Everyone else is pregnant

[Sunflower1]

Half my family and friends are pregnant. Feel in bits.

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Half my family and friends are pregnant. Feel in bits.

I know exactly how you feel sunflower. Everyone around me is pregnant and im so fed up of these feelings of jealously and bitterness. I find talking about the unfairness of it all helps but people dont normally want to here it. Not many people now we have been ttc and so I've only really got OH and my mum to talk to about it. My OH is fed up of hearing me moan about pregnant people around us, he hates it and doesn't understand why I care so much (I don't understand how hes not crushed with dissapointment constantly but he's always been quite optomistic i suppose) and my mum doesn't really understand and just keeps saying keep trying bla bla bla.

Im just fed up of it all, fed up of seeing pregnancy announcements, pregnant people, and wishing these feelings of bitterness would just sod off. I wish I could just switch off but I can't. Its not fair is it?

X

 

[Maximus17]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

 

[IVW]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

Its hard to ignore and relax about it all, when your main goal, probably in life atm is getting pregnant

I have only been trying a short space of time but am already feeling very envious of a girl at work, who got married after me and fell pregnant pretty quickly and again its the 'oh when will you be trying' and inside your screaming 'bl**dy now', but you end up fobbing them off and feel crap!

My sister is also pregnant, younger than me and got married after me and had PCO, so thats just salt to the wounds lol.

How long have you been trying? are you tracking your cycles etc?

I am just about to do the ovary strip things - i really need to educate myself a bit better lol x

 

[Sunflower1]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

Its hard to ignore and relax about it all, when your main goal, probably in life atm is getting pregnant

I have only been trying a short space of time but am already feeling very envious of a girl at work, who got married after me and fell pregnant pretty quickly and again its the 'oh when will you be trying' and inside your screaming 'bl**dy now', but you end up fobbing them off and feel crap!

My sister is also pregnant, younger than me and got married after me and had PCO, so thats just salt to the wounds lol.


There's a good book - the Impatient Woman's Guide to Gettng Pregnant. xx


How long have you been trying? are you tracking your cycles etc?

I am just about to do the ovary strip things - i really need to educate myself a bit better lol x

My sister is pregnant too and everyone I know who is pregnant conceived almost immediately.


I've been trying 3 years but had weight issues. I had a miscarriage 2 months ago which is why it particularly hurts atm. I'm 42...I've done all the tracking and absolutely everything.

 

[Sunflower1]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

So sorry you had to go to a baby shower....that's rotten. I wish there was more understanding. xx

 

[Sunflower1]

Half my family and friends are pregnant. Feel in bits.

I know exactly how you feel sunflower. Everyone around me is pregnant and im so fed up of these feelings of jealously and bitterness. I find talking about the unfairness of it all helps but people dont normally want to here it. Not many people now we have been ttc and so I've only really got OH and my mum to talk to about it. My OH is fed up of hearing me moan about pregnant people around us, he hates it and doesn't understand why I care so much (I don't understand how hes not crushed with dissapointment constantly but he's always been quite optomistic i suppose) and my mum doesn't really understand and just keeps saying keep trying bla bla bla.

Im just fed up of it all, fed up of seeing pregnancy announcements, pregnant people, and wishing these feelings of bitterness would just sod off. I wish I could just switch off but I can't. Its not fair is it?

X

I think these feelings are perfectly natural Sorry your OH doesn't understand. Mine is really optimistic too. xx

 

[IVW]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

Its hard to ignore and relax about it all, when your main goal, probably in life atm is getting pregnant

I have only been trying a short space of time but am already feeling very envious of a girl at work, who got married after me and fell pregnant pretty quickly and again its the 'oh when will you be trying' and inside your screaming 'bl**dy now', but you end up fobbing them off and feel crap!

My sister is also pregnant, younger than me and got married after me and had PCO, so thats just salt to the wounds lol.


There's a good book - the Impatient Woman's Guide to Gettng Pregnant. xx


How long have you been trying? are you tracking your cycles etc?

I am just about to do the ovary strip things - i really need to educate myself a bit better lol x

My sister is pregnant too and everyone I know who is pregnant conceived almost immediately.


I've been trying 3 years but had weight issues. I had a miscarriage 2 months ago which is why it particularly hurts atm. I'm 42...I've done all the tracking and absolutely everything.

You honestly just never know - miracles do happen and my mum and dad are probably a very good example of this.

My mum has suffered anorexia all her life, therefore no periods, my dad also had testicle cancer, so is a ball down....

My mum has had 6 children and 1 miss carriage (4 with my dad), one AI, possibly two and the rest natural.

I also lost my periods for a good few years, thankfully got them back, but i worry i might have done a bit of damage, but thats probably me finding some sort of excuse.

Just a bit of hope for you there xx

 

[1sttimer]

Hey sunflower, oh how I feel your pain! I'm sorry you feel like this. I can't count the amount of people I know who have actually got into a relationship, moved in together, got married and had a baby in the space of time it has taken me to have 4 failed pregnancies, some are even on their second. It's so cruel. I came off facebook completely when I had my big one last year and do not miss it one bit - it was the best cleanse I could have done! I also only look at insta intermittently. You have to look after yourself and your sanity in this situ and if that means taking yourself away a little to preserve a bit of positivity, don't feel guilty about that. People will understand in the long run and if they don't then that's their issue not yours. xx I hope you feel better soon and get some good luck - god knows we all deserve some!

 

[Maximus17]

we have been trying since last summer, I thought I would have a baby by now, how stupid I was to even think that. I have done tracking everything, still no baby. But I have mild endo which was removed but feels like it's still there as because of the pains I am getting every month. I have a gyno appointment in July again. The pain is like my insides being pulled down , and than stabbing pains on ovaries, these start as soon as I ovulate and continues till I get my period, not too painful all the time but its always there. So I know I am not pregnant as soon as I ovulate because of these low down pains. Anyone has these strange pains? I mean I don't even have to wait till af to know I am not pregnant which is really sad.

 

[Maximus17]

sorry to hear about your miscarriage Sunflower, its must have been a very hard time for you. I am sure our ages don't help either, you said you are 42 and I will be 40 this summer, and every month goes by I know I am far far away from being pregnant, I am not optimistic about it anymore, more like it's never going to happen for me but I still get my hopes up every month. If it's any consolation, one of my work colleague was 42 and had one miscarriage and got pregnant again after that and had a lovely baby girl now. Do you have n previous children sunflower?

 

[Sunflower1]

OMG yes, this is how I am feeling as well, and the most frustrating is that noone understands me, when I talk to my husband or my mum, they are like so relaxed about it and it's like its not even important. It's like noone taking me seriously. Also everyone at my work is pregnant, I had to attend a baby shower yesterday! why is it sooooooooo difficult to get pregnant. It just makes me fed up and angry, my mum says just keep trying but also get on with your life. How can I just get on with my life its like I have put a stop to everything till I get pregnant. But of course it might never happen than I really need to go back to "normal". I really want to forget about TTC but how can I? thank you for listening

Its hard to ignore and relax about it all, when your main goal, probably in life atm is getting pregnant

I have only been trying a short space of time but am already feeling very envious of a girl at work, who got married after me and fell pregnant pretty quickly and again its the 'oh when will you be trying' and inside your screaming 'bl**dy now', but you end up fobbing them off and feel crap!

My sister is also pregnant, younger than me and got married after me and had PCO, so thats just salt to the wounds lol.


There's a good book - the Impatient Woman's Guide to Gettng Pregnant. xx


How long have you been trying? are you tracking your cycles etc?

I am just about to do the ovary strip things - i really need to educate myself a bit better lol x

My sister is pregnant too and everyone I know who is pregnant conceived almost immediately.


I've been trying 3 years but had weight issues. I had a miscarriage 2 months ago which is why it particularly hurts atm. I'm 42...I've done all the tracking and absolutely everything.

You honestly just never know - miracles do happen and my mum and dad are probably a very good example of this.

My mum has suffered anorexia all her life, therefore no periods, my dad also had testicle cancer, so is a ball down....

My mum has had 6 children and 1 miss carriage (4 with my dad), one AI, possibly two and the rest natural.

I also lost my periods for a good few years, thankfully got them back, but i worry i might have done a bit of damage, but thats probably me finding some sort of excuse.

Just a bit of hope for you there xx

Thank you. If your periods stopped it's actually possible that you have more eggs than you would have otherwise. I was on the pill for 2 years when I was younger so like to think I'm actually 2 years younger fertility wise.


I don't think you've done any damage. xx

 

[Sunflower1]

Hey sunflower, oh how I feel your pain! I'm sorry you feel like this. I can't count the amount of people I know who have actually got into a relationship, moved in together, got married and had a baby in the space of time it has taken me to have 4 failed pregnancies, some are even on their second. It's so cruel. I came off facebook completely when I had my big one last year and do not miss it one bit - it was the best cleanse I could have done! I also only look at insta intermittently. You have to look after yourself and your sanity in this situ and if that means taking yourself away a little to preserve a bit of positivity, don't feel guilty about that. People will understand in the long run and if they don't then that's their issue not yours. xx I hope you feel better soon and get some good luck - god knows we all deserve some!

So sorry about the 4 failed pregnancies. That must be so hard. I'm actually not finding out on social media because it's close friends and family.



Good luck xx

 

[Sunflower1]

we have been trying since last summer, I thought I would have a baby by now, how stupid I was to even think that. I have done tracking everything, still no baby. But I have mild endo which was removed but feels like it's still there as because of the pains I am getting every month. I have a gyno appointment in July again. The pain is like my insides being pulled down , and than stabbing pains on ovaries, these start as soon as I ovulate and continues till I get my period, not too painful all the time but its always there. So I know I am not pregnant as soon as I ovulate because of these low down pains. Anyone has these strange pains? I mean I don't even have to wait till af to know I am not pregnant which is really sad.

I think some pain is normal...I get pain. I've heard giving up dairy can help female fertility issues. Don't know if it's true. We both gave it up. Hope your gyno appointment goes well. xx

 

[Sunflower1]

sorry to hear about your miscarriage Sunflower, its must have been a very hard time for you. I am sure our ages don't help either, you said you are 42 and I will be 40 this summer, and every month goes by I know I am far far away from being pregnant, I am not optimistic about it anymore, more like it's never going to happen for me but I still get my hopes up every month. If it's any consolation, one of my work colleague was 42 and had one miscarriage and got pregnant again after that and had a lovely baby girl now. Do you have n previous children sunflower?

No I'm childless...I was really ill most of my 30s and before that in a relationship with a man that wouldn't commit to having kids so this has been my frst chance. Feels like it might be too late. I really hope it happens for you!!!! xx

 

[Akua]

Tell me about it. On Wednesday I went to a baby shower for someone who fell pregnant whilst taking the pill! Wish it was just that easy for the rest of us

 

[Maximus17]

I really hope it happens for you too sunflower. Why is it that other people can't understand how we feel I wish they could feel the pain we feel so they could relate a little. It's like my heart aches with sadness every month. I like your comment about having more eggs lol I am sure we will all get the baby we want.

 

[Maximus17]

I have another crazy story, I met this mum with 2 kids already pregnant with 3rd, she told me it was an accident, with one time sex and she took the morning after pill in the morning!!!!! I am like WTF , how is that even possible, she said she really didn't want another baby and said it was meant to be. WOW really WOW, imagine the odds of getting pregnant with one time sex and taking the morning after pill???

 

[Sunflower1]

I have another crazy story, I met this mum with 2 kids already pregnant with 3rd, she told me it was an accident, with one time sex and she took the morning after pill in the morning!!!!! I am like WTF , how is that even possible, she said she really didn't want another baby and said it was meant to be. WOW really WOW, imagine the odds of getting pregnant with one time sex and taking the morning after pill???

That's crazy!

 

[Sunflower1]

I really hope it happens for you too sunflower. Why is it that other people can't understand how we feel I wish they could feel the pain we feel so they could relate a little. It's like my heart aches with sadness every month. I like your comment about having more eggs lol I am sure we will all get the baby we want.

Hope so. xx