daftscotslass
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As I've mentioned in other posts my OH is dutch but has lived here for 5 years. I get on well with his family, perhaps it's the hormones, but I'm starting to think that when the baby is born I'll be locking the door and not letting anyone but my own family in.
First off was that his parents were planning on coming over as soon as the baby was born. Fair enough, I said, but they can't stay with us because "their" room will be the baby's room (though it will be in with us). Even though OH agreed, it was rubbished on the grounds that the baby will be in our room and there will still be plenty room in "their" room. MIL and SIL came to stay last month and, with all the baby stuff in the room, finally realisation dawned that perhaps they wouldn't fit after all.
Today they were on the phone to say that I can't have the baby until the 22nd because they are busy and can't come over until then. Whoa there! They were planning on being here on my due date? No effing way. If I'm a bag of postnatal hormones then the last thing I want is them pottering around my house 14 hours of the day. OH totally agrees with me but is such a mummy's boy is relucant to say anything.
His sister (mother of 1) has every book on pregnancy and babycare under the sun and seems to be the self-proclaimed foremost authority on pregnancy and birth. Today's pearls of wisdom were that I can't possibly have the baby in the next couple of weeks because it's still moving (I'm sorry but I would be straight on the phone to the hospital if it WASN'T moving for an extended period of time). That the baby can't possibly have been partly engaged at 32 weeks (even if every midwife has said so since 32 weeks and it's recorded on my notes). That if the baby is moving it CANT be engaged and would risk its life if I was to go into labour with its head not fully engaged. I've not taken a word of it for granted but it's still upset me.
They've helped us a lot in this new house and I'm grateful but I KNOW that it will absolutely ruin our first couple of weeks at home as a family if they're on our doorstep the entire time - even my mum who is OBSESSED with being a gran will be giving us time to ourselves and she lives 5 minutes away. I am ALWAYS the mean one. I was the one who wouldn't let them decide the colours of our spare room when we moved in. I was the one who wouldn't let them choose the furniture in "their" room because it's OUR house. This time OH can tell them that they have to give us some time to ourselves.
Crap, this has turned into a complete rant but thank you for letting me vent it!
First off was that his parents were planning on coming over as soon as the baby was born. Fair enough, I said, but they can't stay with us because "their" room will be the baby's room (though it will be in with us). Even though OH agreed, it was rubbished on the grounds that the baby will be in our room and there will still be plenty room in "their" room. MIL and SIL came to stay last month and, with all the baby stuff in the room, finally realisation dawned that perhaps they wouldn't fit after all.
Today they were on the phone to say that I can't have the baby until the 22nd because they are busy and can't come over until then. Whoa there! They were planning on being here on my due date? No effing way. If I'm a bag of postnatal hormones then the last thing I want is them pottering around my house 14 hours of the day. OH totally agrees with me but is such a mummy's boy is relucant to say anything.
His sister (mother of 1) has every book on pregnancy and babycare under the sun and seems to be the self-proclaimed foremost authority on pregnancy and birth. Today's pearls of wisdom were that I can't possibly have the baby in the next couple of weeks because it's still moving (I'm sorry but I would be straight on the phone to the hospital if it WASN'T moving for an extended period of time). That the baby can't possibly have been partly engaged at 32 weeks (even if every midwife has said so since 32 weeks and it's recorded on my notes). That if the baby is moving it CANT be engaged and would risk its life if I was to go into labour with its head not fully engaged. I've not taken a word of it for granted but it's still upset me.
They've helped us a lot in this new house and I'm grateful but I KNOW that it will absolutely ruin our first couple of weeks at home as a family if they're on our doorstep the entire time - even my mum who is OBSESSED with being a gran will be giving us time to ourselves and she lives 5 minutes away. I am ALWAYS the mean one. I was the one who wouldn't let them decide the colours of our spare room when we moved in. I was the one who wouldn't let them choose the furniture in "their" room because it's OUR house. This time OH can tell them that they have to give us some time to ourselves.
Crap, this has turned into a complete rant but thank you for letting me vent it!