getting out and about

[sparky]

I've not got out on my own with Isla yet, been out a couple of times with OH but cant seem to find the time combined with the energy when i'm on my own as were always feeding or pumping...then i like to have a wee nap at 1-3 then its a wee bit of housework etc...

Health visitor said i should be out every day!!! DH is also concerned that i should of managed it by now (shes 12 days old). I feel a wee bit pressured, i'm still a bit tearful and worn out and i think they are both a bit worried about PND, i do crave company and a bit of adult conversation but simply cannot make it out the house...when DH is around (hes self employed and has had to go back to work on and off) i feel like its do-able...i suppose i lack a bit of confidence in going out on my own...i know i'm not looking forward to driving her etc.

Is this normal...cant help but compare myself to others who seemed to have managed it from day 1!

 

[charlie84]

If you really wanna start going out just take it slowly maybe just go to the local supermarket for a quick wander or around a park if the weather is nice.
I found it ever so tiring just walking to my local shop the first week and it really took it out of me so dont push yourself.

I did find the fresh air good and its good for baby too

 

[Foxxi]

Firstly...... STOP comparing yourself to other people.... you are you and you'll go and when your ready too!!!

Secondly, Dont listen to the health visitor...they know Jack shit!

I was very nervous the first time I drove with Fynn in the car... I drove like a vicars wife on a Sunday morning stroll ...

How about maybe having a little stroll around the park with your new pram (and your new baby obviously )



Just take your time!

 

[loz]

I was quite worried about going out when Emms was newborn, I only really managed short walks with her in our village for a while as I was knackered and was hobbling around! It took me I think until she was about 3 weeks old before I took her out in the car on my own and then I was quite scared incase I crashed!!

I think you should do things at your own pace, you need to recover physically and adjust to a new life with bab. What I would say though is stuff the housework - make the most of summer weather and go on a short walk if you can!!!

 

[happy-chick]

Do things at your own pace hun, if you dont feel ready to go out in the car yet what about a walk to the shop or even just around the block so that you both get some fresh air? x

 

[Redshoes]

Do whatever makes you comfortable, your HV is wrong, you shouldn't be doing anything but what makes you and your baby comfortable, enjoy her, enjoy your naps!!! They are so important, and forget the housework where possible too

I would say if anything just go sit in the garden with her for a little while, or have a walk with her in the pram/sling, people will smile at you, the sun may be shining, and it will make you feel great If you want and can, get friends to visit you for that adult time, don't trouble yourself, your a new Mummy and should be being spoilt already

Don't ever feel you should be doing anything but what you feel is best for baby and you, despite what ANYONE says, she's only been here 12days, you have forever to go out, very, very best wishes

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

Blimming HVs - some of them are so irritating, and ask two the same question and they'll give you different answers!!! Take no notice - everyone else has said, take things at your own pace and only do the things that you're comfortable with. I didn't get out for weeks with Daisy (my 1st) and it was a struggle even to get dressed for the first few weeks. It's such a big change to your life but you'll get there in your own time.

 

[drea b]

what the others have said.

I put so much pressure on myself to get out and about when she was tiny that I ended up in tears on several occasions when things didn't go as planned (ie didn't get through the door before she was screaming to be fed )

 

[bhe101]

Ive only been out once by myself.
My HV was saying yesterday I should be getting out more but I ended up snapping at her that its a struggle with two kids and quite frankly I cant be arsed!!

 

[Hazel]

DH is at work today so first day on my own so I've gone out by myself for the first time today and feel so much better and more confident for it. I didn't really want to go out but my neighbours were outside talking and I'm desperate to show her to anyone that shows a slight interest . I only walked around the block for 10 minutes in the sunshine but it felt great especially as I've been immobile in the last 3 weeks of pregnancy. We are all going to the supermarket tomorrow for the first time.

 

[Jade&Evie]

Do things at your own pace.

When Evie was 8 days old I wanted some milk so put her in the pram went out; got to the corner of the road and came back because I was too scared to cross the road with her!
The first few times I took her out alone I cried when I got home because I was so shattered!

It gets easier xxxx

 

[ASD123456]

I still find it much much easier to go out when OH/ a friend/ MIL is around, it just seem like the task is less daunting. I live just off a busy high street (we've a Tescos and a Guns and Tackle shop ) which is handy because I can dash home within minutes if need be. I've only braved anything further a few times, partly because I don't drive so it's a massive mission and partly because I am sh**ting myself about it.

It take so much planning, esp with regards to feeds, there has to be somewhere to feed LO comfortably, somewhere to change a nappy etc

Go at your own pace, 12 days is not long at all and HV shouldn't be pressuring you like that, some of these HV really are clueless!

Alex xxx

 

[aileendragonfly]

Sorry your feeling like this. With my first I hated going out as everything was such a palava.. Eventually I made it to a mums and toddlers group after 3 months and it really helped with my confidence. I had to force myself to go and on the first day we all sat around at the end and sang songs....I hated it..but I kept going. I started really enjoying it and met some fantastic friends there. Don't rush if your not up to it, but to be honest, going out into the real world keeps you sane. Go for small walks to get some fresh air and build up to longer journeys. I found that everyone else felt the same as me and that made me feel better. Good luck

 

[sparky]

update!!! well a couple of days after i wrote this i went out...and have been out every day since, just for a walk, out visiting friends, shopping etc. Once i got over the inital fear and sussed feeding her on the go theres been no stopping me (even if half the motivation is to show off my beautiful daughter), its given me so much confidence now and i dont feel dependant on DH anymore to get out of the house.

 

[DaisyRose]

Hiya,

Great to hear this, and I agree, it's great when your baby gets loads of admiring looks - I'm loving that bit at the moment too.

 

[aileendragonfly]

Good for you, well done. I hope your feeling better, you cartainly sound more positive. Have fun showing off your little angel.

 

[BabyMagic]

Well done

I preferred taking LO out in a sling in the early days (she hated her pram and cried her eyes out).