feeling alone *a bit long sorry*

[sam96031]

I've been feeling like this for a while now and its just all getting on top of me atm. My DH works all the time just so that we can ends meet so i don't get to see him much, I've got no friends at all anymore and even on the forum i don't belong anymore. None of my family ever make the effort to come see us even though we have moved house so that we are closer to them and live only 2mins from Rob's parents and 30 mins from my family. It's always me that has to make the effort to go see people or phone them despite being nearly 30 weeks pregnant and having another LO to think of. No body seems to understand that I am terrified atm as Emma was born at 30 weeks, they just keep saying that I'm being paranoid and that it wont happen this time.
None of my so called friends have been to see me despite living here since the start of June its always me that has to contact them via text etc. I could really do with someone to come spend some time with not only for emotional purposes but also this pregnancy is making me really dizzy and i have no one to check that I'm ok and that Emma is ok, it's like no one cares.
Sorry if it all sounds a bit like I'm feeling sorry for myself but I suppose I am and I've kept it quiet for so long that I just needed to get it out

 

[debecca]

Sorry you're feeling out of it, those pregnancy hormones of doom have a lot to answer for. I totally understand your 30 week paranoia, I'd be like that too in your shoes and I was bad enough myself at the 22 week mark as my mum lost her first 2 girls at 22 weeks - and that wasn't even me

Would you like me to write you another letter hun if you haven't had time to reply to mine? STICKERS will cheer you up I'm sure of it

 

[LisaJ1986]

First of all

Of course you belong here!!! Don't ever think that you don't. I only have the one baby so i don't know what it's like to have another to think of while pregnant. But i was so lonely while carrying. My OH worked nights so slept in the day. Which means i rarely saw him too. My friend deserted me so i had no on to call, text or visit. Don't bother with your 'friends'. It's so hard trying to keep up with them at this stage. They should try and take the pressure off you a bit. Especially with this added pressure of risk of premmie. They really should understand that. My sister had a premmie at 28 weeks and has a 90% chance of it happening again, so i can imagine your worry.
And my family also never visit. They just don't see me often as i have to go to them. It's not gonna be easy sorting a LO out and making an effort yourself.

Rest now, you need it. Don't do too much. If i lived closer i'd come sort you out! Lol

 

[sam96031]

thank you both for your replies debecca i've just written your reply today will try and get it posted tomorrow

 

[helsekia]

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

My Oh works away so i empithse with you on this hun
HUGE HUGS about feeling lonely and scared about your pregnancy
Maybe ask one of your friends to come round to yours mayber they feelthey shouldnt bother you when your so far on giving you time to rest ????? they may not relise how much thes theying away has upset you

 

[sam96031]

My Oh works away so i empithse with you on this hun
HUGE HUGS about feeling lonely and scared about your pregnancy
Maybe ask one of your friends to come round to yours mayber they feelthey shouldnt bother you when your so far on giving you time to rest ????? they may not relise how much thes theying away has upset you

ive asked and i even arranged a sunday dinner for one and she turned round the night before and said she couldnt come. thing is one of our other friends is pregnant and due mid october and she gets loads of visits of the so called friend and even invites to go clubbing.

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Oh hun im sorry its times like these you relise who your real mates are
ive not got any from before pregnancy so im going out there to make new ones maybe try local mother toddler groups when you have had the baby? the one i go to is from Bump to babes so mothers still preggers cna goalong and get to know the mums too
i also joined a baby music class and posted on netmums and this has helped me meet new people gets me out the house .Get to chat to other mums going through the same as you and its so lovely to have another adult to talk to
I joined netmums when i was still preggers so you can still get out there and meet new people even with a bump

 

[mamichuli]

I am sorry to say that i am a bit far away, or I would come to see ya, cheer up hun. I dont know a lot about these things, but i understand there are groups for preg mums. Maybe there is something in your area you could join?

Hope you feel better soon!

Lisa

 

[sam96031]

thankyou there are no groups for pregnant women as i live in rural wales, but thanks anyways

 

[mamichuli]

Weell, I'll tell ya something, there are no groups for preg mums here...this is rural spain...so I joined the pf forum. It was and is GREAT!

Lisa

 

[sam96031]

 

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[Morganuk]

Awwwwwww hun

I thnk you need to forgetll about your so called friends and concentrate on your future after baby is born.
Do you not drive?
You sound very icesolated which I do not think is helping you.
Are you happy where you live?
Have you ever thought of moving to a town or a least closer.
Yes its an upheavel but worth it so you are happy

I am going somewhere here I have no family or friends so am looking at ways to keep me ocpied and make new friends but I am in a town so am going to try mother and baby groups.
Mabe its worth seeing exactly where they are.
Would they not be worth the trip to meet new people?
On the othe hand you need to take it easy due to poss risk of early labor (think about groups after maybe?)
I just think you are not in a great position being stuck in the middle of nowhere so your tod as your hub is away most of the time.
I really hope you feel better soon hunxxxxx

 

[sam96031]

thank you weve just moved 4 months ago to be closer to friends and family but noone has made the effort and its always me that has to get in the car and go and see them, i think thats why im more upset as we have made the big change in our lives to be closer to them and they are just not bothered

 

[Morganuk]

Hun I hope you make some new friends soon
Maybe you could try and tell them how you are feeling?

Let us no how you get on hun

 

[Mik]

HI Hun, I am an army wife so often have an awol hubby and have no control over where we live and am not often close to friends and family and usually find when I have finally found some proper friends we up and move again (hmm and the winner for the most and's in one sentence is.... ) I am gonna pm you my addy and if you wanna penpal or phone buddy please feel free to contact me it is horrid when you have kids to run after and noone to talk to while preg

 

[Aida]

I know how you feel Sam as I'm going through the same thing at the moment - must be a pregnancy bug as I've been feeling really lonely lately . Here are some

You belong to this forum like everyone else (sorry if it's a newbie saying this), but I don't see why you should feel this way hun. I'm sure you have a lot to offer you sound like a really warm person. If your friends do not appreciate you enough, it's their loss, but I would give your friend the benefit of the doubt just this time, maybe she really had a valid reason not to come over to your house. As for your family, I would talk to them and tell them how I feel. Maybe they do not realise just how much you need them at the moment and they would only be happy to be around if they knew. Good luck and take care xxxx

 

[sam96031]

thankyou girls maybe we should join a lonely parents club lol well if anyone is feeling lonely and wants a chat feel free to pm me for a chat

 

[jennifer1981]