~February & March Mummies and Babies~

Aw sassy I'm Sorry! I'm not even going to tell you not to worry because it's hard not to!! Glad you had a good holiday though.

Hope you try and get a good sleep tonight x
 
Sassy I am having a similar issue with jas. took her to e weighed yesterday and in a months she's only put 3.5oz on and has dropped under the line she's been perfectly following. The Hv (not out usual one) said that she's not worried because she is so ridiculously active. She never stays still - always crawling round the whole house, standing up, climbing etc. she said she was actually very surprised that she hadn't lost weight?? Wow that's reassuring!!! Surely at this age she shouldn't be stopping putting weight on?? She's on 3 full meals and 4 8oz bottles a day!!! Last time her head was measured she was on the 98th but noone said anything??? Worried now??

As for cj - don't worry that he's not crawling yet. One of my friends from works kids bypassed crawling and went straight to walking just before 12 months then went on the be national swimmers! Hell develop these skills in his own time!! X
 
diane, I can't add much to what was said above and I think Kat made a really good post. But I have been/am where you are, I know I rambled on about my own feelings a bit ago on this thread. Asking for and accepting help was difficult, because in my head I was thinking "we tried for so long to get pregnant, I should be better at being mummy" and I had to unravel that down to the bare bones. I am and so are you a good mum. Our babies are happy, healthy, clean, fed, entertained. being a parent is just about the only 'job' in the world that you can get without having an interview and absolutely no training, you are just thrown into an exhausted on the job learning curve. Add in to that the traumatic labour/delivery/nicu and I think it is perfectly normal to struggle a bit and question things. But there is help and support and advice to be had out there, I can tell you that I still have rubbish days and days where I doubt myself, but not like before. I guess I am trying say that you don't need to struggle on like this, you are doing so well, but it is ok to need extra help in whatever form Skyler is always so cheery on Facebook, that is a reflection of you. Please consider seeing your doctor or health visitor.

Oh, I wanted to add to other comments as well but E has just tipped an entire box of cheerios out. Oy.
 
My little boy is poorly :-(

Got a shocking chesty cough, he sounds like a life long smoker :-/ been up all night coughing up a lung. But as always there's still a smile slapped on his face and a mischievous glint in his eye :-P
 
Ugh, cheerios crisis cleaned up! I had no idea E could lean so far forward yet stil remain seated. I am.having one of those days, I feel so judged for our parenting choices, that the sling means E will never walk, that co sleeping means E will never sleep in his own room, that he is spoiled because I do not let him cry, that he ahould have formula in a bottle. Oh you are still breastfeeding him?! Yada yada. I might not agree with everyone elses choices for their babies, but I would never sit in judgement of anyone, we are just mums doing our best after all. Not that those comments came from.anyone here, but from my own family no less. Blah.

Aw, Spencer. Feel better soon. Vicks on his feet is meant to be very soothing.

And Sassy, it is easy for us to say don't worry but as a mummy I know we always do. E can sit and stand like a pro, bit he has no interest in being on his tummy, is not interested in crawling. His centiles are all over the place too, 0.4 for weight, 25 for height and I think 75 for head. But the head one is ridiculously hard to get an accurate measurement, at home they don't bother because one flinch from baby can add a cm and take you flying through the centiles. And the very manner of centiles means there has to be long skinny babies and ahort ppdgy ones and ones with bigger heads and short legs etc otherwise a centile is nonsense. I am sure CJ is just fine and one day he will quote Shakespear and toddle off down the lane.Glad you had a good holiday.
 
Oh and going back a few posts to the sleep issues ones, I did keep a diary a while back Clairey but there was no rhyme nor reason to Ee's sleeping. I am still breastfeeding a lot and starting to wonder if it is my diet maybe contributing so think time to revisit the diary and factor in my diet too.

On that note, kind of, what is the general structure of people's days at home with baby. I worry that I don'tplay enough or entertain E enough even though I seem to spend all day building stacking cup towers and reading stories. How much time do you spend sat with baby playing with toys? I play a lot (am a big kid!) But i just feel like something is missing
 
the small one has a cold and keeps waking up cos she can't breathe through her nose properly, poor sausage! I've put a damp flannel with olbus oil on it on her radiator and sat with her under some steamy oilbus but it doesn't seem to be working. I think it's going to be a long night. sigh.
 
I really don't spend a lot of time playing with jack, but then he is a second child! He usually comes in with us in the morning once he's awake for the day and then each day is different but usually jack spends a lot of time on the floor with toys with me wandering over to say hello every now and again to say hi! I don't really do any structured play, except sometimes when lily is at preschool when I sing some songs with him or we roll balls to each other. But otherwise he's pretty good at independent play, thank goodness cos lily never was!
 
Oh yeah, I'll occasionally read jack a story too.... He gets one before every nap and at bedtime but sometimes the odd one during the day as well.
 
Same with Spencer he rolls about the floor and crawls etc he's got two playmats on the floor covered in toys.

I spend maybe an hour throughout the day playing with him but he honestly prefers his own company!
 
when Ruby's not eating or sleepin I play with her quite a bit, Building towers, chasing balls, singing, reading, crawling after her, we're only not playing really if I have to do something eg make her food, washing etc and even then I'm normally talking absolute rubbish to her, saying that I end up playing by myself fairly regularly now as she likes to wonder off and explore, games and songs do get a bit repeatative so I rotate her toys and the songs i sing and we go out regularly to break up the days
 
Hey ladies we're home!!! Well at the in-laws lol. We'll be home later tonight and i'll try to catch up a bit. Hope you are all well xx
 
I had a job interview today for nandos but ten minutes in to it was told I wasn't suitable as I couldn't be flexible enough with shifts :-(

Feeling totally deflated and worried about money
 
I'm absolutely fuming! went to pick ruby up from mil at 4 as usual and no one was in... I thought ok no worries as I knew she took ruby to see her parents today so I just figured they were stuck in traffic, came home checked the m4 online for incidents and nothing so went back at half 4. still no one in. came home and tried not to pace for 20 mins starting to worry as I knew she'd be hungry by now. I was just about to go see oh at work and get him to ring his entire family to find them when they pull up outside my house an hour after I was ment to pick ruby up from theirs, without any explanation. even worse shed only given ruby half her lunch, no water and she hadnt had a nap except a few mins in the car. I've just quickly given her a bottle, she downed 9oz, screamed for more then collapsed in my arms and is now snoring away. FUMING.
 
Jesus Kat, that's got to stop. She's being so insensitive & uncaring to wee Ruby's needs, nevermind the fact that she's being disrespectful of your wishes. *hugs*
Clairey, *massive hugs* I hope something comes up for you soon.
 
I would be furious Kat, after the things in the past I would be having the "you don't respect Ruby, you don't look after her anymore" chat.

How is Jasmine now, nicky?

Eeek, Clairey. I hope something comes up soon for you. X
 
Refused to eat all day and had barely any milk. Still cheeky but def not her usual self. Doesn't want to go to bed either - just wants daddy tonight x
 

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