Bedtime

[SmallPurpleCat]

Isla doesn't have a bedtime yet.. It seems everyone on here gets their babies to sleep at a normal time but we're nowhere near that.

For the last week she's been going down for the night at midnight which had been a massive improvement from 3 or 4am that it was before.

But now tonight, I'm still trying to get her settled. She had been on a feeding frenzy since about 9pm and I'm exhausted.

Any advice?

 

[flexilexi394]

I can't flaming sleep either haha I don't think I ever had a bedtime routine at the rate I'm going! I'm just gonna guess some advice for you, what ice been advised is day and night association ie dark at night with no chatting or eye contact, light during the day etc. And try and do the whole bath, feed, bed thing. You probably know all this lol I'm just repeating what I've been told. Sucks being awake doesn't it? X

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Lexi's right! Try getting her into day/night mode!!
Day, light room, noise, eye contact, maybe nap downstairs
Night, dark room, minimal noise, bath,feed,bed routine upstairs.

Charley didn't like going to bed early on his own to start off with but he soon got used to it and now he's just woken up for a feed at 2.30, he done a poo so I had to change his nappy, he weed on himself while being changed so had to change his vest and sleepsuit, by now he's wide awake grinning at me but as soon as I finished I put him straight back in his cot and he was asleep within a minute!!

 

[ZMD]

Tegan was a nightmare to get to bed until i done the whole bath and bed routine at the same time every night! i have a touch lamp on very low in her bedroom and after she's had her bath i hardly talk to her. isla will get there eventually Hun xx

 

[isobel84]

when noa was 4 weeks he was up that late aswell. but im so happy i started a bedtime rutine as he now is tired at 8.30
Even if hes knackered at 7.30 i dont put him to bed until 8.30 on the dot.

 

[rbryan0205]

amelia cfed at 0730 0830 and 0930 last night but thats because she is used to being fed after her bath at 9 then she goes to bed and same as the other girls dark room once she is dried and dressed no talking hope she gets there for you xx

 

[Yodabo]

Chose a time for her to go to bed at night and stick with it. At first Drake was late going to bed but we found he gets really grumpy in late evenings and wanted bed. So we started a 10pm routine and have gradually brought it up to 9pm now. Ideally i'd like him in bed for 8pm but we'll get there. You may find it hard for the first few nights but it will get easier. Babies LOVE routines and she'll soon be happy enough going down for you.

 

[SmallPurpleCat]

Thanks for all the replies everyone.

Right - tonight I'm going to come up about 9pm and do the bath and bottle feed (Daddy gives her a bottle if expressed milk every night) and then try and get her settled earlier. We've been doing everything downstairs so probably not distinguished between night and day very well.

She also doesn't seem to settle in her Moses basket at all (unless she's been put in there already asleep but even then she might wake after 10 mins) so we've been putting her down in the pram bit of the travel which she seems to love and then will happily sleep for 4-5 hours in there.

Wish me luck!

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Goodluck hun! Stick to it!! It might take afew days for her to get used to it but stick to the same time and routine x

 

[xxbeckyxx]

I'm gonna go against everyone now (!) cos I did everything upstairs for the last 2 weeks and did all the 'night time' stuff, i.e. no talking, lamp on, calm etc, and Lizzie would wake as soon as I put her in her crib.
The last few days I've done it all downstairs with the TV/lights on etc and when she's asleep I take her up. I don't know if it's cos she gets into a deeper sleep downstairs but she then stays asleep for a good 3-4 hours. I think it's partly cos I get less stressed too - if she takes ages to settle downstairs I don't care cos I can watch TV at the same time etc, but I get bored upstairs so then get impatient and stressed when she won't settle.

 

[Yodabo]

Becky i do everything downstairs too. Its sometimes crazy with the house full but its what he's used too. As soon as he's got his jammies on he knows its feed and bed. Sometimes he's out for the count other times half asleep. I carry him upstairs regardless, our bedroom is dark but i have a light changing monitor (supposed to help them sleep) so i pop that on. Wrapped him up, pop him on his side and put his dummy in (thats if he's still awake) I leave him to it then! He's so good at going to bed.

 

[isobel84]

Noa gets in his pjs whenever we change him last time that night, sometimes at 6 sometimes at 8. I feed him in the livingroom, hand him to demba for a cuddle and then at 8.05ish i warn them both they only got 5 more min. then i feed him again in the livingroom and in bed 8.30.

 

[xxbeckyxx]

Hehe Evelina, love the fact you have to warn both of them! My OH is like that too, he's always like 'oh, just a bit longer!'

 

[Amy_J]

Marley is 4 months and still doesnt have a bedtime yet! i take him up for a bath at 7pm everynight but his feeds change every day as i bottle feed on demand as and when hes hungry!!! sometimes every 3 hours sometimes he goes 5... its making it impossible for me to set a routine =( i need help! lol. sometimes he flls asleep at 8 othertimes he can be awake until midnight!!!!

 

[MrsR]

Seb's really settled into his bedtime routine BUT only if I do it! If it's OH he just will not settle! Every other night he has a bath between 6.30-7pm, then pyjamas on (if he hasn't had a bath we just put his pyjamas on at the time we would if he'd had a bath) at 7pm, feed between 7-7.30pm in cot between 7.30-8pm and he settles himself to sleep (for me). We're reclaiming our social life back so having him in a bedtime routine really helps for when we have dinner parties/friends round. Now if only I can teach OH how to do it! Lol

 

[Amy_J]

ahhh must admit im rather envious when i read of all these good bedtime routines lol..... im hoping mine will fall into place. (sooner rather than later) we're staying at my mums in manchester atm too which isnt helping as its chaos!!...we move down to london 1st feb so im thinking things will settle when we get to our own place!!!!!

 

[Yodabo]

Oooo your baby is the same age as mine Amy! (1st October?)

 

[Amy_J]

oh wow!!!! yes!!!!! 01.10.10!!!!! how cool!!!!! your lo is adorable!!!!

Oooo your baby is the same age as mine Amy! (1st October?)

 

[ERIN84]

We do Emilys bedtime routine without fail every night. It's when we started her routine that she started to sleep through. Just less confusing for them of they know what's going on I reckon xxx

 

[Yodabo]

oh wow!!!! yes!!!!! 01.10.10!!!!! how cool!!!!! your lo is adorable!!!!

Oooo your baby is the same age as mine Amy! (1st October?)

Yours is too! So cool to have someone with the exact same age baby!