Breast cancer status

[LikeJohnnYoko]

There's a difference between negative responses (such as attempting to invalidate someone's opinion on a thread because you're having a tough time at the moment) and critical/questioning responses where someone challenges the benefits of what the OP is saying.

Critical responses shouldn't leave a bitter taste, its how we learn and expand our worldview. Having a variety of people appear from nowhere to tell someone who is being critical how mean and uncalled for their opinions are certainly does.

Instead of a group of people taking it upon themselves to chastise those of us who chose to question the fb game, of which I was only one, perhaps if we were so uncalled for you should have referred our posts to the moderators?

 

[inky]

I always thought that the point of a public forum was to have discussions. The OP creates a thread on a subject. Those who reply give their response. Sometimes they agree, sometimes they do not. If they agree then all is wonderful in the world. If they do not, then they agree to disagree having made their point in a polite manner, and leave it at that. Anyone who wishes to join in on the conversation is welcome whether they agree or not. Either way everything is kept friendly and civilised, and hopefully people are better educated and more enlightened in the differing views of others.

Except that doesn't happen on PF does it?

To those saying 'don't comment if you don't like the subject'. How about 'don't comment if you don't like the comment'?

Just because someone disagrees with something you say, doesn't mean that they're being mean to you and there's no need to take things personally. It's basic playground politics. Or so I thought.

 

[redbear]

I think people take things a tad too seriously- anything that makes people even think cancer is raising awareness in my eyes, its not harming anyone and its just a little bit of fun.

Its like subliminal messaging, the more you hear about cancer week the more likely to think 'i need to remember to check my boobs' or 'maybe i should donate today' or something.

I just think lighten up and calm down, almost everyone is effected by cancer we can all donate and put a silly status. One doesn't stop the other. I think some replies to this thread where a bit OTT.

 

[tinytoes]

I stand by what I said , there are far more productive ways to promote breast. cancer awareness . I wonder how many of the young girls that I have seen posting hearts or whatever else actually know how to check their breasts ?

 

[positivity :)]

Sorry the part about the secret being kept away from half the worlds sufferers...what!? The 'reason' for it is well known..there's no secret cure being kept away from people.

All being taken way too seriously and yes I agree it's a public forum etc etc but the thread itself came from someone who believes in the fact this raises awareness for breast cancer, it came from a good place. Tabbi hasn't come on and started a horrible thread or been nasty. Fact is we have all been affected by this awful disease and if some people choose to do a run for life, marathon, cake morning or even god forbid post a status on Facebook...so bloody what, it's their choice.

As for reporting the thread, I personally didn't think it necessary but you guys gave an opinion and
I gave my opinion, both as you say, on a public forum.

Also, most threads on PF are friendly, don't girls on here pride themselves on that? But then at other times 'its a public forum, we can write what we want'.

 

[redbear]

Yes but you can do both... posting this doesn't stop you from doing more productive things, no one is arguing that posting a status is going to change the world, but it can't be doing any harm, i just think that people are over reacting slightly. It is just a bit of fun and its just one of the small things people do to show support.

The young girl may not know how to check a lot of women don't but young girls can google and even if just one does because of little things like this then that's a brilliant thing in my eyes.

 

[cosmicgirl]

These FB "games" do annoy the shit out of me tbh. I just scroll past them and try to ignore, I think a lot do that so I agree, does it raise awareness?? I'm not sure. They don't offend me, they are just a bit tedious IMO.
What does offend me is people sharing horrendous pictures to "raise awareness" of animal cruelty, child abuse etc. I don't want to see those pictures and they are not helping the cause one jot! That is my number one annoyance on FB.
I also hate the glory hunter pictures - "like if you hate cancer", "like if you love your kids". Yawn zzzzzzz x

 

[tinytoes]

They don't offend me, they are just a bit tedious IMO.
What does offend me is people sharing horrendous pictures to "raise awareness" of animal cruelty, child abuse etc. I don't want to see those pictures and they are not helping the cause one jot! That is my number one annoyance on FB.
I also hate the glory hunter pictures - "like if you hate cancer", "like if you love your kids". Yawn zzzzzzz x

Agree totally .the offensive ones are the upsetting images

 

[cosmicgirl]

I have un-friended so many people for sharing these images. I find them really upsetting and that's not what FB is for IMO x

 

[positivity :)]

Yep I agree with that cos! They often turn from
Groups into advertising something I believe x

 

[redbear]

I do hate those pictures some make me feel sick and it will be stupid stuff, a picture of a child beaten and 'like if you want to save her.... ignore if you don't ' like everyone who ignores it must want the child to die!

 

[tinytoes]

I do hate those pictures some make me feel sick and it will be stupid stuff, a picture of a child beaten and 'like if you want to save her.... ignore if you don't ' like everyone who ignores it must want the child to die!

They are so upsetting aren't they ? I just report them

 

[cosmicgirl]

I do hate those pictures some make me feel sick and it will be stupid stuff, a picture of a child beaten and 'like if you want to save her.... ignore if you don't ' like everyone who ignores it must want the child to die!

They are upsetting and pointless. I cannot believe just how many people actually fuel them by liking and sharing! x

 

[redbear]

I do hate those pictures some make me feel sick and it will be stupid stuff, a picture of a child beaten and 'like if you want to save her.... ignore if you don't ' like everyone who ignores it must want the child to die!

They are upsetting and pointless. I cannot believe just how many people actually fuel them by liking and sharing! x

I know there chain mail really just trying to make you feel guilty if you don't share them or like them.

 

[titch]

Have to agree with positivity here, some responses were uncalled for. Why bother going to the trouble of writing its a lot of rubbish, just don't post! I doubt tabbi was posting for opinions in what others thought of it, it was as she said a bit of lighthearted fun for such a horrible disease and it does make awareness as people will see why it's done and therefore, made aware. Hope you are ok tabbi xx

which ones were uncalled for? can you quote something to be specific, cos I really dont see where anyone was being horrid or insulting, nor do I see many people on this thread who need to "calm down"

I'll say what I said before (which seemed to be totally ignored) noone is having a go at the person who posted this thread, people gave reasons why they don't share these types of facebook campaigns, and gave reasons very clearly. noone actually even said "noone else should do this..." they said why they choose not to.

So no I dont see why anyone got upset over this thread at all initally, but it looks like as Ive read it through, almost 2 'sides' are forming and trying to argue against each other, and Im wondering how this happened. Why the defensiveness, the need to 'protect' those who dont actually need protecting, just causes bad feeling, and escalates arguements from nowhere.

I dont believe anyone gave their opinion in an inappropriate manner, or in a way which would cause personal offence to any individual person.

 

[titch]

I completely disagree with doing this, it does nothing to help cancer awareness, but does encourage slactivism (ie people feeling good, like they've done something, when they've actually not done anything.) It gets my goat because it's silly, men don't take any notice, they don't wonder about the statuses.

I lost my beloved Auntie to this disease, a loss that I still struggle with years later and when I want to do something for BreastCancer awareness, I donate to charities, (either pennies, or by donating goods to their shops or shopping in their shops) or family members who fundraise for them in her memory.

Clearly I feel quite strongly about that, and my feelings have no bearing on how other people see this, but I wanted to add my two penn'orth to the thread.

Seriously ? How is this raising awareness , how about sending out a message to everyone check their breasts and how to do it properly ? I know tho was posted with good intentions but I don't understand it at all

Right firstly it is raising awareness just by you reading it, its help to raise awareness. Secondly It does support breast cancer and any other cancer's. By people putting it on there status's and other's guessing it help's. may not seem like it but it does.
And your making me sound like i am a cruel bitch for putting this on, in the last 5 years i have lost friends and family to cancer all different types. Most recently was my nan who suffered for 5 years with it she had breast, lungs, liver and stomach cancer that finally killed her and turned her into someone i didnt even recognise. In the end i wouldnt let my daughter see her because it upset them both too much.
By people taking part in it Breast cancer awareness are hoping to make the headlines again this time for women putting on there shoe size and how long it takes do your hair. It promotes national interest, and helps with donations to help find a cure.

I do everything possible for Cancer research I give money, I donate anything i can, i do charity work i do what i can
even by putting this on here to help...and it must be promoting awareness as over 150 views have taken place.
I have a friend who's mum works finding a cure in a research centre near manchester and when asked anything can help we get told the more awareness even by a stupid game helps funds helps towards finding a cure.
Now i got enough on my plate without everyone bitching at me so if thats all you want to do go bitch somewhere else this has had me in tears for god knows how long.

if you don't like it don't comment simple!!!

I don't think anyone wanted to make you look like 'a cruel bitch', you've clearly taken our comments the wrong way. My OPINION is that this sort of thing is a waste of time and that efforts are better spent elsewhere. No reflection on you or your family. I'm very sorry for your losses, and I imagine most girls here have lost numerous family members to cancer. There was no need to reply with something so aggressive though.

you tell me out of these examples who you think is being mean???

Sorry but this thread has really got to me, not anything to do with the content, but the way people are interacting and reacting, and I said before I can understand when someones really stressed out and it affects the way you perceive things, but for so many other people to jump in and fuel the flames has just escalated the situation and probably reinforced OPs feeling that other people are attacking her when that wasnt happening at all.

 

[redbear]

^^ i don't think anyone was actually arguing just a debate like normal, i have them all the time on here but never take it personally or against the person and we all agreed on the point of those horrid pictures so no one has fallen out.
People have opinions then people have theres that are different, i dont think anyone posted to cause bad feeling just have there say. x

 

[nhh04]

Right firstly it is raising awareness just by you reading it, its help to raise awareness. Secondly It does support breast cancer and any other cancer's. By people putting it on there status's and other's guessing it help's. may not seem like it but it does.
And your making me sound like i am a cruel bitch for putting this on, in the last 5 years i have lost friends and family to cancer all different types. Most recently was my nan who suffered for 5 years with it she had breast, lungs, liver and stomach cancer that finally killed her and turned her into someone i didnt even recognise. In the end i wouldnt let my daughter see her because it upset them both too much.
By people taking part in it Breast cancer awareness are hoping to make the headlines again this time for women putting on there shoe size and how long it takes do your hair. It promotes national interest, and helps with donations to help find a cure.

I do everything possible for Cancer research I give money, I donate anything i can, i do charity work i do what i can
even by putting this on here to help...and it must be promoting awareness as over 150 views have taken place.
I have a friend who's mum works finding a cure in a research centre near manchester and when asked anything can help we get told the more awareness even by a stupid game helps funds helps towards finding a cure.
Now i got enough on my plate without everyone bitching at me so if thats all you want to do go bitch somewhere else this has had me in tears for god knows how long.

if you don't like it don't comment simple!!!

Good for you! I've put mine on facebook.

Raising awareness about cancer isn't just about facts, figures and instructions on how to examine yourself. The most successful methods of raising awareness are ones that capture the imagination, that join people together and, god forbid, actually have a bit of fun doing it.

It may be an unofficial viral campaign, but it does work. It gets women talking about breast cancer - and men too. And that awareness leads to self-examination and donations.

Of course there are other means of raising awareness - it doesn't mean this one can't co-exist with them.

 

[tabbi]

nhh04- Thank you

And everyone else. Its not meant to cause a fight. Its not why i put it on. It was meant to be a little fun. People who don't Like taking part its up to you, its your choice therefore you don't have to take part if you don't want to.

As for the child abuse/animal cruelty adverts that are posted on Facebook they are sick, Whoever made them needs to assess there feelings on the subject. They don't help it doesn't stop child abuse but it can cause an urge that can down the line end in abuse maybe not to a child but someone who it shouldn't happen to.
I pity the people who put them on.
As i said this was meant to be a little bit of fun, Nothing like those other things.
I don't know how to report them on facebook so if someone can tell me it will be big help to me.

Lets no fight over it. At the end of the day none of us want to fight over a silly status.

Can we all say we are done with the fighting?

 

[netty]

no one is fighting i dont get it either but whatever you like? however adding how long it takes to do your hair into a status raising awarenes for cancer is a bit for example my great aunt lost her hair to chemo during cancer, i think it could be a little more tactful maybe

i never did get the facebook status games, i really dislike the site and am not a member.

out of interest what are people doing to raise awareness, at work we had a pink bake off a while back and raised sooo much money it was fun

i love it my work are so involved with charity, such a good cause too

while we are at it ladies http://cancerhelp.cancerresearchuk.org/type/breast-cancer/about/finding-breast-cancer-early give your boobs a grope and please do check! its so important girlies