BMI worry what midwife will say

[snowbee]

My GP puts all her high risk ladies on 5mg folic acid, she gave it to me due to recurrent mc and at no point mentioned my bmi (which was 30.5 when we conceived, I struggle with bmi all the time as I'm quite short, broad, strong and carry a lot of muscle, I do have some excess fat but I'm still fit, something a lot just won't accept can be true!). I had put on weight by my booking in and it was higher but noone mentioned it, they put you on the higher risk pathway if it is over 35 at my hospital (which mine wasn't).

I do have a consultant appointment at about 32 weeks but apparently this is due to us being a fertility treatment pregnancy. My midwife has never commented, I'm semi expecting the consultant to be rude to me though (as that has just been my previous experience, they always seem rude and sometimes fairly clueless?!).

 

[Bobbideeboo]

hi ladies,

hope you dont mind me piping up but im in exactly the same situ! BMI 36 was in the last pregnancy too. i used to dread my consultant apps and would be on ceiling patrol trying to sleep the night before! in my last pregnancy i was advised to research 'over eaters anonymous' - cheers!

4 years later same consultant... i had already worked myself up no end and the fact she kept me waiting 40 minutes for the first app of the day didnt help! she was SO rude i actually left half way through the appointment. i believe our last exchange was ' see you at 38 weeks, you have me to see unfortunately' my reply 'i dont have to do anything!'

i feel this time round i am in more control and im not afraid to speak up about what i want. first time round i was yes sir no sir and would have left crying my eyes out. this time i walked to the reception desk and asked to see a different consultant next time, if they couldn't accommodate this i would happily be transferred to a different hospital.

i detest the inconsistencies in care, my booking midwife told me to aim for no more than 11KG weight gain, 31 weeks in i have put on 9KG 1.5kg of which is baby so 7.5kg. my friend who has just found out is pregnant has the same starting weight as i am now at 31 weeks yet her support network has been great.

i remember talking to my dr about it in my first pregnancy and he told me 'only healthy people get pregnant' so why are we made to feel bullied and unworthy of carrying our babies. Looking forward to my next app on the 31st when i say no weight gain this month and GD test normal!

wow totally turnt into a rant!

stick with it ladies! you know your bodies better than anymore.

im off for a biscuit...