~February & March Mummies and Babies~

[Drummers_wife]

Awake feeding - Quinn slept for 2.5hrs an has woke to feed an seems to be feeding well so fx his lil tum is feeling bit better with the colief xx 2nd dose give xx

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[Maddiie]

Oh my life Alfies got one on him. Been fed and now it's no matter what you do he cries. He will goes quiet for a couple of mins and be fine then just randonly start screaming again. And just keeps screaming. He will go on like this for hours on end. I've got a migraine, Paul's got him atm. It's like a whinge cry I think but I don't know for sure. I just feel so shit when he's like this. MIL offered to let us stay there and look after him for the night because I looked so exhausted, but then fil was finding any means to not have us stay also said no whilst mil said yes and was saying oh just come over tomorrow and go upstairs and sleep in the morning after you've taken Paul to work and the MIL will watch him. I don't like sleeping in the day as I wnt sleep at night now and then he was offering to come and take paul to work all sorts. Anything to not have us stay there. Made me feel awkward and horrible and really upset so we just went home, he has work tomorrow and was more concerned about his nights sleep. Even though mil said she'd stay in a different room and we would be there in another one of the bedrooms. I feel like such a failure needing help. I know everyone does have it at some point but im just so reluctant to because the only person who can help us is the one person who grinds on me so much... MIL. After we got back his dad text us saying you can stay if you want (clearly after mil had ripped his head off as she had a chance to have Alfie to herself which she's been after since day 1 and i won't entertain it at all) mixture of emotions now. I just can't cope with cry cry cry cry and i then feel bad because Paul's up with him and he has work tomorrow. Head is throbbing xx

 

[Maddiie]

Oh and they were pratting about feeding him so he didn't take as much as he should have and Paul was telling then and fil was sat there going oh he'll be fine! I feel like calling them with him screaming down the phone saying DOES IT SOUND LIKE HE IS FUCKING FINE TO YOU?!?!?!?!?!?!! How's about you try dealing with this! No because you fuck his feeding up and who has to deal with the aftermath... Me who's feeling sick from a migraine exhausted anyway at my wits end and their son who's working 7am-7pm tomorrow. Nice!

 

[nicky1987]

So I've only just managed to get her up for a feed and she screamed cos my boob was too full for her!

Chris is snoring which is pissing me off but I can't wake him up cos he has work! So bloody fed up - I am not gonna cope on my own at all

 

[babybee]

Oh Maddie that sounds so horrendous and awkward!!! And I know you know it but everyone needs help. In the past women used to have female relatives near them all the time to help out. For me, my mum is here pretty much everyday and lets me have some naps. I'd crack otherwise! When she had kids her mum did the same. It's so normal to need and want help at this stage.

However why on earth did the fil not want you there??? I'd have been really upset too. And the 'oh he'll be fine' comment winds me up sooo much - as though you're being too over cautious when in fact only you know your baby. I had that from my dad's cousin. She was holding Ea and she got the hiccups and I said 'that's because she's a bit cold, can you put this blanket on her?' And she said 'Don't be ridiculous it's just a bit of gas! What so they tell you these days?!' Dumbass, I think I know my baby.

Also I remember reading a Jane Green book once about a mil just like yours. It's a bit of light hearted chick lit but I can find the name if you like? Besides the point I know!

Xxx

 

[talulahgosh]

Nicky, if Eli goes a while without feeding my lactation consultant told me to express a few mls out to soften the breast and nipple otherwise it'slike them having to latch on to the side of a hard apple instead of a squidy, soft breast.

 

[Maddiie]

Because his nights sleep was more important. I don't really have anyone that I'd trust. My mum is riddled with depression, my sister has 2 kids of which one is so clingy she doesn't like seeing her mum feeding of holding another baby. My other sister lives n oz. My dad wouldn't be able to on his own. My nan is too old now. And that's it. Then it's just Paul's family and all of his lives down south apart from his brother and his Mrs who wouldn't cope with him screaming, and his mum and dad. I just feel like his family just don't realise I know him and what he likes and wants and they don't seem to understand that sometimes he just wants me and won't hand him to me even though Paul stood there saying he wants his mum! I don't have anyone uts just me. I have alot of friends but it's a bit different isn't it! That would be good if you could find the name please babybee its surprising how you can be in someone's company for so long but still feel so lonely. Being a mum is a long and lonely job sometimes x

 

[babybee]

I totally know what you mean about the trusting thing. I know I'm very lucky with my mum nearby as I wouldn't trust anyone else, not even my sister I don't think. And you're right a definite no to friends. So I admire you so much for doing this all yourself, you are so much stronger than I am. It would be amazing if we loved near each other wouldn't it?! Then just talking about all these annoyances over coffee would make it less stressful.

Has Alfie settled? Is he still holding your favourite cardigan to ransom? Elisabetta was feeding then did a giant poo whilst on my lap and then screamed the house down when I went to change her. Madam.

Oh and that book is called 'The Other Woman'.
Xxx

 

[babybee]

Talulah, it sounds like Eli is a very polite baby. If my nipples are too full, mine seems to violently gnaw away until she can suck properly - as though she's famished or something!!

 

[Maddiie]

He's still going. Moaning a grizzling away. Theres nothing wrong he's just whinging. I wish we did live closer. All of us, i don't know how I'm doing it. Sometime I stop and realise I am. Other times sit and I think I can't go on. Such an emotional roller coaster. It's just times like this I feel so lonely and i realise i have no one. Whereas my friends who have kids have their mums. Xx

 

[talulahgosh]

Oh Maddiie, I can sympathise completely. Having a baby has made me realise just how far we are from family. Welove our life here but it sucksnot to have anyone here to help.

 

[Maddiie]

It's really hard isn't it talulah oh and babybee I get to use my cardigan in the daytime though he likes to have it at night. He's still going. Has been since 1130 oh and thanks for letting me know the name of the book! It would be so much easier of we were all closer together. Even knowing we were meeting for a coffee the next day is a little something to pull you through really isn't it xx

 

[Sassyjane]

Oh Maddie my lovely, I feel for you lovely.... My parents are 45 miles away, but are here if I need them, and I'm so lucky with my inlaws who live just round the corner and are amazing..... I wish there was more I could do sweetheart! Your a fantastic mum and don't ever forget that will you!!!

I've just fed little man and given him his 4th dose of colief, he is now back asleep! I had to change my clothes as my boobs leaked everywhere, even my knickers were wet! He is fast asleep again, which is my que to settle as I have a terrible headache starting!!!

Maddie, I hope little man settles for you both and you get some rest! You know where I am if you need a moan!!!
Sending big hugs from me and little fella!!!

Hope all you other ladies are doing ok!!! Xx

 

[diane]

Oh maddie so sorry you're feeling this way. I think you're doing a wonderful job hun, I always think about how knowledgeable you are and how well you seem to cope. It's such a rollercoaster but you are doing brilliantly xxx

Sky just woke for a feed. I'm totally full of cold feel absolute shit. Really really hope she doesn't catch this off me and really hope I feel better tomorrow!

 

[Drummers_wife]

Maddie hun x I fel pretty much like you - my family live an hour an 15mins away but you'd think it was 100 miles as my mum visits when she can but its not the same - all my family live in z small village and my sister gets loads help with her 2 x
My aunty still hasn't met Quinn as "we live too far away" REALLY?!! my aunty expects me to go running around as usyal because "You were the 1 who moved away"
I could never livd there as its claustrophobic every one lives in everyones pockets but at this time I feel im isolated x
Hubbys family live in bristol which is a 2hr drive x and most of my mates live there x
Ive lived here for about 15 months so only really have nurse friends and with shifts I appreciate how difficult it is to visit xx

After ltttc i feel guilty for feeling like I cant cope sometimes cos I wanted him for soooo long and love him to pieces its jus hard work sometimes xx

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[Sassyjane]

Munchkin woke for a feed and is wide awake now!!!! Had to change his clothes as had a nappy leak it was so wet!
Trying to express just hoping he lets me!!!!

Oh and he has worked out if he wriggles enough he can get across the bed..... Help!!!!

 

[diane]

Skyler has woken again for a feed; typical only time she wakes up this early is when I'm feeling like death warmed up

 

[Sassyjane]

I'm sure they know Diane, cos I have a banging headache, and he hasn't slept as well as night before! He is grunting and groaning in his sleep which doesn't help due to his snotty nose (which he has had for weeks and won't go!!!)
Numnuts has said he will have him for a few hours when he gets in from work, before we go to my parents, but then I feel guilty cos he has been up all night at work!
Oh well while he is asleep I'm gonna try and get some too! Xx

 

[diane]

Good luck with getting sleep sassy! I feel the same about asking my oh to take her when he's up and out for work at 5.30. I was gonna ask my mum to come round and have sky for a few hours but it's snowing heavily and she's disabled so won't be able to get out think I'm in for a long day!

 

[nicky1987]

Chris is up getting ready for work - I just want to cry