Babies so close together...

[PeanutButter]

Well my daughter is 3 months and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I feel like people are going to judge me. like I don't wanna tell anyone at all ever xD aha. Waiting for the comments about me not gonna give my daughter attention and should have waited so she can have time with us, she's not gonna have as much as she could have, she has to share everything straight away.... Also the OMG alreadyyyy.
(it wasn't planned but ofc I'm very happy about it )
Has anyone had experience with this?

 

[JemRose]

I know it's not as close together, but my mum fell pregnant with me when my brother was 9 months old. When I was 9 months old, she fell pregnant with my sister. So I'm 18 months younger than my brother and 18 months older than my sister.

She said it was tough but she wouldn't have it any other way, it was lovely growing up so close in age to them. My dad went on to have my little brother when I was 13 years old and we're not close at all. xx

 

[Katybaby87]

I have friends with similar age gaps to their siblings and they loved it - they were really close because they were similar ages. It must be hard for the first year or so but then I bet it’s amazing for them. I hope you don’t feel guilty about it - it’s no one else’s business anyway

 

[mrs_cookie]

There's only 15 months between me and my brother and it was fine,were really close and were always into the same things being similar ages. Anyone who says your daughter wont get attention etc etc is daft anyway,my daughter will be 21/2 when this one is born but im sure shell never remember a time he wasnt here when shes older,kids don't remember the first couple years so it'll make no difference. They'll be great at sharing and you'll probably have less tantrums cos of it.im sure it'll be tough to start but my mam always said it was better in the long run as sleepless nights/potty training were all over quick instead of you finishing a stage with one then starting all over again with the second. Congratulations! Xx

 

[GBLiz]

wow that is close I didnt know that was even possible! I am pregnant now -fell pregnant when my son was 9 months and that was a shock! Everyone is saying things like "you can stop now" and "your family is complete now" and "don't move house again" (as per 'new house new baby') and i find it a little bit presumptious and like saying it's a mistake to have more babies......it's not nice when you feel judged!

 

[JenKat]

I think it's awful that people can be so judgemental! As if they know you're life and what you're capable of. I think the kids will love being close in age and having a buddy to pal around with. Don't listen to rude comments, you know you have plenty of love to go around and that's all that matters!

 

[Shanivy]

They will be soooo close and have such a bond. I wish mine were going to be closer in age than they will be. Anyone judging you are just being dicks and obviously dont know what you went through to get your daughter or this little one. Tell them that if they do make their stupid comments. People plan their children this way too. I wouldn't let it bother you hun. And your family and friend who know you will be pleased I'm sure. Xx

 

[Rachel84]

Hey, the gap between my first two was 15months. (Pregnant at 6 months, just as I returned from maternity leave. Work loved me) It wasn't planned but I loved the gap so much I did it again between 2nd and 3rd. (Did a 2year gap next as number 3 was hard work. Haha) It did mean I had two in nappies at once, double pram, etc but I was fine with that and it was all so much fun. I miss those early years so much. I had 4 kids by time my oldest was 4years 3/4 and I really loved it. They have all grown up so close and I wouldn't change it. Now they are approaching the teenage years I'm getting a little worried as the bickering has already started. Hehe.
My hubbys family did make comments which wasn't great but we were very happy. Please try ignore unkind comments. Your daughter will love having a sibling so close. The comment that annoyed me the most was from strangers saying, "aw are they twins?" They were completely different sizes! Haha. Anyway.
My brothers are 14months apart and as young kids were close, fought a lot as teens and now as best of friends as adults. I'm hoping my boys will follow suit.

 

[PeanutButter]

Thanks ladies we're not telling anyone till we know the gender lol. Me and hubby are happy that's all that matters. Just dunno how I'll react if someone said something I'll snap aha. X

 

[Emily0505]

People will bang on about how your daughter will miss out and blah blah blah but what about people who have twins and triplets etc. Do those babies miss out on their parents time and attention? Nope!

Quite frankly after the complete hell of the losses you went through to get your girly, this bubba is obviously well deserved and meant to be!



XX

 

[GBLiz]

Quite frankly after the complete hell of the losses you went through to get your girly, this bubba is obviously well deserved and meant to be!



XX

just saw all of those- so agree strongly!

 

[JustTrying]

forget what people think but damnnnn woman. Fertile or what

I wish you all the best for coping with 2 babies because I will be honest, I would have a panic attack. My O/h wants to start trying straight after first and I told him to stuff it!

My cousin fell pregnant instantly after giving birth when she was fairly young and Ive got alot of respect for her now. She managed very very well and got herself into a routine.

 

[millielaura]

I think it will be an amazing gap! We started ttc the moment my postpartum bleeding ended. My friend has 12 months between her boys and they are best friends xxx

 

[Hollowmama]

Congratulations! I would say do not worry about judgemental people, it’s not worth it. At the end of the day it’s your life and as most people above are saying, having close age siblings must be really noce! My sister and I are 10 years apart and although we are very close there are some things that we don’t really talk about due to the age difference!