niknaks
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sorry ladies this is gonna be a bit of an essay so my apologies in advance. just so glad i have pf to get things off my chest. basically just had a small tiff with my mum about me and my oh getting civilly married. she says shes ashamed that im pregnant and doesnt feel she can face telling people and that if we at least got civilly married things would be easier. you see im goan and the older lot are very strict about sex before marriage bla blah blah. also i would have been going into my last year at uni but ive sorted it with uni and can go back within 2 years and they can help me with childcare. but the main thing is my mums more worried what everyones gonna say. part of me wouldnt mind getting civilly married just to shut her up really but the main part of me is like no i dont want to, i dont mind getting married after lil mans here cos i dont want people thinking me and my oh are just getting marrie dbecause of the baby not because were happy and in love. it just winds me up cos i know its not my wedding day its everyone elses. plus my sis says basically if i do get civilly married in the next year shes not coming because its 2 months to the day my dad passed away and its disrespectful and i agree. now my mums also like people are gonna say if your dad was here this would never happen. shes treating me like a teenager. im 25 i will be 26 when babys here. i know shes going through a lot of stress at the mo with my dad and everything and i dont want to put anymore on here, but it annoys me cos she feels i should be ashamed myself. but im not, i cant wait to be a mum and start a family with my oh and i would marry him tomorrow if i could but not like this. my own choice as in me picking the day having it how i want it. it'll be our special day not even the babys me and my oh and i dont want my son growing up thinking oh my mum and dad got married because of me. then my mum was like what are you going to tell him when hes older? i was like the truth im not going to lie to him. i said to her she can tell people we eloped if she wants i dont care im just so annoyed. im gonna shut up now im ranting to much. sorry for the essay again