Feel like giving up ..... so down.

[mushy1]

Well im on cycle 12 now and finding it all emotionally draining............. just cant ever imagine me pregnant at all now. Dont know how others TTC for so long and stay sane !!!
I havent spoke to my mum for 6 months after a major bust up ...... not sure anything can be sorted there now..... things gone too far..

Dont know what to do for the best x

 

[MissJuly10]

Not really sure what to say hun, I do agree - I have nothing but admiration and respect for those who've persevered with TTC as it is so emotionally draining.

Perhaps you could give your mum a call and offer an olive branch? Get the ball rolling? Hope you manage to work things out with her, it might ease some of the emotional stress.

Hope you feel better soon hun. x x

 

[positivity :)]

not sure what to say either other than, life is too short and if you can sort it out you should, once people leave our lives there is no going back and you might have regrets forever!

i hope you get your bfp soon hun, sounds like you well deserve it xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Just read this hunny and wanted to send you massive

I really dont know what to say or advise hunny, but my fingers and toes are crossed for you to get your bfp soon x x


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[LouiseB]

Sorry you're feeling so crap Mushy

I think you should go and talk to your mum though. I mean, i don't know the ins and outs but she'll always love you and you'll always love her even if you don't feel that you like them very much, so you can always work things out as long as one of you is prepared to make the first move... and it doesn't matter who is right or wrong or whatever.

You clearly regret the situation or you wouldn't mention it.

Apologise for what you have said, even if provoked, and acknowledge she is entitled to her own opinion on things even if it seems unfair. Then at the very least you can relax - whether you manage to go back to being friends or if you just accept that you no longer have anything in common.

 

[Kezzamunster]

Hey hun
Sorry your feeling down but offering lots of hugs & hope things sort themselves out
xxx

 

[kizzibea]

Huge hun.

I can totally sympathise, I'm coming to the end of cycle 12 and I've decided to take the next one off, it doesn't mean that we won't be trying. We'll carry on BDing and stuff but I'm not going to chart or do OPKs or anything, just relax and see how it goes. A few months back, during the summer it was all getting to be a bit too much for me and we took a two month break from it then as well. I think it really does help.

I think you should try and talk to your mum as well. Added stress isn't going to help you and you might find that you're able to smooth things over. If not, at least you'll know that you've tried and you've put the ball in her court.

I was raised by my Dad for various reasons and just recently I've been trying to figure out how I could get back in contact with my mum and it's so hard. It's been so long that I just don't know anything about her, not even her name any more because she's remarried. Even if you can just get back on speaking terms with her I'm sure it would make you feel better about things. Perhaps you could just start by sending her a Christmas card suggesting that perhaps you could meet up to talk some time.

If you ever just want to talk, feel free to PM me.

 

[mushy1]

Thanks for your support ladies... it means alot.

Cant sort it out with my mum...... she has told me she hates me and to be honest I feel like she has lost the plot and I cant deal with her when she like this. She has always been mentally ill but i dont think i realised how bad.
Dreading christmas........ really thought that i would be spending christmas trying to make excuses up as to why im not drinking and hiding a little bump .... but cycle no 12 and still trying .... dnt think i will ever get pregnant xx

 

[Olive]

Hi Mushy,

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down hun. It is a tough ride ttc. It definitely has a lot more down days than up. Sending you lots of baby dust. Hope you get your christmas wish of a bfp.

I don't know what to say about your Mum, but I'm sure she doesn't hate you hun, it might have been her illness that resulted in her saying such a hurtful thing. My dad has been mentally ill. I know everyones circumstances are different and it's hard to comprehend unless you're in that persons shoes. Maybe a christmas card to say that you're thinking of her and are ready to speak again when she is better. You never know, she might contact you. Families are tough, but you know we're all hear for you. I wouldn't be surprised if more than a few of us addicts log on over christmas.

Sending you some hugs xx

 

[Nurse 26]

Hey mushy1

So sorry you are feeling like this! not been trying as long as you so don't know how you feel but just want to say, don't give up!!!!

This month plenty girls who have been trying longer have got their BFP so dont give up!

plenty of us here will suport you!!

hugs!!

nurse 26!!! x x x

 

[mushy1]

Thanks LauraAnne and Nurse 26!!

Deffo not giving up............... cant imagine never being a mum .... it hurts too much to even think about it............ going to bed now to get some practice in !!!!!!!!!

 

[Tracey M]

Now that's the spirit!!!



Hope you start to feel more positive soon. Come on, look at what Star Fish achieved!!

 

[Bead]

Hang in there Mushy, it will happen. I know how hard it is to keep positive after so many BFNs, but in the meantime you get to hang out with these lovely ladies in the ttc section!

I really hope you can work things out with your mum. Maybe she regrets what she said and is too scared to contact you first? But if the worst happens and you didn't at least try to make contact, how would you feel?

Be strong - sending you big hugs Xx

 

[Esperanza84]

Hang in there! I'm sure you will make it soon. On my 10th cycle and still no BFP But I try to think positive and try to stay busy! I bake, make candy and work, just to get my mind of all this TTC (even thou it's not easy).

Our turn will come I'm sure of it

 

[Applecider]

Hey mushy didnt want to read this without sending I think Kizzi's advice sounds good take a month off relax n enjoy xmas. Concentrate on something else, sorry im not much help xxx

 

[SunnyGirl]

Hang in there Mushy, it will happen. I know how hard it is to keep positive after so many BFNs, but in the meantime you get to hang out with these lovely ladies in the ttc section!

That really cheered me up as well

 

[Pickledonions]

I totally know how ur feeling I have been trying 14 months and dont know how much more I can take

 

[Applecider]

awwwh pickles look at starfish it does happen eventually plus theres lots out there to make it happen for you, both my friends have IVF babies x

 

[mushy1]

Well this just shows we all have to stick together and support eachother......................lots of christmas baby dust for us all xxxxxxxx

 

[MissJuly10]

Hope you're ok hun. No matter what, you're not alone. x x