Leave Me Alone!! Grr

[dannii87]

The title says it all really!

Why is it that family members who haven't given a sh*t about you for YEARS suddenly want a piece of you when you're pregnant?!

My whole Dad's side of the family are SO opinionated that if you disagree with them they won't speak to you for years. They all think I'm a disgrace for deciding to live with my Mum when my parents divorced and haven't ever bothered with me since. They're all so shallow and pathetic that they think they can just randomly contact you out of the blue to "see how you are" when they actually couldn't give a crap!

They all plan family meals that include my younger brothers, my dad etc and I am never invited. It doesn't bother me though because I wouldn't want to go anyway as they're all false and heartless and as far as I'm concerned, if they're not bothered with me and I'm not bothered with them - leave it at that! Don't come crawling out of the woodwork when a new "Priestman" member is on its way

My step Mum is the worst though, not sure if you saw my other thread but she is vile and nasty. Suddenly, she called me the other day to "see how I am" - This is ALL down to the fact that she doesn't want to be left out when Evie is born.

I want them all to know that although they treat each other like this and it's all brushed under the carpet, I will not stand for it I'm not getting into the bitchy arguments they all have between themselves and the slagging off only to discover the next week you have been subject to a b*tching sesh

I don't want my daughter involved in that side of the family and they're so overpowering that they will find a way to get their claws in

How do I say (without giving my Dad opportunity to HATE me for it), that I can't be doing with their childish "she said, he said" and falling out with members of the family etc etc?

Sorry for the rant. I genuinely don't love any of them (apart from my Dad) so I know for a fact I could easily wipe my hands of them! Plus they live in a different town completely so I wouldn't have to "bump" into any of them.

x

 

[lfc_sarah]

 

[Snuggle]

If they dont really bother with you then the next time one of them phones tell them exactly how you feel and tell them to bugger off

 

[CoreysMummy]

What Snuggle said...!!!

I know you dont want to fall out with your Dad, but, that shouldnt happen so long as he is strong enough to beable to have a relationship with you, even though the rest of his familly are going to be battering him for it no doubt. Your situations seems stressfull, not what you need when pregnant!!

 

[LisaJ1986]

Haha. Sounds just like my family! I was the one blanked coz i didn't have a kid! No one EVER spoke to me, even when i was with my sisters, they'd come over chatting away yet not a word to me!
Then i got pregnant my Auntie started texting me! I wasn't happy that my dad gave her my number anyway. The "Just checking you're ok" "not long to go now" and all that crap!
I got a text again the other day just saying " Please don't forget if you ever need a babysitter then i'll be more that happy to do do it!" And she is almost 40 and typing in text talk! I could barely understand it and i hate text talk! Lol
Now my younger sister uses her all the time and she complains! She sent the same text to my older sister about her youngest, who is younger than mine! Yet she won't offer with the older two as they're too old now!!!
And to be honest with you i have lots more people i'd ask before her! I won't even leave her yet!
It's peed me right off really as i was a nobody 12 months ago! Now they have a reason to talk to me!
I just ignored the texts! She tried calling me once but i couldn't be arsed to answer!
I'd just ignore them. Don't answer your mobile if they call. They might soon get the idea. Although my Auntie hasn't yet

 

[dannii87]

Yeah you're all right! It's just that my Auntie keeps trying to add me on Facebook and trying to PM me & I keep ignoring her. It's stuff like "come down to see us" - I'm 35 weeks pregnant, it's about a 40 minute drive, I don't have anything to say to her, she's snubbed me for sooo long - Why would I WANT to?! And my step Mum! Does she think that by being nice for the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy that I'll want her at the hospital when I have Evie?! Erm... NO!!

I guess only time will give them the hint that I'm not going to get into the "popping round for tea" etc because I genuinely don't want all the hassle in my life and that's all they can offer!

They seem to think that because I'm pregnant AND single, they can all fill the "Father" role - but it ain't 'appenin !!

You're family sound EXACTLY the same as mine Lisa!! They seem to have all of a sudden remembered I exist! x

 

[Penstraze]

Sounds like the whole of that side of the family are a nightmare, if they're anything like my family it will be very hard to not have anything to do with one of them without upsetting another i.e. the only person you don't want to fall out with, your dad. I no longer speak to my younger sister the final straw came when she kicked off after finding out I was pregnant (she'd just a few weeks before had an abortion her own choice) saying my baby would be ugly and fat like its Dad (he is neither) and other petty stuff she also sent messages threatening violence to my DH from her dodgy OH so I haven't spoken to her since, dispite keeping the messages on my phone as proof and my family knowing why I no longer have any more to do with her I still got alot of grief over it for awhile she is expected to be forgiven of everything which I think is why she is the way she is! It was difficult at first with my Mum etc but she has now accepted that I'm not going to have anything to do with her unless she changes her ways and she doesn't go on about it any more I expect with time it would be the same with your Dad!

 

[dannii87]

Oh my word Penstraze! What your sister said is shocking! I can't believe people can be so cruel.

Yeah you're right, I guess I'm better off just keeping my distance and hoping they get the hint. If it does come up as to why I don't visit and why I don't call (which it will) and despite the fact that no-one calls/visits me, I'll just say that being a single parent, I want things to be as stable as possible for little Evie and that it's going to take a long time for me to trust them again and that I need my own space etc.

They're insulting my intelligence though by actually believing that I'm going to fall for this cr*p when I KNOW they're just in it to be a part of Evie's life! They hate my Mum and can't handle the fact that she'll be number 2 in Evie's life (after her Mummy of course )

xx

 

[Penstraze]

I know I think its so petty and to a point am abit embarrased that we fell out over her saying something so rediculously childish but this is my baby who I love already even then when I was just 10 weeks pregnant when she said it,it was like you can say what you like about me but your not insulting my baby! My sister has been quite messed up in drugs and all sorts of other stuff the last few years and this was the absolute last straw I'm not letting my baby be part of any upset from her, I think becoming a Mum helps us to put our foot down what we might put up with ourselves we wont put up with for our little ones which is such a good thing I think stick to your guns hun your doing whats right for you and Evie, Im expecting my sister to try and creep her way back in when baby comes but theres no chance!