Finding out sex of baby - Yes or no???

[lisa1985]

I need help! It is my 20 week scan tomorrow, I am so impatient and think I want to know what we are having, but my OH really doesn't want to as said it will ruin the moment/surprise at birth etc.

What are your views? x

 

[Colleen1988]

Me and my oh didn't find out and now that labour is only a few days away im so glad we didnt because I can't wait for that moment that I push the baby out and my oh can tell me if its a boy or girl... To us it didn't matter what the sex was, it's our first baby and as long as it's healthy that's all that matters to us! everyone is different and people find out for different reasons so it's really up to you xxx

 

[Bunnykins]

I found out with my first and was glad I did. I was able to bond with him before birth and it made the whole thing seem real! I was able to buy everything I needed in the 'right colour' so many things are annoyingly only in pink or blue!! So the pregnancy was easier but the birth was a bit meh as we knew who he was so there was no anticipation. Obviously was dying to meet him but it felt a bit of a foregone conclusion if you know what I mean!!!

This pregnancy we've gone with the surprise option, it's been hard alot harder than finding out, picking names, buying stuff, bonding it's all been harder and for a while the baby just didn't feel real, however I'm loving the wait and the surprise at the end will be lovely as we have no idea who we are going to meet!!!!

So what I'm trying to say is both ways have their pros and cons and only you will know what is the right one for you and your partner, but either way you are getting a lovely amazing babba nonetheless xxx

 

[Natalie_reid]

We haven't found out. I get induced on monday so come tuesday we will know. Glad we never has kept it exciting xx

 

[Bunnykins]

Also just to add you might not have a choice! Babies can notoriously spread or cross their legs at the wrong moment in a scan!!!

 

[xjdx]

I also don't know the sex either. I was due yesterday, it makes it more fun xx

 

[MummyBee]

I didnt find out with my first and it gave me that real urge at the end to push as i was dying to know what sex he was! It was definately an amazing surprise. 2nd time round we found out. I wanted to be organised this time. So i was able to get rid of all my blue stuff to make room. Also glad we did bevause like i said i was able to make room and get organised. Xx

 

[Laurajcole]

I didn't find out first time and it was so much fun and so special. We have found out this time and I regret it so so much.

 

[purplecandy]

I wasn't bothered about finding out but the other half wanted to and I'm glad We've found out cos I feel like I've been able to bond and pick names and buy things specifically for him rather than generic. I like saying he and him rather than it/they/etc and so can't wait to see his little face! It's a completely personal choice x

 

[Gillyboos]

We didn't find out with my son and when I went overdue I think the surprise kept me going a bit. It was lovely having hubby tell me what we had. This time we found out and it has been no less lovely, I am however glad I've experienced both ways. x

 

[dolly26]

We found out after saying we wanted a surprise and I am so glad we did cause it's meant me and her daddy could bond with her. I am currently being induced and it's still exciting trying guess what she looks like and whether she has hair etc xx

 

[Mummybexee]

Best surprise EVER not finding out untill birth!

My son I was team yellow

Found out this time around for ease

Defiantley recommend a surprise birth ! Overwhelming to be fair

 

[Louise2013]

We found out both times as for us, we didn't really 'get' the 'surprise' thing; it's either a boy or a girl! For us that's not enoigh options to be a 'surprise' either way, but I totally understand that others don't want to know and feel differently and it must be lovely to have that 'It's a XXX!' moment if it's what you want.

I think if your OH really doesn't want to know, I'd be inclined to honour that as a) you'll find out eventually anyway on d-day and b) you can 'bank' that goodwill for when you need a favour!

Ps. Although we found out we have never told anyone either time. They all think it's a surprise which has been fun having 'our little secret'

 

[H16]

I really wanted to find out what my daughter was but OH was adamant he wanted a surprise and it would ruin things to know so I agreed to keep it a surprise and was really pleased that I did as it made it so exciting and OH said it felt like Christmas.

Second time around we found out at 20 week scan we are having a boy. It just made more sense to find out second time round as we knew if we could reuse any of daughters clothes etc that way and budget better throughout pregnancy so we could afford everything we needed for little man.

Plus it means we got to go through pregnancy in both scenarios which I think is really nice

 

[lisa1985]

Aww thanks so much every one for the response!! I think I am NOT going to find out baby is due boxing day so will be an extra special christmas present for us. x

 

[Bunny432]

We found our babe and I've loved knowing I'm having a little girl buy everyone's different and do what's right for you xxx

 

[Rainbow1234]

I found out too and have loved knowing. Ive never really got the 'surprise' thing either. For me you still get the surprise but you just get it at 20 weeks instead of birth and seeing her face and cuddling her is enough to keep me going in labour but as everyone has said each to their own, do what's right for you and OH xx

 

[Bexybun]

Ooh its a tough one, its real personal preference.
With the first I found out, was glad I did as I was desperate for a girl and I felt it made me bond with her even more. With second we didn't find out, and it did add an element of excitement I must admit. Although I was sure she was a boy, so it took a little time to get over the shock! And with this one we felt we had to find out, to prepare ourselves either way as we already have two girls. As she has turned out to be a third girl, I'm glad we did, because although I was initially a little disappointed I'm now really happy with the idea, so I think I needed to know ahead of time to come to terms with it.

Hope that made sense lol.

 

[violet13]

We didn't want to find out either and as it got closer I couldn't not know it just drove me crazy and we couldn't find many neutral clothes and baby sets that didn't look one or the other so we talked and I said to my hubby I just really need to know who my baby is and in the end we got an almighty shock when he kinda flashed us on screen haha xxx

 

[ShowingPromise]

We found out, there was never a question of waiting as we were both too impatient! I really love knowing so when he wriggles about in there I can visualise 'him' and can think about his future. But everyone is different and there is no right or wrong here! I don't think you'd regret it either way.