Dont really no who I am.

[holly;]

i had a 'moment' (i say moment it lasted 2months) from start of November until 1st week of January.

OH an i had just decided that we wanted to start TTC properly, not just not using contraception and seeing what happened. i have stretched ears, my septum, nose and navel pierced. as i work in a school full time i have plugs in my ears and not tunnels and wear a retainer in my septum, and when me and OH decided we wanted to TTC properly it's like i had this little voice in my head telling me 'grow up, you can't be a mummy with huge holes in your ears, or a ring through your septum' so i took the jewellery out of my ears and my septum. i've lived in skin tight skinny jeans for the last 4years and the thought of having a baby and being able to wear skinny jeans still and look 'nice' made me go out and buy a pair of boot leg jeans.

my birthday was January 9th and i spent some of my birthday money on new plugs and tunnels for my ears, jewllery and retainers for my septum and two new pairs of skinny jeans (which when i got home promtply threw out the bootleg jeans which in all honesty made me want to ) i no now that this is me and i'm not going to change so i look more 'grown up' and 'sensible' because no matter what i wear it won't change what kind of mummy i'm going to be

i have piercings, often dye chunks of my hair white blone, pink, purple.. blue, wear skinny jeans everyday of my life.. but my favourite thing in the world is to lounge around the house in my nike tracksuit bottoms because they are easily the most comfortable tracksuit bottoms in the world.

don't worry about what other people think about how you look, as long as you're happy with what you wear, what piercings you have and what colour your hair is then that's all that matters. you'll be an ace mummy if you have a brown bob, or pink spikey hair, you have 10 lip piercings or none.. you go out in your PJ's or in skinny jeans and a nike hoody.

 

[Jade&Evie]

When you have a buggy and baby sick down your back that you don't even realise is there... ( )... you won't be like either group of friends. I'm not saying that they won't still be there for you but I lost a lot of friends when Evie came along/ I was pregnant just because the only time I saw them was in situations not suitable for a baby. Since having her I've made a lot of new friends and just have a selct few old friends

I change my hair all the time- not so much the colour- although I was dark during my pregnancy and bleach blonde now - some days I will wear extensions other days I won't. TBH most days I stay in my pjs until I need to go out anyway

FWIW I still have my belly button pierced and wear big silver hoops (CHAV! ).. and I've got a VCH (look it up )- thats my little bit of crazy... that noone ever sees

You'll find out 'who you are' soon enough- a) baby will come along and you will be MUMMY and b) you'll do what most young mums do and spend hours trapsing round primark buying a million and one plain white/black t-shirts

 

[Kimbo]

When you have a buggy and baby sick down your back that you don't even realise is there... ( )... you won't be like either group of friends. I'm not saying that they won't still be there for you but I lost a lot of friends when Evie came along/ I was pregnant just because the only time I saw them was in situations not suitable for a baby. Since having her I've made a lot of new friends and just have a selct few old friends

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i agree with that

 

[heles7]

dont stress

you are all those things, having baby and indeed getting older doesnt change any of who you are and you definitely don't have to pigeon hole yourself into any thing.

I'm a civil servent dreading the return to office and being all professional. At home I'm a baby wearing, breastfeeding, baby led weaning mummy who dances about to pink in the kitchen a lot but then I'm still the same girl who has died hair every colour under the sun, smoked lots of grass and drank until I fell over and did the piercings and crazy stuff. There is nothing to say I can't or won't do some of those things again

Just take each day at a time, go with the flow and enjoy the different experiences this exciting time brings for you!

 

[linzi-x-]

When you have a buggy and baby sick down your back that you don't even realise is there... ( )... you won't be like either group of friends. I'm not saying that they won't still be there for you but I lost a lot of friends when Evie came along/ I was pregnant just because the only time I saw them was in situations not suitable for a baby. Since having her I've made a lot of new friends and just have a selct few old friends

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i agree with that

ditto.... all my friends i had b4 my LO werent exactly the type of ppl that liked a quiet nite in babysittin instead of being down the pub etc.. but ive made new friends now as well as the odd few old ones. but im a totally different person now than i ever thought i could be. but i love my life and wouldnt change it for the world... dont worry about it too much you'll probably be someone far better than you imagine to be xx

 

[charlotte_]

i had a shaved head at your age, but you wouldn't think it looking at me now.
everyone grows up, and out of dressing however they did when they were younger.

 

[lea m]

I agree with Jade! Dont worry to much about things and who you are hun! I still dont know for sure who I am but whats important is that I like who Iam KWIM?
One minute Im mum, the next Im a 16 year old, the next Im 27! Im dressed smart one day then the next in my scruffy jumpers ! Heels one day then flats the next! Lol did I give enough examples!??!? hahaha
I lost most of my friends when I got pregnant/ had my first son (I was pregnant at 16 had him at 17) but that was ok because they just didnt work with me and my LO! I made new friends and kept the best ones who adapted to my situation etc!

 

[charlotte_]

^iawtc, so many of my friends got rid of me when i got pregnant; i wasn't useful for nights out anymore so they weren't bothered. luckily though, my best mate got knocked up 14 weeks before me, lol.

 

[muppetmummy]

I've started to feel more comfortable in my skin as I've got older (I'm 28). When I was 16 I was very into labelling myself and other people, and thinking that I'd have to fit into a certain catagory (for me it was indie), and act and dress in a certain way to fit in with that.

As I've got older I'm not bothered about putting myself in a certain box (for example, goth, emo, chav etc). I just dress and act to please myself and don't really care what anyone thinks. When you get older and have to go out to work you are limited to some extent about how you can dress, and what colour you dye your hair when you're in a work we environment. I dress for comfort a lot of the time, haven't got the time, energy or figure for fashion atm. I remember as James grew up before ttc Logan I got back to feeling more like me eventually and started taking more time over my appearance so I know that will come back again.
When your kids get older you get more time for yourself and start feeling more like 'me' again.

I've got my naval and nipples pierced, have a tattoo (planning on getting a few more) and have a VCH piercing, but look very regular to look at. I just blend in with the crowd and I'm happy to

 

[Adele]

I was exactilly the same when i was first pregnant, all the piercings had to be taken out! then afew months after id given birth i wanted them back again i think just stick to who you are on the outside, you'll obviously be changing on the inside as you become a mom but that doesnt neccesarily mean you have to look 'normal' imamom of 2 now, with 11 tattoos and 10 piercings

 

[Lou]

Wear what you want, dye your hair pink, have piercings....

Because once you hit 30 you will feel too old to do all that stuff you can get away with when you are young!

Just because you are having a baby doesn't mean you can't express yourself. All us mums don't wear pretty pearl earings and cardigans you know

 

[Jade&Evie]

. All us mums don't wear pretty pearl earings and cardigans you know

Speak for yourself Lou

I haven't worn a pearl necklace in a while.... Sorry! I lowered the tone!

 

[widowwadman]

Did anyone else feel like this at 16?

I felt the same until my early to mid twenties, then I had to get rid of the blue hair and labret piercing etc, because I wanted a job and most corporate environments don't really condone these looks. I haven't stopped being myself though. Clothes and hairdye are only something you like, not something you are.

 

[Lou]

Did anyone else feel like this at 16?

I felt the same until my early to mid twenties, then I had to get rid of the blue hair and labret piercing etc, because I wanted a job and most corporate environments don't really condone these looks. I haven't stopped being myself though. Clothes and hairdye are only something you like, not something you are.

I agree. Inside I am a sluttily dressed rock chick, a cross between Dita Von Teese and Courtney Love On the outside I am a conservative nicely dressed mother, a cross between Davina McCall and Thora Hurd

 

[ninjawomble]

Hun Im 28 going on 12..... I never know who I am one year to the next!
But having a baby shouldnt change who you are inside, feel comfortable in your own skin and be happy.
Wear what the hell you want, you will still be a brillaint mummy whatever you wear!

 

[Red_Fairy]

I felt this most while pregnant.

You can hardly get maternity that covers my style. lol hippy/goth/rockchick. While pregnant i found myself wearing 'middle of the road-crap' that had NEVER been me.
Pregnancy made me sooo much more insecure then id never been before, becasue i felt i was judged, everywhere. Im 25, but even yesterday i got I.D. for ale. - so i must look 17. I wanted to look older. (somthing ive never really bothered with b4) - started dressing 'smart' 'lady' styleee....

and i hated it.

Felt like id lost my identity.

Needless to say, the minute the baby was born, i got right back to who i was. Bright red hair, tutus, pretty floral dresses with doc martins.
Both times. lol.

I am still me now, more so in the summer months lol (when im out and about more) I believe pregnancy is a weird time, no matter how old you are... but honestly, you'll settle down again, possibly a few months after baby is born, and realsie you can get back to yourself if you want to

 

[charlotte_]

You can hardly get maternity that covers my style.

i felt like that my whole pregnancy! maybe some of us should start a goth/punk maternity wear line

 

[lauramumof2]

I haven't worn a pearl necklace in a while.... Sorry! I lowered the tone!

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

 

[lauramumof2]

Because once you hit 30 you will feel too old to do all that stuff you can get away with when you are young!

l:

haha, I got my tongue pierced for my 30th. I love it, I think I might get my belly button done next if I can slim down enough.

 

[Meggiewoo]

i had a shaved head at your age, .

PICS!!!!

Jazz - buy the clip in hair extensions in all different colours so you can have any colour of hair when the notion suits you!

Kim x x x