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When are you telling people?

I told my nan and grandad yesterday, i kind of didnt have much choice as we are having some work done in the house and i need to stay at my nans for a few days with Adam because we are not 100% sure that everything that is going to be used will be safe for us to breath in x x


 
I've told 4 close friends 2 of which are also pregnant and 1 has a 6 month old I'd love to tell my mum and sister but don't know how they will take the news I'm so stressed out right now it's untrue I have my scan on fri and was going to tell them then but now I'm not sure I miss my sister so much and just feel quite alone right now I wanna tell them so bad but I want them to be happy and I don know if they will I feel like a child instead of a grown woman :-(

Why do you think your mum and sister wont be happy for you hun?
 
They don't exactly like my OH and last time I thought I was pg my mum said I hope not so now I wanna tell them but it's so difficult, I live in London an they live up north I've not seen them since last summer. My life is a mess...
 
They don't exactly like my OH and last time I thought I was pg my mum said I hope not so now I wanna tell them but it's so difficult, I live in London an they live up north I've not seen them since last summer. My life is a mess...

:hugs: Aslong as you are happy, they should be happy for you.
It might take some time for them to come around to the idea but im sure everything will be fine hunny x x


 
I am so happy bout being pregnant but recent rents with my OH I don't know where my head is right now I just feel so depressed when I'm not at work and I'm at home alone I just cry thinking am I doing the right thing and should I leave him I just want someone to give mr a hug and tell me everything is going o be ok. Even at work my mind is constantly ticking over and I was thinking of my sister and fighting back the tears it's not good I don't know what to do
 
OH told his "boss" yesterday not really a boss but the leader of our council (yes, OH is a local politician, don't hate me for it) because it may have an impact on his availability for important meetings later in the year, this morning a HUUUUUUGGGGGE bunch of flowers showed up at the door, could hardly see the person holding them. Felt very special and pampered, now after finishing my housework, not feeling quite so special

Hope he didn't put them on expenses!!!! Ha ha!!! xxxxxxxxx
 
They don't exactly like my OH and last time I thought I was pg my mum said I hope not so now I wanna tell them but it's so difficult, I live in London an they live up north I've not seen them since last summer. My life is a mess...

Aww hun, I'm sure your life isn't a mess. I'm sure your fears are worse then what will actually happen. Just pluck up the courage, tell them and get it over and done with and just say if they haven't got anything nice to say then please don't say anything at all as you and your OH are happy and so you'd like them to be happy for you too.
 
I am so happy bout being pregnant but recent rents with my OH I don't know where my head is right now I just feel so depressed when I'm not at work and I'm at home alone I just cry thinking am I doing the right thing and should I leave him I just want someone to give mr a hug and tell me everything is going o be ok. Even at work my mind is constantly ticking over and I was thinking of my sister and fighting back the tears it's not good I don't know what to do

Oh hun, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. Why are things not good with OH? Could you go home for a weekend and see your mum and sister and have that hug? It might make you feel better or make you realise that you don't want to go home to OH?
 
He can just be really out of order and say some wicked things to me & the change as if everything is ok he ttys to pick arguments out of nothing I just don't know if I can deal with it anymore I'm tiptoeing round him. My mum and sister would love nothing more than to gt me home but truth is I love London and love my job I had all these aspirations and now I don't know who I am anymore I've let everything slide away from me. If I leave him right now I'm gonna loose alot coz I know he'll be an arsehole about it plus I have nowhere to go if I do. I'm in a catch 22 plus the 1 thing I never wanted was to be a single mum and my child to be without a father coz that's how I grew up
I seriously don't know what the best thing to do is xx
 
We decided to tell our parents, hubbys sister and my best friend but so far for various reasons have had to tell other people.

I am dying to tell everyone but hubby wants to wait until we have at least had to scan although he keeps letting it slip to people :lol: as he says that he cannot lie! His best mates Mrs is also pregnant so he let it slip to them as well.

People have noticed when I have not been drinking.
 
He can just be really out of order and say some wicked things to me & the change as if everything is ok he ttys to pick arguments out of nothing I just don't know if I can deal with it anymore I'm tiptoeing round him. My mum and sister would love nothing more than to gt me home but truth is I love London and love my job I had all these aspirations and now I don't know who I am anymore I've let everything slide away from me. If I leave him right now I'm gonna loose alot coz I know he'll be an arsehole about it plus I have nowhere to go if I do. I'm in a catch 22 plus the 1 thing I never wanted was to be a single mum and my child to be without a father coz that's how I grew up
I seriously don't know what the best thing to do is xx

Being a single mum doesn't mean you're a failure. Sometimes it 's better to bring up a child with two parents that love him/her but live apart than to have two parents living together and unhappy and arguing. You need to think of yourself for once hun. Could you sit down and talk to OH about how your feel and how he makes you feel when he says nasty things to you? He probably has no idea how much they hurt you and how much they stick in your mind, he's just trying to say the most horrible thing to hurt you at the time but deep down doesn't mean it which is why he can be fine after, like nothings happened. I really hpe you manage to work things out xxx
 

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