~February & March Mummies and Babies~

[Sassyjane]

Didnt get chance to update earlier..... CJ's jaundice seems alittle better today, so we have avoided a trip to the hospital, we have to go back Friday to be weight and jaundice checked, and then on Monday too for a jaundice check! Little chunk has slept a fair bit today!!!!

Nicky I need to get a copy of the photo my mil has of Tris at a few days old, it's like looking at a double!!!

My expressing is all to cock as had a sleep earlier as not feeling well, just hope I'm not coming down with something and that I'm doing too much (thing is if I don't do it it doesn't get done!) I'm terrible, I'm either really lazy and can't be arsed or don't know when to stop!

Got HV coming in the morning and to me the house looks like a shit tip, just had a major meltdown that she will think I'm a bad mummy cos it's not clean and tidy! I don't know what they will check etc or what they will wanna know, it's kinda scaring me!!!

Hope all CJ's friends are being good for their mummies!!!! Xx

 

[Sassyjane]

Arrrrrghhhh!!!!

Just fed CJ, and Tris put him to bed, said to him "have you checked his nappy?" So he says "no why, does it need doing?"..... Urm hello, how should I know! Anyhow I check it and its wet, so I change it, his comment "well it wasn't that wet (it wasn't soaked but that's not the point) don't know why you bothered changing it it would of lasted longer, it's just a waste if nappies!!!" Urm hello, I don't want my bubba in a wet nappy while he is in bed!!! MEN!!!!

Sorry ladies had to get that rant off my chest! X

 

[jennilisanne]

Really glad to hear you don't have to go in again, you'll have to keep him by the window!

Not having a good night here. Milk has come in and am in so much pain. India's latch is so strong it's excrutiating, and it takes a while because I'm so full. One side she just can't really get on. Tried to express a bit, but she wasn't sleeping s had to keep running upstairs. Eventually had to let her do a few sucks then fall asleep.

Just been woken up by Sophia's cold hand, no idea how long she'd been standing there! Got back and then Matt was suddenly holding India cos it sounded like she was struggling to breathe. She's fine, building herself up to a coupe of poos!

Now feeding again from good boobie, dreading the end and having to offer her the other side. But I have to, if she doesn't have enough she won't go down. Argh!!!!

 

[babybee]

Sassy, brilliant news about Jaundice getting better!! The HV won't even blink an eyelid at the tidiness of your house, she'll be paying her attention on you and CJ and not only will she see how amazingly you are doing, she'll appreciate the fact that your time is being well spent looking after CJ and not ensuring your house is sparkling clean, you're doing really really well!!!

We got Little E discharged from NICU (can't remember if I've told you already) and she's been staying in the ward with me for the past 2 nights. They've given me my own room and hubby can stay too which has been a huge help! She lost 12% of her body weight which is too over the allowed amount, so I'm now expressing and providing her with formula top ups. Yesterday I expressed my first amount - 5ml! That's tiny I know, but it increases in volume the more you do it doesn't it?

Also something I was going to ask you girls, did you suffer from the baby blues after the birth of your lo? I think I am, I keep thinking I'm to blame for the way she was born etc, even though I know that's ridiculous, it's something that if I think about for too long makes me cry. Then her losing that weight made me cry as it was another direct failure on my part. All silly things which I've been reassured about make me cry continuously. Even now Im getting upset writing about it.
I have bonded with little E though and love her to pieces to the point I love it when she's awake so I can see her gorgeous little eyes and cuddle her.
I hope it's baby blues I have and not post part depression - here I go thinking the worst!

Anyway, how are the rest of you ladies and babies today? I've attached a recent cute shot of my lo.
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[babybee]

Oh Jenni, looks like we're up at the same time. I wish I could help regarding breast feeding, but I'm a major novice myself at the mo!

 

[Maddiie]

Alfies being his beastly self and cry cry cry cry cry SCREAM.

My boobs were horrendous and so so sore. Right was worse than my left. And I'm expressing so that was very uncomfortable to say the least, I know its hard but persistence pays off I promise it does! in a few days they will stop being boulders and the soreness will wear off and they will go down a bit. Take paracetamol it helps a little not using the worse boob will make it worse unfortunately try and dose up on paracetamol 30 mins or so before a feed is due then the pain relief will kick in ready for the feed maybe?

I get serious baby blues babybee. I get scared I don't love him enough and all sorts. Had to keep myself busy earlier woke up after a nap feeling terrible. I keep telling myself its baby blues anyway but have to be careful if you feel it could be anything stronger at all don't be afraid to speak out. Paul's on watch with me as there a lot of depression in my family history and my mum had really bad post natal depression after me and she tried killing herself. Don't feel as if your a failure you have been through alot and done so well! There will be times you need that extra support and that only makes you human! Nothing is your fault you have done so well by her you brought her into this world safely. It was your instinct that did that. Look after yourself as well as her after all she needs you in tip top condition too xx

 

[Sassyjane]

Hey ladies,

Thanx for that babybee, I'm so nervous about them coming, and think despite everyone saying I'm doing so well with lil man, I still need that reassurance that I am, it's so new and daunting!!!

That's fantastic news about E being discharged from nicu and on the ward with you..... CJ lost 11.9% of his body weight while we were in hospital, they were not going to let us out, but did on the proviso we saw the midwife more often, plus I think they could see after 6 days I was on the verge ov making a run for it (apart from fact I was on a locked ward and couldn't get out lol!!!) Please don't think your a failure, or it's got anything to do with you that she has lost the weight, I did the same and they told me in hospital that it was out of my control, it's one of those things with a baby but so long as she starts putting it on now then it is fine, she will get there lovely, we had to top CJ up at first, but he put 2 1/2 oz on in 3 days on EBM!!!
As for the expressing, I was only getting 5ml too, but now I get about 70ml a time when I express, and I'm expressing 7 times a day!
Oh and baby blues..... They hit me like a express train to London, I cry at the stupidest little things at the moment, apparently from day 3/4 the baby blues automatically kick in as your hormones are changing, they told me at hospital it is perfectly normal, but if it gets too bad to speak with the mw/hv/gp ASAP! Every time I see someone they ask about my moods.... I have anxiety issues so they are on close watch for me!!!!
You know you have all of us if you need us lovely, we are always here for you no matter what, if it wasn't for you girls I think I would fall apart!!!
And btw, I love her, she is so gorgeous, she looks like a very content wee thing, the picture with her tongue out is soooooooooo cute!!!!

Jenni, have you tried massaging your boobs alittle? also i think heat is supposed to help ease the pain alittle (dont quote me on that)also have some really soothing cream for my nipples because despite only expressing it does take it's toll! I havent really had any pain with my milk coming in, but that maybe due to the tramadol and paracetamol im taking to control the pain from my section!!!
I really wish we could of persevered with the bf, but we were both just getting stressed out with it!
It scares the life out of me when CJ seems to be struggling for breath, or when I can't hear him breathing, it's the most horrible feeling in the world!
Hope Sophia was ok and is settled again!!!

Hope the munchkin is settled now Maddie, he isn't making it easy for mummy at all, tell him auntie Sarah said he needs to be a good boy or else I'm gonna come and sort him out! Lol!!!

Oh well, Guess I should try and get alittle more sleep, I felt so ill earlier, hope I'm not coming down with something and I'm just tired and doing too much! Up at 7:30ish to get ready for their visit!!! X

 

[Seb]

Jenni I feel ur pain, that initial latch is excruciating. Sometimes I dread feeding Isla, she's got major suction too. I'm going to a breast feeding support group today so hopefully get some tips there. Did u bf Sophia? Does the pain ease and when??

Babybee, what happened with ur labour? I missed a few days in here after having my own bub. Were u a bit early too? The baby blues are totally normal hun. I'd say even more so with ur first. I question if I'm doing everything right, I feel bad that I wasn't able to push her out myself and needed forceps, get so worried that I might not be feeding her right and hope I can be the best mummy she deserves. I think the tiredness makes the baby blues worse, ur physically and mentally drained. I'm sure u will start to feel better soon.xx

 

[Maddiie]

Alfies still persisting with being a pain in Le butt. God he tears me apart when he's like this. X

 

[babybee]

Thanks Maddie! I guess noone warned us it would be so hard controlling so many different emotions whilst also being so very sleep deprived! I think we suddenly get this little bundle of joy in our arms who we think we're going to instantly connect too, we eventually do but I think the pressure of it all makes it so overwhelming and we begin to doubt ourselves. You're right though Maddie, we just need to keep an eye on it and make sure it doesn't get any deeper bloody hard work though! The way you speak about him Maddie makes me know for sure just how much you do love him, don't worry about that. These little bundles really are cute but drive us crazy.

As for expressing, how many mls of milk did you express at first and how much do you do now? How long do you usually stay on the pump for? I know the midwife will probably tell me but E's getting weighed again today and hopefully she's put on a few grams but I'm trying my best to feed her a lot.

 

[babybee]

I hadn't seen your reply Sassy or yours Seb when I posted that last response.

Sassy thanks so much for all the advice there, it sounds identical to me in terms of weight loss and breast feeding. How long did it take you to EBM? As for the reassurance, it means so much, thank you. I really love this forum because of things just like this!! 70mls is my dream! Is it purely persistence?

Seb, my labour didn't really exist. On Sat eve (9th) I had really intense tightenings and period pain, no discharge. Throughout those pains I didn't feel the baby move at all. The next morning I didn't feel her move and the pains went. I was worried and tried everything, lying on each side, drinking ice cold water, prodding it, prodding it hard like the midwife does, oh talking to it, nothing! So at around 1 I called and went into triage. They did a trace for 20 mins during which I felt nothing. They weren't happy either as the heart rate was invariable and it should be variable, they did this for 2 hours and it was the same. Doctor was called, took a look and said it looked bad and he would need to try and break my waters. I was admitted to the labour ward and he did a scan where everything looked fine. Just the heart beat rate was strange. He tried breaking my waters but I was only 1cm dilated and it was excruciating! They then said they would induce me and got the gels ready. During this time the baby's heart beat suddenly dropped dangerously low so they had to rush me to theatre and were going to need to put me under general anaeasthetic which I was so upset about. Luckily the doc did a quick scan and heart beat was improved which meant they had time for a spinal tap. Once I was all prepped, 2 mins later my little girl was born. All looked fine, she didn't need any oxygen, just a rub down to give her more colour and noise. However later in the recovery room they noticed she was very pale, a bit floppy,not crying and had a low temp (34). They put her under a heater and called the pediatrician who ran some blood tests, the first result came back with a really low blood count at 5 when in newborns it should be 15. They had to do a blood transfusion asap. They ran lots of scans and noticed the liver was also enlarged making the heart work extra hard.
We found out yesterday that in a handful of days leading up to Sunday she started to bleed through the placenta and into my blood stream. In total she lost 100ml of blood which is life threatening to a newborn as it makes them very anaemic.

Luckily it was caught in time and she is doing so much better now. There are no long term side effects so we've been so lucky and blessed to catch it early and have such good doctors and nurses to run such vigilant tests and analysis. She's no longer in nicu and were hoping we might be able to go home today but depends on this weight loss!

Sorry for the long story, it's still so fresh so I tend to include every minute detail!

 

[precious_cargo]

Another one here to join the baby blues club xxx



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[babybee]

sorry to hear that PC! Anything in particular or hormones getting you down in general?

 

[Sassyjane]

Babybee, yes it was just persistence, I express every 3 hours in the day, and once in the night, it will increase Hun, just takes a few days, you will get to 70ml and wonder where it is all coming from!!!
I have everything crossed that E has put enough weight on to go home today!!!

Hope your ok PC, big hugs!!!

Suppose I best get lil man ready for his visitor, and then going to register him!!! All go again today!!!

 

[diane]

Another one in the baby blues club. I don't like the way I'm feeling I feel like skyler deserves all the love in the world and I'm just being miserable and just feeding her and changing her and putting her to sleep. It's not what I imagined motherhood to be like at all. My husband and I had a good cry last night looking at my bump pics - I miss being pregnant and feel like I've lost something which is ridiculous cos I've got my baby!

We had our first bad night last night. Skyler was fed at 10 then would not settle until 3. She kept grunting and making noises as if she's choking or got a cold??? Also she screams when I turn the light off so I'm having to sleep with it on! She is now sleeping at side of me in bed but I don't want her to get used to it argh!!!!

 

[precious_cargo]

Hormones im just super sensitive about sonething n nothing really. Was in costa yesterday n there was only s seat nr the door n sat down took Ella out n realised it was cold. This woman opposite was staring at me n it really upset me normally id of given her a look or said something or it wouldnt even register on my radar but made me feel v insecure so ended up getting oh from the counter n leaving. Cried a little in the car oh was cross as he said if id said hed of said something. This is not normally like me at all! I couldnt watch the dispatches prog the other day. Its worse if weve had a tough night!



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[precious_cargo]

Yep we scream 10-3 too x



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[Maddiie]

Grunting usually points to constipation doesn't it? Alfie grunts too now and I've noticed the amount he poos has gone down and there's not much moisture in what he does get out so im watching it as I think he may be constipated.

He didn't go down until 6am. He always does this. Weird part is that he sleeps from then until now, or even later as I usually wake him for a feed! They say not to leave them more than 4 hours but he feeds loads beforehand through all the crying etc so sorry for being human but this is the only time we get to sleep so We leave him to it.

I'm dreading oh going back to work. I got really upset last night with how I'm going to cope without him here and on my own etc. x

 

[jennilisanne]

Oh my goodness babybee, I hadn't realised!! How scary for you, I'm so glad she's getting better now.

I've been lucky (so far) with baby blues. Things are going to be v tough when Matt goes back to work. Sophia was being hard enough to cope with before India was here, goodness knows what she'll be like in a couple of weeks. I don't want to be a shouty Mum, but it's so frustrating when she won't listen and I know she understands!

Really hoping to get the feeding and sleeping thing sorted in the next few days. I did bf Sophia, but we both learnt together so it wasn't as bad, India just went straight for it, lol! It does generally get better through the feed, so I'm pretty sure she's on properly..., got the midwife today and health visitor tomorrow, so hopefully they'll have some advice about that and the only sleeping with us thing. I'll let you know if it's useful info, lol!!

 

[precious_cargo]

Yea pls do as co sleeping may have to happen in iur house x



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