Do you agree the life style witjh kids little late coming ?

[sophialee86]

this month I am going to take the Marriage certificate with my boyfriend, and we are planing our wedding and honey trip at the end of the year, but we are not planing to have a baby until two year later , as wethink now we can not afford the economic pressure from family and work , what is more ,we want to create Rich in material termsfor our kids,do you agree with me ? and how do you think about that ?

 

[Babyhnumbertwo]

Hi Sophia

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I can only speak from personal experience and believe that there is no 'right' time, particularly financially.

For us, it was important we had lived life a bit first. We had both had our careers, been on lots of girls/boys nights out, girls/boys holidays. Been in other relationships an been single, prior to getting together.

We were 26 when we got together and had fun together. Whilst financially we were ok, we were far from perfect. But our little one was a surprise and came from love. Now this time around we are married, I work less hours, and we have more money to pay out such as nursery fees. So we are less financially better off than when we have dd, but do you know what, we will manage. What we will give out in love an stability to our little ones far outweighs material goods.

But equally I'm not sure how I would feel if we were in very difficult financial situation. All I know is that I do think there is no 'right' time. Good luck xx

 

[Iwant3]

Put it this way - if we had waited until we were financially well off we would be a bitter childless couple right now! So instead of being broody and broke - we have a happy family and are a bit more broke.

 

[ScotchEgg]

We have been together since 17 and married since 24. We said we'd wait 5 years from getting married as we didn't feel ready and also so we could set ourselves up financially.

As it turned out we decided we were ready 2 years earlier that we'd planned and went for it. Looks like we'll be in line with that original plan though!

I think it's good to have a plan, but don't be too rigid if you change your mind. Once you guys feel ready the reasons to wait don't seem worth it!

 

[cocoflakes]

I think everyones different and no one has any right to judge, different lives are for different people - ive wanted a baby for years but wasnt trying because i was in college and my partner had work but not a solid job/wage so we didnt try but then we thought i was even though i was on the pill and we was scared at first and then fell in love with the idea, then i wasnt so we started trying - we have hardly any money and i'm not working but we have the help of our families and ill be going to work once i have my baby, people might think i should wait until we have more money, but we are happy now and its no one elses business - so yes we will struggle but our baby will get everything it needs even if we get nothing but a baby.
everyones different, im looking forward to our future, with or without money

 

[Lolly85x]

Personally I don't think there is ever the right time to have a family.
I am 27 and my boyfriend is 28. We aren't well off but we are pretty secure and have good family support. This baby wasn't planned, but it is the best thing to have ever happened to us.
We have been together nearly 2years. We am have both had fun separate before we met each other, and we have had fun as a couple, going on holidays, festivals, concerts...
I do think there are some circumstances when it would just be irresponsible to have a child. But I don't think there's ever a right time...xx

 

[Emma.b]

I agree with the other ladies. There is never a perfect time to have a child something unexpected always pops up! You just have to start trying when the time feels right. Me and my oh both work, so have a double income but unfortunately we have a car to run, which seems to need work done on it every month, a child to support, regular bills to pay and were also in the process of buying our first home!

There is little cash to spare at the minute but were still trying to conceive, as some1 else said if you put off trying to conceive you may end up bitter and childless. When we have children, I don't know how but it always seems to come right in the end. Maybe its because all the things you think are important now are irrelevant compared to the love for your child?!

X x x

 

[Happyfeet]

Hi, I think it's a lovely idea to be financially sound before you have babies, it does make things easier in some ways.

We were 19 when we got married, 20 when we had our first baby, my husband had a good job, we didn't have loads of savings in the bank but we managed well enough. We wanted our babies young so that when they're older and grown up and have their own babies, we can play with our grandbabies and enjoy our 40's with hopefully some energy lol.

 

[itisbabytime]

Age is irrelevent, its all to do with being able to support yourselves and your family financially, being in a secure relationship and having a home.