Disgusted!

[Piglet10]

I am absolutely sick to the core, my mum was in Belfast for the weekend and was talking to someone (i take it a pregnant person) who told my mum if her child had a cleft lip she would terminate

is this the type of world were living in? where a MILD fixable disfigurement is just cause for ending a babys life?!?!

i am disgusted, people like that do not deserve to be able to get pregnant, rant over

 

[Baby Bean]

Oh god hun that's awful. I've come to the conclusion that most people (pf girls excluded) are dicks

 

[Sarah W Baby Belly]

I can't believe that! I would have been cross too!

I wouldn't terminate my baby for anything! What will be will be! And If it is my fate to have a baby with a health issue, then I will live with it.

 

[Piglet10]

i know girls, but tbh i wud never terminate but i fully understand why people do when theres serious health issues as some people wouldnt cope but a disfigurement?! seriously its basically saying baby isnt pretty enough :/ ggrrrr xx

 

[BabysMomma]

That's awful. A cleft lip is operable and can be fixed. Stupid person! x

 

[tinytoes]

Ugh this really uspsets me I have very strong feelings about this issue anyway . But to say that about something so minor REALLY makes me angry .

 

[Piglet10]

defo my nephew was born with cleft lip and palate and heart issues, didnt think he was gonna live and hes here large as life and u cant even see it! and the cleft lip was the last of anyones worries i mean jeeeeeesus i wanna shake her and i dont even know her! xx

 

[pinkymum]

That is so awful! There's women who are desperate to have a baby and this woman would terminate because of a cleft lip???!!!! WTF people never cease to amaze me - and not in a good way!!!!

 

[polo_princess]

What an awful thing to say, i just dont "get" some people

 

[knopk@]

Thats a bit extreme, of course there are syndroms where the impact on health/future is much more dramatic, but cleft lip is something easily fixable

 

[ippa]

Wow that's shocked me!
Why would anyone ever think about terminating for just that!
Yes I can understand if the baby had serious health issues as the others have said! But just because it wouldn't be cosmetically the same as other children! And yes it's easily fixable, my cousin was born with one, she is now 18 and all you can see is a tiny scar (when it's not covered over with the inches of make-up (not to hide scar but that girl just likes make-up!))
XxX

 

[cosmicgirl]

So sad, I didn't realize there were still people who felt like this x

 

[inky]

People like that make me mad, every child is a blessing!

 

[BevG]

thats sad, id never terminate no matter what. saying that i know a girl whos pretty much the same date as me and not sure if she can keep hers, she says she cant be a single mum to 2 kids (she has a 5 yr old) and tho she wants to keep it she feels she cant. instead of making the decision and going thru with it she seems to just be complaining and getting pissed most nights now i know she has depression and is on prozac but i think thats totally disgusting cos even if her child is completely healthy she could be giving it a disability behaving like she is.

 

[knopk@]

Termination is up to individual but I's a very hard decision whatever the reason. I dont think I would have kept a child with severe disability but then I hope I will never have to make the decision.

 

[evie_smith]

Omg!! I can't believe someone would do this I always said if y child was severly disabled I would consider both adoption and abortion prob the first but that!! My brother was born with it an upto a while in the top of his mouth also! And it was just an operation when very young

 

[k8_005]

I can't believe that! I would have been cross too!

I wouldn't terminate my baby for anything! What will be will be! And If it is my fate to have a baby with a health issue, then I will live with it.

without wanting to upset you i quite agreed with your point of view before my last pregnancy and thought i would never have a termination for a disability of any kind ever, but at 14.5 weeks into my previous pregnancy found out the baby had anaecaphaly, i did have a termination at 16 weeks, and was distraught about doing it but it was for the best, the condition baby had meant that it couldnt survive past a few days and would likely die during birth or a few mins to hours after, i wouldnt ever get to bring my baby home, i felt in that instance that abortion was the right thing (was also advised this by gp and midwife as its classed as "not compatible with life") however i dont know where i would draw the line now as i always thought i would let fate decide prior to that,, i think as long as my baby could potentially have a decent and happy life despite whatever disability it had then i would proceed, i very much want a baby(am currently in tri 1 again) in terms of a cleft lip i think its really sad that someone would consider this a reason for termination for a baby they wanted, i do think though anyone who makes this decision for any type of disability or even for other reasons, makes it with a huge amount of pressure, and until in the position yourself cannot say 100% what you would do. only 99.9%.

 

[Piglet10]

thanks for sharing k8 but i think ur reasons for a termination no1 cud argue with, i think its admirable and brave to make the decision to terminate but if faced with that decision (hopf i never am ) i hope i wud make the decisison u did xx

 

[charliebear]

Thats so sad
I cant believe that people think like that still.