Egg Donation

[ema-lou24]

Not sure this is in the correct section so please move if needed.

I'm wondering if anyone has any experience regarding egg donation?
I am currently 39 weeks pregnant with our final baby and I have been asked to be sterilised. I have a DS who is 11, DD who will be 3 in Nov and another DS arriving soon.

My DD and DS that is due any day are complete miracle babies. I only have the one ovary due to a cancer scare which after tests confirmed I don't ovulate and my OH has and low sperm count. We where prescribed clomid after 16 months of trying for our DD but the month was due to start the drug we fell pregnant
After My DD was born i got the coil fitted but after 6 months or so decided it wasn't agreeing with my body so had it removed and we decided to not try but not prevent another pregnancy but also decided if by the time our DD was 3 and still no pregnancy we would return to the infertility clinic. I am now due to have our DS 2 months before DD 3rd birthday .

So my question is, how do I go about donating my eggs? I have plenty eggs, this was checked during the infertility tests we had. I feel that because we where faced with the chance of never having children together (eldest DS is from previous relationship, before cancer scare), that I'd like to help women who are going through the same.
Can I still donate my eggs even though I plan to be sterilised? How do I go about doing it? I'm not interested in doing it for money, or anything like that. I just would love to give women who don't produce eggs or for any other reason they cant have a child, to have a child. I've had my kids. We have agreed we are complete as a family now so if I can give someone a helping hand to get their family I would be very happy.

Obviously I'd like to recover from the birth etc before I go down this route I just wanted to speak to someone who knows more about it or has even donated eggs themselves.
Thank you xx

 

[Missybee]

First of all, I have maximum respect for what you want to do. I've been asked by a cousin who couldn't concieve naturally if I could donate eggs to her as she'd been told that donations from close relatives had a higher success rate. I was sent leaflets on the proceedure which also stated that the child, after the age of 16, would have the legal right to search for the biological donor. Unlike sperm donation, it's quite an intense and intrusive proceedure and while I was mulling it over, my cousin and her husband decided they didn't want to go through with it. It's similar to sperm donation in that they document your background, run tests to make sure you're healthy and don't have any contageous conditions. Along with all this, they also take your age into factor and physical traits etc. to pass on to women or couples who may potentially be interested. Good Luck.

 

[tinselcat]

Not been there but I would guess the process is like IVF, in that you take stimulation drugs for two weeks and then they harvest the eggs from the mature follicles.

I thnk first step would be to call the infertility clinic and see where they direct you.

P.s. I think this is a wonderful and generous idea xx good luck with your son's birth!

 

[mrswoody]

This is something I thought about once I've finished having children.
I did read into and the procedure really put me off-it sounded very intrusive and intense and I just don't think I could go through with it.

Much respect for wanting to do it though. I would start with an infertility clinic and see if they have any further information for you.
x

 

[Blueflower]

What a lovely idea. Yes contact your local fertility clinic, you do have to be under 35.

 

[ema-lou24]

I'm 29 . I'd just like to be able to give even just one woman a much deserved family. I remember how I felt when going through all the infertility heartache and if I can help I'd feel very blessed.
Once I've settled with new baby I will certainly look into it more. It's something I feel I need to do x

 

[Sugarpop]

I have watched something on TV and I think its the same process as IVF without the implantation bit at the end.

Over the years I have had to think about possibly using an egg donor (I have a genetic muscular issue and not sure if I want it passed on...but the chances are small apparently!) and I think it's a wonderful thing for you to be able to do and want to do.

 

[nicejuicypear]

I've donated eggs via egg sharing IVF. You do have to have IVF, including the stimulation drugs and then the egg harvesting, which will take place under sedation. The stimulation is uncomfortable but not too unpleasant. You'll have to go for scans every other day near egg harvesting so they can identify when to take the eggs.

You might not have complete control over when it all happens, because they prefer to match you with a recipient and then sync your cycles up, so that she is ready to receive one or two of the fertilised eggs several days after they've been taken from you, as a fresh cycle gives her more likelihood of success. So you can't just book in to do it for certain days, so if you're working there'll have to be some degree of flexibility there.

You also need to consider how you'll feel if the children choose to contact you when they're 18+. They have the right to do so and your details will be held by the clinic for this reason. You get the opportunity to write a donor profile outlining things about yourself. I wrote about my personality, my family background and my likes and dislikes. The child can request this from 16, I think. I wrote in there saying that I'd be happy to meet them if they felt they needed to when they're older, as I think it's important that they have the opportunity to understand why I did it and where they come from, genetically.

You'll need to be screened for genetic disorders and will be asked to complete a family health history too.

 

[JJ Mum]

What a lovely thing to do Ema-Lou

Ive had sterilisation and then IVF so I know the ivf royte for egg collection is not a problem
But to go througth the clinics set protacol/ criteria it might be as I got lots of cystic growth from the scaring on one side after my sterilisation and I wonder if this hindered my ivf but as your not going to be the recipient of the egg then not a problem, but do check the rules at a few ivf clinics near you where you would potentially go.

Good luck its a lovely gift x