Depressed husband.

[Selina13]

Hi,

My hubby works really hard for a company who expect nothing more than 100% of him at all times!
He works late, he is pressured to go on Xmas doo on my birthday (every year for 5 years) and he works at home aswell as 8-6 in the day.

He has aged 10 years since I met him just over 5 years ago with all the stress and pressure.

He's fantastic at his job clearly, I would say he's a workaholic because it's totally how comfort zone but he has episodes of anxiety, health anxiety (problems that have no cause or diagnosis) and depression.
He can be like a moody child but I just see that as a man thing! Problem is that he has started to be really negative, down and depressed at weekends because there are no plans yet he doesn't make any. I'm worried about him and wanted to ask for advice on how to help him. X

 

[Mrs M]

Make plans? Doesn't have to cost a fortune - I'm sure there are plenty of things to do near where you live? Why not book a night in a hotel as a surprise?

 

[Sprk]

Just saw your post and reading it reminds me of my dh. With work, it got to the point where he knew that when we would return from a holiday, no one (including managers) would do what had been expected of them while he was gone. All his projects would go from being on time to behind. It gives him tons of stress when this happens. (All of this was before he had to go on long term sick for another condition). By the time weekends would come around he would be upset at not having plans, but wouldn't want to do anything. I found that if I made plans and just told him on the day or the night before, he would be willing to go out. And once we were out and ano ute would lighten up and be a bit more cheerful.

If it becomes more of an issue, you might try and get him to talk to a gp. Ours is great and referred dh to someone to help learn stress relieving techniques.

 

[RhondaLou]

Hi I have suffered from depression and anxiety before although not work related. It shouldn't be ignored try and get him to see a doctor if you can (easier said than done though, you know what men are like).

They say laughter is a great pick me up so try and make plans remind him of why you are together in the first place and see if that helps.

Sorry I can't be of more help but wish you all the best xx

 

[MryAnn]

What people forget is that a job is designed for 1 thing: To provide you with the money to do things that YOU want to do. Now of course you need work for your family, but there is no job in the world that is worth your health.

NO job.