So I've been searching the internet looking for posts of similar issues but each time I look I'm finding something completely off topic or female partners feeling rejected, so I thought I'd come here and see what happens.
I'm a 21 year old accountant technician and a farther to be, which for me is extremely exciting with a bit of scary thrown in to. My partner 12 weeks along is 21 and a smart girl, holds a degree and works part time a couple days a week at a dog kennels currently. We don't live together although we have been given the chance too for cheap from a friend to live in a 2 bedroom house for half the price rent in a lovely village, but she didn't want to because she wants it to be new for both of us and I've lived there previously. I had no issues with this I could see where she was coming from so we continued to see each other when and where we could around me working at first it was fine she'd come round after work and I finish pretty late considering I work 30hrs a week and am in full times studies 22hrs a week, but as times gone on and as I expected she became more tired and wanted to stay less now I seen that as normal to, I knew she was going to be more tired and probably not want to travel round as much(I should probably point out we live a 10 minute drive from each other) so I thought I'd see her on my two days off a week which happened for a while but now she doesn't stay at all, I'm told it's because "I don't like staying at yours at the moment" this kind of made me feel like shit, feeling unsure about what it meant considering she preferred to be her before.
I'm finding it difficult to deal with what is now seeming to me like a lack of intimacy, we don't have sex anymore which was something I could see coming but considering the time I plan to be with her 10 months seems like a short time in comparison so I just suck it up and try to be understanding there although sometimes I find it hard to not want to be all over her I just can't help being so attracted to her, but it's not just in a sexual sense but physically I can't touch her unless it's to rub her back and even then I feel like i'm unappreciated when she's satisfied I just get snapped at with "get off me now that's enough" we haven't kissed in ages and I don't mean an actual kiss but a peck on the lips every time I try she turns her head, emotionally I feel unattached like she's completely shutting me out now I barely see her If I ring her she doesn't seem to interested to chat it got to the point where texting her is the only way we could converse now I barely get a reply that.
It's all starting to make me feel like I'm having a baby with a stranger, the girl I love just doesn't seem to want anything to do with me and in return I'm feeling less involved with the pregnancy and more rejected, I do try extremely hard to be understanding and patient for the most part I'm very laid back guy I don't get angry I do my best not to bring added stress to her I'm even take care with the people I talk to. but this is hard I at least thought I'd have been able to cuddle her without it feeling like I have a weekly rationed cuddle allowance. I'm so happy she's the one I'm starting a family with but I feel so shut out it's beginning to get me down a bit. I guess I just want to know if this is normal or at least normal for a pregnancy, I know they are all different but I would hope someone can reassure me.
I'm a 21 year old accountant technician and a farther to be, which for me is extremely exciting with a bit of scary thrown in to. My partner 12 weeks along is 21 and a smart girl, holds a degree and works part time a couple days a week at a dog kennels currently. We don't live together although we have been given the chance too for cheap from a friend to live in a 2 bedroom house for half the price rent in a lovely village, but she didn't want to because she wants it to be new for both of us and I've lived there previously. I had no issues with this I could see where she was coming from so we continued to see each other when and where we could around me working at first it was fine she'd come round after work and I finish pretty late considering I work 30hrs a week and am in full times studies 22hrs a week, but as times gone on and as I expected she became more tired and wanted to stay less now I seen that as normal to, I knew she was going to be more tired and probably not want to travel round as much(I should probably point out we live a 10 minute drive from each other) so I thought I'd see her on my two days off a week which happened for a while but now she doesn't stay at all, I'm told it's because "I don't like staying at yours at the moment" this kind of made me feel like shit, feeling unsure about what it meant considering she preferred to be her before.
I'm finding it difficult to deal with what is now seeming to me like a lack of intimacy, we don't have sex anymore which was something I could see coming but considering the time I plan to be with her 10 months seems like a short time in comparison so I just suck it up and try to be understanding there although sometimes I find it hard to not want to be all over her I just can't help being so attracted to her, but it's not just in a sexual sense but physically I can't touch her unless it's to rub her back and even then I feel like i'm unappreciated when she's satisfied I just get snapped at with "get off me now that's enough" we haven't kissed in ages and I don't mean an actual kiss but a peck on the lips every time I try she turns her head, emotionally I feel unattached like she's completely shutting me out now I barely see her If I ring her she doesn't seem to interested to chat it got to the point where texting her is the only way we could converse now I barely get a reply that.
It's all starting to make me feel like I'm having a baby with a stranger, the girl I love just doesn't seem to want anything to do with me and in return I'm feeling less involved with the pregnancy and more rejected, I do try extremely hard to be understanding and patient for the most part I'm very laid back guy I don't get angry I do my best not to bring added stress to her I'm even take care with the people I talk to. but this is hard I at least thought I'd have been able to cuddle her without it feeling like I have a weekly rationed cuddle allowance. I'm so happy she's the one I'm starting a family with but I feel so shut out it's beginning to get me down a bit. I guess I just want to know if this is normal or at least normal for a pregnancy, I know they are all different but I would hope someone can reassure me.
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