i work freelance and today i met up with a friend of mine, we are *thinking about* working on a project together. she know i am pregnant and she said this really weird thing to me basically expressing her anxiety about what would happen when i have the baby and how would it affect our work etc etc. she started talking about 'managing' it and how hard it would be for her as well as me. is it an over-reaction to feel angry? NB project is at the moment theoretical, not definite, so could take at least a year to even set in motion. i just feel like, i'm so out on my own being freelance, i'm so SCARED of what will happen to my work, and anxious about money and how i will cope, and about losing jobs because of it, it just felt so shocking to me that 1. a friend and 2. a female colleague would be the person to essentially express that sort of "once you've had a baby you won't be able to do your job as well" feeling. to my face. i just didnt know what to say other than - you are talking about this TOO SOON. i mean, im only just starting to get my head around the idea of a baby, i haven't worked out where to live, what to do, and i am NOT legally obliged to tell work people yet right? the pregnancy might fail, i can't deal with that sort of problem right now, and i would kind of expect it from someone else but i'm so shocked and betrayed that this person - who only knows because she meant to be a FRIEND - has said this. it's made all my fears about work double! if even my friends think i will become rubbish then everyone else wil think this too, and all my hard work will just fall in the gutter what should i say ??? i dont even know if i want to work on the project now, it feels like more hassle than it worth. i kind of get where she is coming from, i mean of course she is going to *think* about the impact on her, i just cant believe she started talking about it like she did, as though it was ok to just start implying that pregnancy might ruin our work together. that's how i felt. and isn't that NOT OK anymore????