Don't you just hate this question?

[vixforever]

Was it planned? (the baby) how rude is that to ask someone, i just find it so offensive. Being honest, my son was a suprise and so was this one but i prefer it that way as i don't have the stress of trying!! Argh

 

[emmaandamyleigh]

yeah i do i hate people asking and the other one thing i hate is when people ask or say your not ready to have a baby and im like is there when is the time to have a baby

 

[vixforever]

I havnt even told my nans yet and I'm 18 weeks! I won't tell my Nan from my Mums side due to the fact that she is so judgemental and we fall out over her sticking her nose in others peoples business and me telling her it's not her place to! She just has to voice her opinion on things and not give a crap about anyone elses feelings and I ALWAYS end up telling her that she is entitled to her own opinion but she should keep it in her head sometimes

 

[emmaandamyleigh]

yeah i know what you mean my oh mum is like that but at the mo she dnt bother with amy if she has something to say she tells his sisters to tell us either way it all gets twisted plus wi his siter being due in june there all not going to have the time to see amy but i know what yoursaying thou

 

[lanny]

everybody asks me this aswell, im 24 on onto baby number 3 so think ppl think it couldnt of been planned i mine it wasnt lol but thats not the point i knew i would have another i have always wanted 3 but it just happend and we are over the moon.

 

[DanDecMum]

I do hate that question because I have 2 and neither where planned *blush* I was 19 when I got pregnant with Dan, it just happened and after we got over the shock we where thrilled. Dec was a pill baby so he just happened as well, but just because our boys werent planned doesnt mean we didnt want them or love them. I dont think I have or ever will ask anyone that question it is just plain rude (well to me anyway)

 

[vixforever]

I do hate that question because I have 2 and neither where planned *blush* I was 19 when I got pregnant with Dan, it just happened and after we got over the shock we where thrilled. Dec was a pill baby so he just happened as well, but just because our boys werent planned doesnt mean we didnt want them or love them. I dont think I have or ever will ask anyone that question it is just plain rude (well to me anyway)

I know I think it is rude to ask aswell!

 

[vixforever]

everybody asks me this aswell, im 24 on onto baby number 3 so think ppl think it couldnt of been planned i mine it wasnt lol but thats not the point i knew i would have another i have always wanted 3 but it just happend and we are over the moon.

Good for you hun, baby number due is due in October when my LO will be 20 months old

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

First time round it did my head in cos she was planned but 2nd time round it annoyed me even more! My standard reply was "what do you think I am, crazy?!" there's only 12 months between mine and I didn't tell anyone til about 20weeks cos I was so scared of being judged!!

 

[vixforever]

First time round it did my head in cos she was planned but 2nd time round it annoyed me even more! My standard reply was "what do you think I am, crazy?!" there's only 12 months between mine and I didn't tell anyone til about 20weeks cos I was so scared of being judged!!

Ahh, I just find the question rude in general! LOL At your reply when you was pregnant with your second one this time I actually reply with "That's a very rude question to ask!" or "I prefer my babys being a suprise, thank you."

 

[Sam's Mum]

I think it's so rude of people to ask! Nobody ever did with Sam as we'd been married for a few years and people knew we wanted kids, but the number of times people asked when I was pregnant with Toby just because they were close together - I even felt like I had to explain myself to people I didn't know very well as I have fertility problems so we thought it would take a lot longer again!

 

[vixforever]

I think it's so rude of people to ask! Nobody ever did with Sam as we'd been married for a few years and people knew we wanted kids, but the number of times people asked when I was pregnant with Toby just because they were close together - I even felt like I had to explain myself to people I didn't know very well as I have fertility problems so we thought it would take a lot longer again!

Thanks for agreeing with me!

 

[titch]

Yeah I hate that question too. Because we're not married I guess people just wonder. But it does feel like talking about your sex life with people you dont really want to discuss it with! At the end of the day, unplanned doesnt mean unwanted, and like a lot of you say, I'd rather have an unplanned baby than plan and struggle month after month.

 

[amyjayne77]

Cos we have 4, most mums in the playground actually said "Take it this was an accident then". Just came right out with it. I just looked back stoney faced and said "no actually" and walked on. Oh the blushes.

And then came "so you got your boy then!". Well yes I am having a boy, but either/or would have been fine by me thank you very much!! They actually think we were going to keep on going til we had a boy as if I only have so many girls cos I didn't have a boy!!

 

[vixforever]

Yeah I hate that question too. Because we're not married I guess people just wonder. But it does feel like talking about your sex life with people you dont really want to discuss it with! At the end of the day, unplanned doesnt mean unwanted, and like a lot of you say, I'd rather have an unplanned baby than plan and struggle month after month.

 

[vixforever]

Cos we have 4, most mums in the playground actually said "Take it this was an accident then". Just came right out with it. I just looked back stoney faced and said "no actually" and walked on. Oh the blushes.

And then came "so you got your boy then!". Well yes I am having a boy, but either/or would have been fine by me thank you very much!! They actually think we were going to keep on going til we had a boy as if I only have so many girls cos I didn't have a boy!!

Oh my God! I can't believe they just came out with that how inconsiderate of your feelings. I get "WAS IT PLANNED?" right on my Facebook status for everyone to read, how bloomin' rude! I've already got a boy and I'm having another boy and two boys suits me fine, if I ever have a third and it's a boy then never mind as long as babys healthy

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

DD wasn't planned but this one was and when I told OH grandmother, she laughed saying oh really?! She was so shocked that it was planned and she hasn't been in contact since we told her 5 weeks ago! That doesn't bother me though! What bothers me is when I tell people who I don't know that I'm a mum already and expecting my 2nd nearly everyone says, your abit young ain't you?! I'm 25 for goodness sake!!

 

[vixforever]

DD wasn't planned but this one was and when I told OH grandmother, she laughed saying oh really?! She was so shocked that it was planned and she hasn't been in contact since we told her 5 weeks ago! That doesn't bother me though! What bothers me is when I tell people who I don't know that I'm a mum already and expecting my 2nd nearly everyone says, your abit young ain't you?! I'm 25 for goodness sake!!

Well 25 is young hunni, but not for a baby lol! Gave birth to my first at 17 But even my mother at 34 got the was it planned question I just don't know where people get the guts to ask!

 

[wirenth]

none of mine were really planned with my eldest i was only 17 when i found out and had only been with his dad for about a month or so, my second was with someone else after me and stephen's dad had split up, my third was back with stephen's dad after we got back together and got married but he was really the result of me having had a drink at home with acouple of friends while he was out with his mates and he came back really drunk and said we should try , but after a couple of weeks we decided that maybe we would be better waiting for him to be settled in his new job properly first but by then it was too late and this one defo wasn't expected i was on the pill waiting for an appointment from the family planning clinic about having an implant fitted,

but i don't regret any of them

i hated being asked with every single one of them but was always upfront and told the truth about each one

 

[vixforever]

none of mine were really planned with my eldest i was only 17 when i found out and had only been with his dad for about a month or so, my second was with someone else after me and stephen's dad had split up, my third was back with stephen's dad after we got back together and got married but he was really the result of me having had a drink at home with acouple of friends while he was out with his mates and he came back really drunk and said we should try , but after a couple of weeks we decided that maybe we would be better waiting for him to be settled in his new job properly first but by then it was too late and this one defo wasn't expected i was on the pill waiting for an appointment from the family planning clinic about having an implant fitted,

but i don't regret any of them

i hated being asked with every single one of them but was always upfront and told the truth about each one

Awww, I love having suprise babys