Do you smack......?

[Emma58]

I was smacked as a child and whatever it was that I received a smack for never used to stop me doing it again. That was probably more defiance on my part though, but if i ever did something i knew i would be in trouble for I knew it would mean I got smacked.

I have never smacked George there are other ways to show him he has done wrong and I don't like the thought of physically hurting my child anyway. I will never smack Sam either.

It seemed to be the norm when we were younger to smack as punishment but i think society has moved on from that. My Mum and Dad got the belt or slipper but they never used that on me. I think times have just changed.

 

[soverign]

Well I was smacked and kicked as a child until I could cry no more and that is why I will NEVER smack my son. My dad used to kick me up the stairs with his foot (wearing a shoe) and I would be covered in bruises. I just remember spending all my childhood shut away inm my bedroom as I was always in trouble for something.

As soon as I was allowed out into the living room I would be back up there within 5 mins. All it took was something silly like knocking a cup of juice over on the carpet by accident!

When my brother was born (hes 5 years younger than me) he got exactly the same treatment. I would actually say they were more hard on him to be honest. My dad would kick him into his room and when he got him there he would start punching him over and over until he couldn't move any more.

Everything we did wrong was so trivial though. I have really started to think about my childhood as I now have my own son. In a way it makes me hate my dad more and more. He hasn't been bad to me since I left home. I just don't think we deserved any of that as children and I certainly wont be following in his footsteps.

I believe in positive reinforcement. If Caelan did something wrong I would be like ' caelan hunny you can't do that, you should do it this way because.....' and then he would be rewarded for doing it the right way.

 

[Sandi4Paul]

i'm not sure what i will do, before giving birth i would have said yes i will smack but now not so sure.

My DH smacked our friend's child on the arm a few weeks ago(not hard) but it shocked me. i could see why he did it the child had been asked to stop his behaviour to Logan 4 times (this child was two years old), but it made me question what i would do. however i think he was right to do something rather than give the child the message he cando what ever he likes even when asked to stop.

I think if logan was trying to do something dangerous (like touch something hot) and was too young to reason with i would give him a hard tap on the hand to shock him from doing it for his own safety.

i do think it is a parents right to choose to use smacking or not and the important thing is to raise wonderful people who have respect for others in socirty regardless of the methds.

Sandi

 

[trixipaws]

i dont believe in smacking as a form of discipline. not saying its beyond my capability but if i ever do smack millie it will be because i lost my temper, NOT coz i think it would help her. my boyf disagrees tho, think he sees it as an apt form of discipline if nothing else works.

we were both smacked as kids, but i wasnt very often, and never by my dad (coz we are girls so to him counts as hitting women- he would always urge my mum to do it tho!) and it was never hard and never on the face etc and only smacks not punches! my boyf, on the other hand, was quite severely abused by his dad's bitch of a second wife. wont go into details but its pretty gruesome. odd how i was never harmed by being smacked and yet its me who doesnt believe in it! i'd have thought he'd be dead against it but strangely not! he wouldnt do as his parents did tho, he would do as mine did.

idk how i might feel tho when it comes to it- might cause some big disagreements

 

[Cyprus08]

Never really thought about it that much and never smacked my DS until about 12 months ago, (Ds is 4 now). He was going through a really difficult phase at home and at nursery and I tried everything to discourage his behaviour. Timeout, talking to him, taking away toys, reward charts etc. and nothing seemed to help. One day he threw a car straight into my face, splitting my bottom lip open and I smacked him across the top of his leg. Now I used to be of the opinion that smacking never did me any harm but I had never smacked Jamie before and I will never do it again. The look on my DS face and the way he cried made me feel physically sick. I was absolutely disgusted with myself and spent about an hour after he fell asleep that night stroking his hair and crying

 

[LisaJ1986]

I was rarely smacked as a child, but we were all so well behaved.
I won't smack her, but i will tap her hand if necessary. I've seen this before and it works when they're too young for the naughty step, which will where she will go when she understands what it's for.