Feel awful - handled this all wrong

[Mama 2 Be]

Hi girls

In a bit of a quandry. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend spilt up recently after a good few years together, they have a LO. The girlfriend is a darling and I love her to pieces and go out socialising as friends too. Before I got married in Sept she was talking about having another baby and I told her to wait a month or two so we could have one at the same time . (That's not the problem by the way). They spilt up shortly after that conversation but I don't believe my friend is happy about it.

Anyhoo, (background info out of the way) last night we told OH's family of the news. Had a quick discussion with other SIL and we agreed I should ring BIL's ex today before she heard through the grapevine. Well, I work and being as they don't know, I can't make the call until lunch . . you know where this is going. MIL told her about 7am this morning. I know its because she's excited but I feel terrible. I just text my friend to say sorry and that I'd call her later when I get out of work but haven't heard anything. I just hope she's ok - its a hard time for her at the moment and I don't want her to feel left out.

Thanks for listening girls I just don't know how to make the situation any better. I'll ring her when I can and see what she says.

 

[larisa]

let her no tht even tho shes not wiv ur brother in law
n e more shes still like a sister/friend to you and always will tell her u was going to ring her wen u had time..im sure she will understand let us no how it went xx

 

[Snuggle]

I'm sure she will understand when you explain hun

 

[Tasha20]

If shes the friend you think she is, she wil understand when you explain

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Still nothing but now I'm a bit miffed that she hasn't congratulated us?!?!?

I had to tell my Mother-in-law first (to stop the reverse happening to her) and she was only told at 9pm last night so I can't really do much more than I have done.

Oh well. Thanks for letting me bend you ears.

 

[jsykes1975]

Hi,

My advice for what it's worth would be to ring her, don't let it escalate into something bigger than it is.

She is obviously upset by the split, the feeling that there might not be another baby for her etc etc.

And the misunderstanding has her feeling she's no longer in the loop.

I remained the best of friends with my ex-husband's brother and his wife after we split, it can be done.

I'm sure she'll appreciate the call and that it mattered enough to you to pursue it.

Best wishes in your pregnancy

Julie xxx

Emma Mary 18 wk miscarriage 02.05.08 Always Missed

 

[Becc]

I would agree that it would probably be best to phone her rather than leave it at a text. Texts can easily be misconstrued (sp?) and she would probably appreciate the chat if she's feeling down?

On a side note... why can't mums/MiLs keep things quiet??? I asked my mum not to say anythng to anybody til we've been for the scan and she's told all my aunties and uncles!!!!!!

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Hi girls, I had no intention of not ringing her I just couldn't ring her whilst I was at work. I called her the moment I left work yesturday. She said she was busy and would call me back but I haven't heard anymore. She was quite cheerful so I'll just put the not returned call to being busy.

Still, no point obsessing about it I haven't done anything wrong. All I did was tell hubby's Mum, Dad and brothers before a friend which is fair enough it is there grandchild afterall .

Was obviously just having another emotional day yesturday!

MIL's - I know what you mean that's why we've only just told her! She's already patting my tummy which I'm going to have to say something about if it carries on (especially because it's just 'maternal' fat at the moment not even a bump! ) - just because I'm pregnant does my tummy then become public property?

 

[Kittykins]

Your friend was probably still at work when you called her and couldn't chat. If that was me, I'd wait till a Friday eve or Sat morning to call back and chat properly... so don't worry. Besides, she was probably knackered from being woken up by your MIL at 7am - I'm sure she will totally understand why you didn't call at that time!

Oh, and this is what you need to put on your Christmas wishlist:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Touch-Bump-Slog ... B000Y15U64

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Your friend was probably still at work when you called her and couldn't chat.

Oh, and this is what you need to put on your Christmas wishlist:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Touch-Bump-Slog ... B000Y15U64

Nah, she was at home, but its not a problem, we'll sort it out.

LOVE the t-shirt! Will defo get one of those - you know - when I actually get a bump!