kitten2014
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Hi guys, our lil miss will be 1 year old 15th April next year which is a Friday and we have always planned to do something on the Saturday...unfortunately my dads 60th is 11th and they are away all week so have chosen the same Saturday to have their celebration....well long story short we've had a bit of a bust up about it with the eventual offer from my dad to move his celebration to the Sunday (not another wknd as we had hoped!) this has made things tricky as we have family coming down from the top of Scotland and realise that they won't have the same kind of party on a Sunday with traveling back the same day so no drinking etc...
my dad has therefore pushed us into an awkward compromise whereby we either move ours to the Sunday (kids parties tend to be shorter and during the daytime) so that family can spend time Saturday night with my dad and could be invited to our lil miss' party...or we visit my dad before his 'do' on the Saturday giving family the option of arriving early to see our lil miss and we then go on to do our own party in the afternoon making it a hectic day for all of us but keeping both on the same day...Its so tricky as my dad has all along joked about a joint celebration which we said we'd never do as want our lil miss to understand her bday is a completely separate unique day...you may say well its the first she wont remember but we setting a precedent here for future years hence the reason for putting the point across, standing our ground and inevitably having a good open heart to heart with my dad which was a long time in coming...I am pleased this was a positive result and not a major rift (like I had with my mum years ago - long story...they are divorced and remarried...makes things complicated!) and the principle of dad offering to move his party if more important than the actual doing but if we continue on having ours on the Saturday and they have theirs on the Sunday, we will feel guilty he isnt getting the party he wanted...arghh how to solve this one...I will be discussing it again with Dad on Monday, at which point he has said that the one condition he has is if they move their party we must agree to come...sigh...
sorry for the life story and rant but hard to keep this succinct...please tell me someone out there has had something similar happen to them...or had a unique perspective and/or had kids with remarried grandparents in the mix....
my dad has therefore pushed us into an awkward compromise whereby we either move ours to the Sunday (kids parties tend to be shorter and during the daytime) so that family can spend time Saturday night with my dad and could be invited to our lil miss' party...or we visit my dad before his 'do' on the Saturday giving family the option of arriving early to see our lil miss and we then go on to do our own party in the afternoon making it a hectic day for all of us but keeping both on the same day...Its so tricky as my dad has all along joked about a joint celebration which we said we'd never do as want our lil miss to understand her bday is a completely separate unique day...you may say well its the first she wont remember but we setting a precedent here for future years hence the reason for putting the point across, standing our ground and inevitably having a good open heart to heart with my dad which was a long time in coming...I am pleased this was a positive result and not a major rift (like I had with my mum years ago - long story...they are divorced and remarried...makes things complicated!) and the principle of dad offering to move his party if more important than the actual doing but if we continue on having ours on the Saturday and they have theirs on the Sunday, we will feel guilty he isnt getting the party he wanted...arghh how to solve this one...I will be discussing it again with Dad on Monday, at which point he has said that the one condition he has is if they move their party we must agree to come...sigh...
sorry for the life story and rant but hard to keep this succinct...please tell me someone out there has had something similar happen to them...or had a unique perspective and/or had kids with remarried grandparents in the mix....