Does anyone here smack their LO? I have to admit that I smack Naomi from time to time if she is really naughty.
I was out for lunch with a friend of mine the other day and Naomi was with us. We got talking about her DS who is about 2. He has never been smacked and he misbehaves a lot. Not to say that he isn't disciplined but let's just say that I try to avoid Naomi meeting him too much because he is quite nasty and mean to her, pushes her over etc.
Anyway, when she heard that I sometimes smack Naomi, she looked at me and said that she would need counselling if she did that to her DS, she would lose her life if she was that unkind to him.
I smiled rather awkwardly and said that I feel guilty too but feel that I am right if she needs it. And she said, in front of Naomi, that she probably just knows that Mammy is feeling bad and has to be bad to Naomi to get over it.
I've never been more offended in my life. I didn't say anything at the time, but is that really how people see parents who smack their children? Is my reasoning warped somehow? Both OH and I were smacked as children, I don't do it hard and always on her nappy where it won't hurt her.
I now feel like some outdated unenlightened relic of the dark ages where children were locked in cupboards, tied to beds, and starved when they misbehaved.
Anyone?
Sue
I was out for lunch with a friend of mine the other day and Naomi was with us. We got talking about her DS who is about 2. He has never been smacked and he misbehaves a lot. Not to say that he isn't disciplined but let's just say that I try to avoid Naomi meeting him too much because he is quite nasty and mean to her, pushes her over etc.
Anyway, when she heard that I sometimes smack Naomi, she looked at me and said that she would need counselling if she did that to her DS, she would lose her life if she was that unkind to him.
I smiled rather awkwardly and said that I feel guilty too but feel that I am right if she needs it. And she said, in front of Naomi, that she probably just knows that Mammy is feeling bad and has to be bad to Naomi to get over it.
I've never been more offended in my life. I didn't say anything at the time, but is that really how people see parents who smack their children? Is my reasoning warped somehow? Both OH and I were smacked as children, I don't do it hard and always on her nappy where it won't hurt her.
I now feel like some outdated unenlightened relic of the dark ages where children were locked in cupboards, tied to beds, and starved when they misbehaved.
Anyone?
Sue