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[ItsAllGood]

Really could do with some advice, wife is 12 weeks with 3rd child. I totally understand with all the illness and general malaise and have been since pretty much week 3 been doing everything in house, with kids and working at same time and have no complaints on this, however, a complaint is the sheer rudeness of my wife for the last number of weeks, I mean is it really all that difficult to speak to your husband? Acknowledge him? Humor him with a response? Any advice? (p.s. remember, we blokes do not know what it is like!!)

 

[MrsR]

It sounds like the weakest excuse in the book but honestly, believe me, it's hormones x x especially in the beginning x x it gets better, I promise! I was the bitch from hell for the first three months even though I knew how much my partner was doing for me I still treated him like crap. I did apologise once I'd calmed down and I'm much much better now but still have times where I snap! x x it must be really hard for men to even try to understand why we've suddenly turned into nasty monsters! Be patient and loving and pray the second trimester hurrys up! Good luck

 

[isobel84]

if OH felt a was like that i would apprichiate if he sat down with me and reminded me we are going trough it together and there is no need.
But a little bit of mood swings i think you have to get used to.
Im more sensetive then moody and all i need really is loads of nice words and cuddles

 

[ItsAllGood]

thanks for this, this time round it seems much worse than first 2 (unless I have managed to bloke it out with the good memories!) I dont intend to sound mean and have witnessed plenty first hand that she has had to go through but its hard when you get home, shes in bed and when you try to start a conversation you are met with nothing!

Thanks again & good luck

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I agree with the girls that its most likely to be hormone related! Everything is 100 times worse in those early days - hope things improve for you both

 

[sexyamy2005]

reading this is making me think have i been overly nasty to my hubby,

alltho he is playing on the ps3, i think il go try interrupt him to appologise and show him i love him, its just so easy to take it out on the mister at home after a day of sh*t or whatever, we really do appreciate you and keep up the good work, il send my hubby round for some tips, lol only joking

xxx

 

[karenandbump]

Hi,

Think it will be hormones andI guess it could be worse this time because she is more tired from having the other 2 kids this time round or it might just be a tougher pregnancy. It might be worth having a chat with her about how much you want to help and that you want to understand how she's feeling - that approach might open the channels of communication a bit.
Think it's really good that you're looking for answers tho - you must be one of the good ones!!
K xx

 

[FebMum2Be]

I'm sorry to be so blunt.. But I was a complete raging hormone bitch That is it put simply.. I couldn't control my emotions at all, OH found it very hard to deal with but found a way himself to deal with it and comfort me at the same time.. I give him 110% credit and I personally don't know how he done it because I was a complete and utter nightmare.. Afterward I felt so horrible and guilty and only realized then how nasty and intolerable I had actually been.. We were in a different situation (First child, no other responsibilities) so I can definitely sympathize with you.. But can also for your wife.. It's such an emotional time, and probably harder for you having your family, work etc.. If you can't work something out between yourselves have you thought about maybe speaking to a doctor? They are great even if it's for a chat and some advice (as I'm sure you know).. I hope things get a bit better soon and wishing you both a happy and healthy pregnancy

 

[ItsAllGood]

thanks guys, to give an update, today I was due to be at a conference which i tuned down, causing quite a lot of grief @ work to be at home all day as kids have now finished school. spent all day cleaning house as wife watched TV, any time I tried to speak I was either blaned totally, guestered at or if she did speak was a sigle word without eye contact. 3 hours ago i attempted to speak to her about issues (i.e. her health and wellbeing) she got up walked out saying im away to neighbours (they have a newborn) and under her breath said f**k off.

So, without offering the usual excuses for her, WTF