Feel so betrayed

[TINKS82]

I really need to vent so apologies in advance. I feel so betrayed, my friend (ha if u can call her that) at work I have confinded in betrayed my trust today. I have been telling her. About trying to concieve, going for test & having to be referred and thought I could trust her, how wrong was I!!!! She knows I didn't want anyone knowing but heard her on the phone today to someone we use to work with today (who is the BIGIST gossip going) she obviously asked how I was getting on and I heard my friend say "if I say being referred, ull know what I mean" I was soooo angry but bit my Tongue and rose above it. I thought I wouldn't say anything until she asks how I got on at dr's or referral and I will say that I am telling noone anything anymore as I know that other people know too much already. I can't believe she has told others when it is such a personal thing! Gggrrrrrr so mad with her. Sorry ladies just had to vent, hope I am not over reacting. hubby would go mad if he knew. Xx

 

[BabyBrain]

Oh hun, you told her in confidence and you have every right to be angry and upset. Unfortunately we only ever learn the hard way but she's the one that will miss out in the end believe me.
Love to you sweetheart and I am so sorry she has betrayed you like this xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[LouiseB]

That's awful Tinks, it's really horrible of her to have broke your trust like that.

You should definitely not tell her anything more, but i also think that you should let her know what you overheard and how upset you are because you thought she understood how difficult you are finding it and thought she would be a better friend.

She deserves a dose of guilt.

Try not to be mad at her though - keeping secrets is not part of human nature. You couldn't keep it to yourself, she couldn't keep it to herself.

I've never kept a secret. I always have to tell one person and i just have to try and pick someone who will never actually be involved in the situation themself... i always tell my husband. Always.

I hope you aren't too distressed

 

[TINKS82]

Makes me feel bad to as haven't even told my mum coz don't want any fuss or pressure, so will have to just keep every thing to myself so that nothing leaks to my mum as that would be auful. Certainly find out ur true friends at times like this. Thanks babybrain xx

 

[Drummers_wife]

tinks that's awful!! She deserves a slap x

I would calmly tell her you thought she had more respect for you than to use you as gossip and this has really affected the way you will trust her as a "friend" in future x

 

[Blondie Em]

Aw Tinks that is awful, it's not even as though its a insignificant subject either. I would feel exactly the same as you, we haven't told many people either which is difficult in itself with all the secrecy, without someone sat gossiping about it for everyone to hear. It could have been another colleague who had overheard and not you!!

Having said that though I have to say that I never totally appreciated just what was involved with IVF until I went through it myself and on reflection, am a little bit embarrassed about the apathetic attitude I may have had towards friends who have told me that they were going through IVF in the past, due to ignorance.

Your colleague wants to be thankful that you were not further down the road and having the injections........you may have taken her head of her shoulders without a second thought!

Keep your chin up at least you found out at this stage she couldn't be trusted rather than further down the line. The cow!

xxxxx

 

[Applecider]

Awh hun sometimes ull find people u can trust others u just cant! Hope u find someone u can confide in because its good to have someone u can talk to xx

 

[TINKS82]

Thanks girls, I will say something to her but when she's least expecting it. It's not nice at work at th mo as may be loosing our jobs and I am thinking of me as don't want to be stressed & worried about going to work whilst trying to concieve, I have to sit next to this girl u see. Nothing is more important than our little bean when it happens. She will get what she deserves & I certainly will not be uttering another word to her about my private life! I don't need her anyway as I have a very loyal friend who knows exactly what iam going through as has been there herself & had a little boy through ivf & then 4 years of trying for a 2nd with ivf she fell naturally with twin girls. She is my hope as miricles do happen Xx

 

[kirstymichelle]

Oh dear Tinks , honestly some people , if i have a secret with a friend or my OH i take it with me until the grave honestly people have told me things that could ruin their lives to be honest and some not even that close a friend i would just never betray x x

 

[laurat]

Thats awful Tinks! Just keep your head up and ignore her ignorance! You deserve better!

 

[Esperanza84]

That's just horrible of her!!! I totally understand that you're angry!!

xx

 

[Kay Kay]

Hey tinks, I do know how you feel, it's just shit when people take something personal that you have confided to them and they take that as a piece of gossip to pass on

I was at a hen night a few months ago and one of my friends, who I never told about us ttc, was quite drunk and shouted over the music 'WE ALL KNOW YOU'VE BEEN TRYING! BUT YOU NEVER TALK ABOUT IT!' she said it in front of other friends who all heard and it was so embarrasing. I reckon she guessed but I was hurt she shouted her mouth off about something so personal to me. Ttc really sucks sometimes, so many secrets and hidden feelings! xx

 

[DaisyPurple]

On no, so much for keeping things quiet, id let her know for sure, x