arrghh, how to tell off my sister politely?

[scandicmum85]

I love my sister dearly, she is over here in England to visit me and is staying with us, we let her use our bedroom and I sleep in bed with her, and she got her 4 months old lovely daughter with her. My OH sleep in guestbed ever night and I think we are being very nice to her, I cook her tea everyday and pay for food.. But now its getting a bit too much, she been here for 3 weeks and not DONE anything in this house, me and my OH is getting frustated, she sleep to 10 in morning and ask us to look after her baby in morning, dont even offer me to help doing housework, I am due anytime and clean floors, cook for all of us etc and just would appreciate if she could be a bit more tidy and help us. But I feel rude asking even my OH says I need to tell her off. She complains quite a bit,. and I am worried what its going to be like when our baby is here..
I mentioned last night she need to start sleeping in guet room when baby is here and she said then she wants the babycot with her in the room, where is her baby going to be sleeping, I did ask her to bring a travelcot with her over here..
Now I am just And she doesnt want to sleep in guest bed as its tooo "uncomfortable" for her...

Just have to get this out of my chest. She is my little sister, I have always looked after her but I feel she is taking the piss now.. We ask her to buy food in aswell as its expensive for us to buy for her all time, I have even paid for her nappies etc!!! But then she says why should she pay, we are 3 people and she is only one!!!

 

[LucyAnn]

omg i would have so flipped by now!!!! that sounds so stressful!

You need to be looked after and have tlc! not doing everything for everyone else.

When my mom comes to visit me, she cleans my windows! i feel guilty but she offers and really helps me etc and as im going to be a single mom, occassionly lately if i have felt sick or early hospital appointments if i stay at my mom n dads i contribute by either helping clear dirty dishes etc away and taking even choccys or sweets for them or even buying a takeaway in as i feel guilty ti just be there and eat all there food use there water their heating etc.

And when baby born im staying at my moms for a bit and will either contibute in money,if its not accepted i will by food even milk cheese bread etc just to contribute as i am willing to accept help but no way will i take the pi@s!

Think you should start staying in bed till 10 and complain about things being uncomfy lol give her a taste of her own medicine lmao!

Na but really everyone will have different views of whats acceptable or not etc. But at the least she could offer housework or preparing meals etc how long is she with you for? xxx

 

[scandicmum85]

Yes I should do!! Argggh, she is like "ohh whats for tea today" and one day I said i was really tired for cooking and was going to ask OH if he could cook, and she was like "oh right i will just cook something for myself now then".. Thinking of going out with meal with my OH and leave her home to do her own cooking tonight!!!

Soooo annoying.. She is gong to stay another 3 weeks or so

 

[LucyAnn]

oh my!!! how come she is staying for?

If i ever go out for a meal with my best mate she wont let me contribute towards bill because there is her her hubby and two kids and lil me. But even when i visit her, she tells me to put kettle on lol i just like to pull my weight in general.
Some people can take the michael but certainly do not know why she could do thta to you you really dont need this hassle.

Even if she just bought food in for herself and cooked seperatly that would mean alot. I think you should defo lay down a few rules and if she gets mad or something you can always take words back with the oh its my hormones excuse etc. But you should not be buying nappies either!

I have bought 6 packs of nappies for example, so when baby born i dont have to go and get any for a bit, mom said she could always nip down shop and get some when needed etc but i want to be independent so have stocked up! xxx

 

[Sarah13]

Your her sister not her mother! Remind her of that and that your about to give birth! She should be the one running round after you just now, is that not one reason she's staying? Be straight with her and tell her you need a bit of help round house, a contribution towards food and your bed back, one person you should be able to tell anything is your sister, she might not realise the stress she's causing you esp if she is the baby of the family and used to being run about after and mothered!

 

[niknaks]

omg i cant beleive your sister.she really sounds lik a spoilt brat. you really need to speak to her. its not fair. in my eyes i dont see close family a guests. she needs to realise that your at the end of you prgnancy and she shouldnt be putting all this pressure on you. was she really mollycoddleed whn she was youngr. and its really not fair that shes making you look after her daughter. why did she decide to come visit you? i agree with playing her at her own game cos it sounds like thats what shes doing. if he went on holiday somewhere else i bet she would have brought hr own nappies and food. and what does it matter shes only one person and you are 3. your going to be 4 and if she couldnt afford to go on holiday why did she go and why hav a child if you want other people to look it... x

 

[DaisyPurple]

You need to be firm with her and tell her the free ride is over, she is making unreasonable demands on your time and your finances, its about time.order was restored, and she was in the guest bedroom and you and your husband are in your bed, she also needs to start pulling her weight around the place. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this.

 

[suzzi]

id have to tell her straight, whats she gonna do if she dont like what you say - leave! problem solved, either she sorts herself out and helps and pays or she goes home, is there any one else she could stay with?