We decided to venture into the M&S cafe for a much needed lunch break and to allow Luke to get a little "lunch" too.
We found some rather nice comfy sofas near the entrance that afford some privacy form the hustle of the main part of the cafe. I unclipped Luke from his carrier and handed him to Debbie and left them to it in search of food.
I was at the self-service area with my tray debating which overpriced salad I should have to accompany my coffee when I became aware of the conversation between two women stood next to me. I presume they were mother and daughter. The mother around fifty years old, the daughter in her early twenties. I caught the tail end of a snippet: "..it's wrong. I don't care how discreet it is, it's still wrong".
My curiosity piqued. I lent into them a little and said "What's that?" with a smile knowing what was coming.
"That woman feeding her baby. It's wrong. I don't agree with it." she replied anticipating an agreement from me.
I fixed her gaze; "Oh. You mean my wife?"
"Oh..."
"What's wrong with it?"
"Well, I just don't like it. I think it's wrong"
"Really? What can possibly be wrong with it? It's perfectly natural"
"Well, it's just my opinion" she said in lieu of an explanation.
"So you'd rather force these women into dark dusty rooms at the back of stores?"
"No.. well.. I just don't agree with it. That's all. I know she's being discreet but I think it's just wrong."
"Yes but why should they be forced to hide? There's nothing wrong in it" I demanded probably a little too aggressively.
Her daughter piped up "Well. I see your point of view, but some people just don't like it".
"Yes, that's just my opinion" her mother repeated
"Well, I think you're wrong" I finished.
At this point I debated throwing my tray down and declaring loudly that I'd lost my appetite. That lunching with bigots wasn't something that I enjoyed. But that would have meant we'd have to leave which was the last thing I wanted to do. Instead I told her it was a "very sad opinion to have" and turned my back on them. My shaking head confirming my disapproval of their small mindedness.
I was absolutely furious. I know I interrupted their private conversation but they were very loudly talking about it and I think they would have said something to the staff if I hadn't butted in. I can't believe that a woman; a mother could possibly find fault in something so natural.
I'm so proud of Debbie and how she's stuck with breast feeding through some plainly awful times in the early days. I'm proud that she's comfortable enough to feed Luke in public now and they both really enjoy it without being banished to rooms at the back of stores which excludes them both from the simple joy of having a bit of lunch while out shopping. The small mindedness of some people could put some new mothers from breastfeeding in public or at all.
Thankfully Debbie is made of sterner stuff and we both wanted to go and squirt some extra milk into her tea!
We found some rather nice comfy sofas near the entrance that afford some privacy form the hustle of the main part of the cafe. I unclipped Luke from his carrier and handed him to Debbie and left them to it in search of food.
I was at the self-service area with my tray debating which overpriced salad I should have to accompany my coffee when I became aware of the conversation between two women stood next to me. I presume they were mother and daughter. The mother around fifty years old, the daughter in her early twenties. I caught the tail end of a snippet: "..it's wrong. I don't care how discreet it is, it's still wrong".
My curiosity piqued. I lent into them a little and said "What's that?" with a smile knowing what was coming.
"That woman feeding her baby. It's wrong. I don't agree with it." she replied anticipating an agreement from me.
I fixed her gaze; "Oh. You mean my wife?"
"Oh..."
"What's wrong with it?"
"Well, I just don't like it. I think it's wrong"
"Really? What can possibly be wrong with it? It's perfectly natural"
"Well, it's just my opinion" she said in lieu of an explanation.
"So you'd rather force these women into dark dusty rooms at the back of stores?"
"No.. well.. I just don't agree with it. That's all. I know she's being discreet but I think it's just wrong."
"Yes but why should they be forced to hide? There's nothing wrong in it" I demanded probably a little too aggressively.
Her daughter piped up "Well. I see your point of view, but some people just don't like it".
"Yes, that's just my opinion" her mother repeated
"Well, I think you're wrong" I finished.
At this point I debated throwing my tray down and declaring loudly that I'd lost my appetite. That lunching with bigots wasn't something that I enjoyed. But that would have meant we'd have to leave which was the last thing I wanted to do. Instead I told her it was a "very sad opinion to have" and turned my back on them. My shaking head confirming my disapproval of their small mindedness.
I was absolutely furious. I know I interrupted their private conversation but they were very loudly talking about it and I think they would have said something to the staff if I hadn't butted in. I can't believe that a woman; a mother could possibly find fault in something so natural.
I'm so proud of Debbie and how she's stuck with breast feeding through some plainly awful times in the early days. I'm proud that she's comfortable enough to feed Luke in public now and they both really enjoy it without being banished to rooms at the back of stores which excludes them both from the simple joy of having a bit of lunch while out shopping. The small mindedness of some people could put some new mothers from breastfeeding in public or at all.
Thankfully Debbie is made of sterner stuff and we both wanted to go and squirt some extra milk into her tea!