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firstly thanks for taking the time to read my long post.Hi,
You should definitely tell him you're keeping the baby. It sounds like you've already had plenty of opportunity to and it's not fair on him to keep it to yourself. I'm sure one day your baby will want to know who their father is.
Also, being a mum is tough and you may find you want him there for support in the early month
With regards to your relationship you said you've been spending time together indoors but you'd like to do things, well tell him! I know you wrote you don't like being the one to plan things but you can't expect him to plan everything either. If there's something you want to do do it. If I waited for my oh to be romantic and plan things we'd never do anything
Sounds to me like you need to do some serious talking and be honest about you feel. You're going to be a mum so be the grown up here
Good luck
thanks for taking the time to reply.Hi there. The situation sounds scary to me. I don't like that he said the solution is that he'd have to kill you. Even in joking that's not something you say to someone. Maybe I watch too many crime shows, I don't know.
thanks for taking the time to reply.Hi there. The situation sounds scary to me. I don't like that he said the solution is that he'd have to kill you. Even in joking that's not something you say to someone. Maybe I watch too many crime shows, I don't know.
He defiantly was joking i guess its his way of dealing with a serious subject , but the fact that was his response for when i tried to suggest me keeping the baby would affect your life , even if it was joke shows how much he really isn't going to come around to the idea
hence why not telling him a little bit kind of solves the problem.
i would like to tell him but feel like that would make him unhappy , which in turn would make me feel unhappy.
i will try and tel him but maybe bit later.
thanks.
I think honesty is the best policy. He might well be upset if he finds out at a much later date that you mislead him about having the procedure. To me, he is the father so has a right to know that, I dont think it would be fair to hide that from him. Can you have a proper conversation with him and just be honest? You are keeping the baby so nothing he says will change that- its a case of working out how you will work through it together. Good luck