Cant stop gettin upset...

[charlotteheys85]

sorry if this turns out to be long post..

My OH has always been what i would call.. "a bit of a pain" but what man isnt lol.. (sorry to men on forum)

But anyway.. i do sometimes find it hard to trust him with some things, as he hasnt always been the first to tell the truth, but anyway..
he's resently been observing a girl he knew from yrs bk in her underwear in lots of pictures, I found this on my browsing history, and confronted him. He doesnt see the wrong in it?
And now its become a "trust issue" i know he wouldnt physically do anything with anyone..
I dont know if its because i'm hormonal and very self concious at mo. But i think men should only look at there mrs, not girls from past half naked!!

We've managed to talk, and sort things, but i feel he doesnt see right from wrong.

So daft.. but he has to travel for hr and half to get to work in morning. And resently i've been taking and picking him up (as he doesnt drive) which takes 15mins down motorway. But this morning i allowed him to get the bus, and felt as tho i was punishing him? I have just had enough.. i'm not immature.. but i'm only 20.. and i'm tired and feeling really emotionally down about alot of things, and kinda just need to pause and have a break from everything...
cant stop crying. and finding it hard to eat.

feeling really alone for some reason... xx

 

[lisa282]

Awww hun, have some of these I would be upset too, if I caught my OH doing that. We all have our little secrets which is what makes us, but looking at pics of an old flame is a bit too close to the bone if you ask me. Ive never had a problem with my OH looking at pics of girls...as long as I dont know them!! Porn, the internet, page 3, whatever is one thing, but when it gets close to home, I would be REALLY uncomfortable. The way I see it, is that looking at strange girls is always a bit of a fantasy - and lets face it, us girls do it too! - but someone they know is a whole different ball game. Then it would become possible there was more to it than fantasy, and that would really bother me. I can understand you being so upset, and you really need to talk to him about it and get him to understand how it makes you feel, yes you are hormonal, but I dont think that is relevant in this situation, you would be upset whether pregnant or not.

Ooh, and I dont think its silly...I would have made him catch the bus too

Hope you sort things out chick x

 

[Fly]

I don't blame you for being upset honey i'd feel exactley the same xxxxxx

 

[Tadpole]

Oh hun, I'd kick OH's a*se if I caught him looking at half nekkid pics of old girlfriends. AND I'd make him catch the bus. He's a big boy, he'll cope.

 

[charlotteheys85]

Awww hun, have some of these I would be upset too, if I caught my OH doing that. We all have our little secrets which is what makes us, but looking at pics of an old flame is a bit too close to the bone if you ask me. Ive never had a problem with my OH looking at pics of girls...as long as I dont know them!! Porn, the internet, page 3, whatever is one thing, but when it gets close to home, I would be REALLY uncomfortable. The way I see it, is that looking at strange girls is always a bit of a fantasy - and lets face it, us girls do it too! - but someone they know is a whole different ball game. Then it would become possible there was more to it than fantasy, and that would really bother me. I can understand you being so upset, and you really need to talk to him about it and get him to understand how it makes you feel, yes you are hormonal, but I dont think that is relevant in this situation, you would be upset whether pregnant or not.

Ooh, and I dont think its silly...I would have made him catch the bus too

Hope you sort things out chick x

this is exactly how i see it, page 3 porn etc etc.. doesnt bother me.. because it theory they never can touch lol...

but its a girl he knows and see's out, just really bugs me.. he'd licterally looked at about 20/30pics mostly indecent..

i've wrote him a letter, sounds silly, but its one way i can get everythin i want to say in without him turning it around, so when he gets in from work he can have a good read whilst i'm out.. (me and letters are becomming a bit of a habit lol)

i'm glad its not just me who'd be annoyed, i can handle somethings and see guys points of view, but i just thought expecially with me doing everything possible to help him at mo.. long story but hes only resently started this new job, after been without job for few months.. i thought he'd know better than to sneek online for a peek lol...

thanks for replys girls.. actually really helps xxx

 

[lisa282]

Awww hun, have some of these I would be upset too, if I caught my OH doing that. We all have our little secrets which is what makes us, but looking at pics of an old flame is a bit too close to the bone if you ask me. Ive never had a problem with my OH looking at pics of girls...as long as I dont know them!! Porn, the internet, page 3, whatever is one thing, but when it gets close to home, I would be REALLY uncomfortable. The way I see it, is that looking at strange girls is always a bit of a fantasy - and lets face it, us girls do it too! - but someone they know is a whole different ball game. Then it would become possible there was more to it than fantasy, and that would really bother me. I can understand you being so upset, and you really need to talk to him about it and get him to understand how it makes you feel, yes you are hormonal, but I dont think that is relevant in this situation, you would be upset whether pregnant or not.

Ooh, and I dont think its silly...I would have made him catch the bus too

Hope you sort things out chick x

this is exactly how i see it, page 3 porn etc etc.. doesnt bother me.. because it theory they never can touch lol...

but its a girl he knows and see's out, just really bugs me.. he'd licterally looked at about 20/30pics mostly indecent..

i've wrote him a letter, sounds silly, but its one way i can get everythin i want to say in without him turning it around, so when he gets in from work he can have a good read whilst i'm out.. (me and letters are becomming a bit of a habit lol)

i'm glad its not just me who'd be annoyed, i can handle somethings and see guys points of view, but i just thought expecially with me doing everything possible to help him at mo.. long story but hes only resently started this new job, after been without job for few months.. i thought he'd know better than to sneek online for a peek lol...

thanks for replys girls.. actually really helps xxx

I do that too hun, write him letters when Im upset....I find it easier to get things out cos when I get angry or upset I lose all composure and become a blubbering wreck so never get out what I want to say

 

[dannii87]

Oh hun, I'd kick OH's a*se if I caught him looking at half nekkid pics of old girlfriends. AND I'd make him catch the bus. He's a big boy, he'll cope.

^^^ What she said!

I'd be upset too hun. If you tell him how you feel (in the exact way you wrote it up there) I can't see how he wouldn't feel bad!? I'd be gutted if I hurt my OH like that (intentional or not).

Why's his ex sending pics of herself half naked anyway?! Silly mare.

Don't feel bad about making him get the bus. He'd be WALKING to work if he made me feel like that!

Big hugs to you sweetie. & I don't think it's the hormones, I'd be the same pregnant or not xx

 

[Chrissy1]

I'm with the others on this one....... I'd be well pee'd off with him. Porn etc I don't mind in the slightest, there's nothing he can do about it no matter how much he fancies them so he's welcome to look but old flames is just a no no no no no

You are doing the best to write things down because I find that you can forget loads of things you want to say if you have a talk and at least in a letter you get to get everything in there without being interupted.

for you

p.s. I'd have hid his bus fare and made him walk if it makes you feel any better

 

[Lynsey]

I would feel exactly the same. Especially when we are getting bigger by the week, it doesn't exactly make you feel sexy I hope he realises how you feel x

 

[Mildly]

Ask him how he'd feel if you were looking at an ex in his boxers or naked!

Tiredness is probably not helping things and regardless of how you feel make sure you eat something healthy as bubs still needs the nutrition

 

[Steelgoddess]

Hmmm pregnant or not i like the others think hes bang outta order looking at pics of a female from the past!!

WELL DONE for confronting him AND writing him a letter no one should put up with that thats a blatent disrespect and you need to make it plain and simple that if he thinks he can do stuff like that he has another thing coming...

Ok so fair enough if it was just regular boobie pics or prawn surfing then a shake of the head and roll of the eyes but you need to seriously have this out with him.

Also tell him it wouldnt be acceptable if you were not pregnant cause sometimes they like to use the "its your hormones" bollox!

Also i now this is completly off topic but be careful driving when you feel low/angry cause it can really knacker your concentration

 

[sarah113]

 

[charlotteheys85]

girls thank you so much

really cheered me up, and made me realise its not just me being silly...

things are bit better.. (he wrote letter bk lol) bless, think he realises.. (lets hope)

thanks you again xxx

 

[claireyfairey]

Awwww hun I know you just said that you've sorted things out, but I just wanted to offer you these And make sure you're okay.

I also want to say that I think that's a shitty thing for your OH to do, and I seriously hope you made that clear to him. Honestly, I think sometimes men are on another planet


C xxx

 

[dannii87]

Aww I'm glad he acknowledged that he upset you hun

Sometimes men (and women!) do stupid things, they just need reminding that it can hurt people's feelings xx