Can't find a name I like at all

[nicejuicypear]

I am at a complete loss with girls names. We've been told the baby is a girl twice now, so only looking at girl names. However, I can't find ANY I like. Not a single one. People say to just put the ones you like on a shortlist and narrow it down from there, but my shortlist is empty. I've used numerous websites which have huge lists of names on, thousands upon thousands. I keep an eye out when reading, watching TV or meeting people in case I come across a name I like but nothing has grabbed me. I went through my family tree on Ancestry for inspiration. I've read threads on forums like this. I've been looking for weeks now.

I don't even have a list of names that I kind of don't mind but aren't anything special. I just cannot find anything I vaguely like.

Anyone else have/had this problem? It wasn't an issue with boys names when I tried thinking about them, there were a number of names I'd consider putting on a shortlist. It's not even like I wanted a boy - I'm over the moon to be having a girl, but just dislike every single girls name I read.

 

[claire_louise9]

Have you tried sitting down as a family , even your stepkids and see if there's any everyone likes?

 

[CARNAT22]

Get online and start trawling through lists.

I looked at the top 100 names from 1900 - 2000.

That might be a good starting point.

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[clarep1905]

We have exactly the same but with boys names! I have two names I love, one Hubs detests and the other which we both love, has already been earmarked by my best friend for any future children she has! So we are down to a list of big fat zero, its a nightmare! X

 

[CARNAT22]

We have exactly the same but with boys names! I have two names I love, one Hubs detests and the other which we both love, has already been earmarked by my best friend for any future children she has! So we are down to a list of big fat zero, its a nightmare! X

You can't not use a name you both love because your friend wants to use it?

I mean what if she doesn't have kids? Or doesn't have a boy? Or decides on another name?

Have a word with her.. Explain things and I am sure she'll be OK with you using the name.

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[Mrs M]

I had this with my boy, and I still only think his name is ok - I'd rather he was known as something different!

 

[OMGbabyno3]

Have you tried the website, Nymbler? I found that pretty good.

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[nicejuicypear]

It's so frustrating, I've looked through massive lists of names, like thousands of names. I've tried filtering by categories, looking at recent trends and just ... nothing.

Claire_louise, one of my stepkids gives proper suggestions but nothing I like and the other two just give stupid suggestions like 'why not call her Megatron?'. Also, when I discuss names in front of them, they say things like 'no because there's a girl in my year I don't like with that name' and I can't afford to veto names based on their acquaintances, it's bad enough working in a school myself and having to deal with my own prejudices about names!

Clarep, I'd discuss the name thing with my friend if I were you, as Carnat says, she might never use the name. I would see it as first come first served really. And would it be so awful if you had the same name for your kids? Depends on your relationship with her, I suppose.

OMG, I'll look at Nymbler, haven't seen that one yet. I find a few of them too American based.

I find girls names really hard, they're all to pretty and yukky and so many of them just don't seem like grown women's names to me. Having spoken to my wife, we've narrowed down the scope a bit, which should hopefully help - it has to have several syllables as my surname is one syllable, it has to have a formal tone with the option of cute nicknames and potentially unisex nicknames. I'm thinking along the lines now of Alexandra with Alex and Andie for nicknames (actually really like this one now I've found it but it's in the family too closely already and I don't want to name her after this person which is how it will come across).

Why do I have to be so picky?!

 

[nicejuicypear]

Just to say, Nymbler is great, it's a brilliant concept. You indicate names you like and it generates lists based on those. Not great if you don't like any names, but I managed to start with one and collect similar ones. It's much more useful than reading alphabetical lists. Thanks OMG!

 

[nds]

alexandra is beautiful.
i bet this is pretty tricky! we had a similar thing when i found out i was pregnant with this baby, as the name we picked and always wanted we had used already but sadly she didnt come home with us. i only liked one other girl name and it was too similar to our daughters. luckily this baby turned out to be a boy BUT we did the same thing, trawled through sooo many lists, nothing felt right.

definitely try nymbler. baby may even arrive and a name just fits. good luck searching. i love alexandra though xxxxx

 

[Gingerjv]

My top list is always changing! I have to say it's incredibly difficult to find that perfect name I will write you list of my fav, maybe you will like any: Evangeline, Eve/Eva/Ava, Clementine, Olivia/Olive, Amber, Penelope, Persphone, Luna, Sophia, Vivienne, Vivian. Good luck!!

 

[Dammit Janet]

Perhaps try and have a few days without focusing on names to clear your head? Sounds like your mind is on overdrive and getting too full of names x

 

[mellie_88]

I'm struggling we have 5 names on our "shortlist" but to be honest I don't love any of them. We're finding boys names really, really difficult. I had hundreds of girls names ready.

Personally I don't want a common name, but then I also don't want to be totally wild and obscure. It's hard trying to find that balance.

Are you after unusual or more traditional names or what?

 

[nicejuicypear]

DammitJanet, it wasn't so much time I needed, as have been trying off and on for weeks now. But you're right about getting bogged down in names, the lists and books don't help, it's just too many names. I really like Nymbler for that, it is tailoring suggestions and only giving a few at a time so it seems easier to consider.

nds, I really like Alexandra too now! Just a shame about the family connection.

Mellie, I'm looking at quite traditional but none of the really old lady ones that are coming back around. I'm now thinking along the lines of Alexandra, Samantha, Francesca. I feel like I'm breaking the back of it by getting somewhere with a possible shortlist, though like you none of them are ones that I love.

 

[Jojo84]

the name i wanted was cecelia if we had a girl but everyone else hated it. im glad i dodnt have a girl because it was the only name i wanted 100%... we settled on jennifer which is noce but not wow to me

 

[fcroxy]

I found girls names extremely hard, me and OH didn't agree on anything. I had a long list of boys names but nothing stuck out for me. We only chose my daughters name 3 days before she was born! Xx

 

[Toria111]

We got told we were having a boy at the first gender scan. Had no problem picking boys names. Then we were told at the second gender scan we were actually having a girl. We still hadn't decided on a name till our daughter was 3 days old. My absolute favourite was Everly. Shortened to Eve or Evie. My oh told me I had made it up even though its an old English name. We decided on Lyla till my mother in law told us it was a disgusting name and totally put my husband off. We eventually chose Emma which we had originally ring fenced as its my cousins daughters name.

This name choosing lark is hard work!

 

[Kiagirl]

I know what you mean! I didn't want anything really popular like Ava/Mia even though I like them. I wanted something unusual but not weird. I am a Francesca so we settled on Lucie obviously with a diff spelling as I work with a Lucy. We had a boys name so I started with that and looked at similar names/googled etc. it was so hard! God help us if we have another girl!

 

[He@theR]

I found it so hard to decide on a girls name as I wanted something that wasn't run of the mill and quite common but I didn't want it to sound ridiculously stupid, I also thought it would be nice if I knew no one with the name. Our short list came down to Alana, Alaina or Amber and in the end we went for Alana, I have no regrets as I still haven't met anyone with the name. We are now expecting a boy and once again the process of narrowing it down is killing me! Good luck, I'm sure you'll find that special name soon x

 

[mummyofdragons]

We're like this with boys names. We really struggled with my sons and now we have no idea what we would name another boy!!

I really like Alexander, but that would mean OH, my eldest and youngest would all have the same initials!

We've already decided on girls names before even getting the bfp!