the best we can do right now in order to keep BDing consistently throughout the month).
I can't really go to the doctor and ask for help because strictly speaking I am not meant to be TTC due to the antidepressants but it was making me more depressed not working towards a family as the guilt was killing me so we started again in October. we will be moving on to our 16th month TTC when AF comes. I am 10DPO BFN and don't feel pregnant so I'm just waiting for AF now.
My question is when should we call it quits and accept we might be a childless couple (well I would end up single as my husband would end up divorcing me as he is Catholic and family is everything to him). I am so upset that I would be a terrible mum anyway because of my health problems and low mood and I am very aware of the risk of PND and problems with the baby if you are depressed, but I've been depressed for over half my life now and it's not likely to go away anytime soon is it?
It's got to the point where even the pregnancy tickers are setting off crying spells even though I am so so happy for everyone on here who is expecting their babies. I just really don't feel like this could be me anymore.
What am I missing? I just be doing something wrong.