KirstyL
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as it says really. since my gorgeous little man has been here my OH and i are always arguing - I don't think both of us being tired really helps tbh.
Anyway yesterday I happened to mention another baby (not yet, cause Jacob is just 6 weeks old, but in a couple of years I'd love another little one), and he said "I'm not having anymore, why can't you just be happy with Jacob?". Please girls, tell me if I'm being totally out of order with him - I am happy with Jacob, I'm over the moon, he was very much wanted and very much loved, and he makes me smile everyday, but I'm just saying that I'd like another one.
OH said he's too old to have anymore (he's 36), that he wants to enjoy his life when kids are grown up, doesn't just want to be a dad, but wants to be himself too, that we can't afford it, that he hates me when I'm pregnant cause I turn into a looney bitch and he doesn't want to do it again, etc etc, then started calling me a bitch, telling me I'm selfish and that it isn't just about me, why can't I be happy with what I've got, that there's no way I'm having another one. I'm only 32, I didn't realise Jacob would be my last (he's my second). It's horrible to think I'll never be pregnant again, never have that little life growing inside me, never feel a baby kick or experience everything about pregnancy, never go through childbirth, or hold my newborn baby again, its really sad, and I feel horrible and selfish for wanting that again when he flat out doesn't.
He doesn't seem to understand, he just says I want want want, and I can never be happy with what I've got. We had a massive argument and in the end I just turned round and told him to could leave then, because I didn't see the point in being with somebody when one wants another baby and one doesn't, because that's a big difference that can't be resolved, so he just said that obviously all I want him for is babies, and he doesn't mean anything to me - which isn't true. I just don't know what to do, it's a horrible feeling
Sorry for the rant girlies.xx
Anyway yesterday I happened to mention another baby (not yet, cause Jacob is just 6 weeks old, but in a couple of years I'd love another little one), and he said "I'm not having anymore, why can't you just be happy with Jacob?". Please girls, tell me if I'm being totally out of order with him - I am happy with Jacob, I'm over the moon, he was very much wanted and very much loved, and he makes me smile everyday, but I'm just saying that I'd like another one.
OH said he's too old to have anymore (he's 36), that he wants to enjoy his life when kids are grown up, doesn't just want to be a dad, but wants to be himself too, that we can't afford it, that he hates me when I'm pregnant cause I turn into a looney bitch and he doesn't want to do it again, etc etc, then started calling me a bitch, telling me I'm selfish and that it isn't just about me, why can't I be happy with what I've got, that there's no way I'm having another one. I'm only 32, I didn't realise Jacob would be my last (he's my second). It's horrible to think I'll never be pregnant again, never have that little life growing inside me, never feel a baby kick or experience everything about pregnancy, never go through childbirth, or hold my newborn baby again, its really sad, and I feel horrible and selfish for wanting that again when he flat out doesn't.
He doesn't seem to understand, he just says I want want want, and I can never be happy with what I've got. We had a massive argument and in the end I just turned round and told him to could leave then, because I didn't see the point in being with somebody when one wants another baby and one doesn't, because that's a big difference that can't be resolved, so he just said that obviously all I want him for is babies, and he doesn't mean anything to me - which isn't true. I just don't know what to do, it's a horrible feeling
Sorry for the rant girlies.xx