Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh HIS BLOODY MOTHER

[cw25]

haha brilliant might use the goldfish line next time

 

[DiddlePlumbs]

So glad its not just me putting up with a controlling mother! Bad thing is, its my own mother! OH mum is so lovely and understanding. My mum hated my choice of name for a girl which just made me more determined to have it. Since then me and OH have agreed on a different name which she loves but she just wont stop insisting that i have her at the birth!! Or any of my scans!

I think piper is a lovely name so stick by it!

 

[cw25]

Id find it easier if it were my own Mum cos I could bollock her lol if I bollocked his mum he wouldn't hear the end of it off her... Oh god the birth at first I just wanted OH there but thinking I might want my Mum too that will rile her and that'll cause some whineing I can tell lol x

 

[Chrispin]

I love that name! We have decided not to tell anyone our choices and will just announce the babies name when hes born!
We have had the same trouble with people giving stupid opinions when we never asked for them!

Same with the sex of the baby! His mum kept saying your having a girl all the time, then when we told her it was a boy she was still going on about it being a girl! My god we didnt realise how much people think they have some sort of right over the choiced we make for our children who we made. Honestly i could also slap my mil sometimes she really can be so inconsiderate!

 

[tabbi]

I love the name hunni. My OH mum is lovely always has been (with a few arguments over random stuff) its my mum that's the problem, she doesn't like anything we come up with saying its a sluts name or its wrong and then suggests her name plus ones that don't go with OH surname as it's King and we don't want a name that can have the mickey taken.

We have given up now with names and have said that we're not even thinking about them now. When we really are. My sisters are just as bad, and then saying when she's born I'll look after her. Or you'll have come stay mine we're not travelling down there its too far, yet I'll have 3 children and a small car and meant to travel 60 miles to visit them. I just think fuck them. Me and OH know my family are the nightmare and his are just brilliant x x x

 

[mummywanabe]

Why are other halfs always afraid to stand up to their mothers?

 

[Chrispin]

Why are other halfs always afraid to stand up to their mothers?

Omg i know i get so mad with him sometimes! X

 

[.Ruth.]

Why are other halfs always afraid to stand up to their mothers?

My boyfriend is an only child and to his mum hes her little blue eyed blonde baby still.... and shes so sensitive he just finds it easier to let us get on with it. I moan to him about her and vice versa!

The poor thing had enough of it a few weeks back though and told her to back off etc.

So my suggestion ladies is moan like hell about the stuff she does and get him on your side.... plant little seeds and be sneaky haha... then before you know it he will blow

He's having to say something else this week too as she wont stop buying stuff.. she took it upon herself to get an ornament and big wall mirror for the baby's room - i like neither! and then a HUGE frame for our house... I think she likes to take over and feels her little boy (26 year old man) can't be trusted to buy the right thing... or me for that matter. PISS OFF!

 

[MrsHop]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

 

[Pippa1703]

Oh mrs hop, what a friggin nightmare!! My OHs mum is a huge talking point for the rest of the family.
When niece got pregnant, MIL kept going on about "youre daft bringing children into the world. Its not like my day (shes 77) its full of rapists and paedophiles and murderers. Everyones on drugs. Ill be the one raising that baby, you just see!! (poor niece lives next door!) Our jade will see it as another bloody dog!"

She is so judgmental and narrow minded! Unbelievabley, im the only one that doesnt seem to get digged at. And im a smart-mouthed cow sometimes so I suppose its lucky she doesn't lol

OH worries a bit hecause he knows I wouldn't think twice about putting her in her place if she started that bollocks with me. He wouldnt stop me or ask me not too though. I think secretly hed like to see her reaction lol

 

[cw25]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

She sounds exactly the same lol nightmares aren't they to be honest wish pregnancy would hurry up and baby was here and I could just get on with it the waiting and wondering what it's actually going to be like is really annoying x

 

[MrsHop]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

She sounds exactly the same lol nightmares aren't they to be honest wish pregnancy would hurry up and baby was here and I could just get on with it the waiting and wondering what it's actually going to be like is really annoying x

It's bloody draining isn't it! I know she's excited, first grandchild, but I just want to say back off!

MrHop doesn't help much but I have been planting seeds lol.. he told her point blank she's not to smoke around the baby or breathe over it with fag breath. That was a milestone!

 

[MrsHop]

Oh mrs hop, what a friggin nightmare!! My OHs mum is a huge talking point for the rest of the family.
When niece got pregnant, MIL kept going on about "youre daft bringing children into the world. Its not like my day (shes 77) its full of rapists and paedophiles and murderers. Everyones on drugs. Ill be the one raising that baby, you just see!! (poor niece lives next door!) Our jade will see it as another bloody dog!"

She is so judgmental and narrow minded! Unbelievabley, im the only one that doesnt seem to get digged at. And im a smart-mouthed cow sometimes so I suppose its lucky she doesn't lol

OH worries a bit hecause he knows I wouldn't think twice about putting her in her place if she started that bollocks with me. He wouldnt stop me or ask me not too though. I think secretly hed like to see her reaction lol

Everyone laughs at my MIL stories, we've been together nearly 5 years and married for 1, I could already write a book!

Mine is also judgemental and speaks really badly of people, makes me wonder what she says behind my back as the stuff she says to my face is bad enough!

Haha I bet she'd have a shock if you bit back! I'm more snide and give her rude back handers lol!

 

[DiddlePlumbs]

I think the funniest thing I witnessed when it came to OH's parents getting told what for was when my mums friends had their second baby boy and called him Jackie. Her OH's parents hated it and said it was a girls name and refused to call him Jackie and started calling him Jack, even though they were asked not to by Liesa and her OH. One day, their 4 year old boy Christopher turned round and said "His name isn't Jack, it's Jackie!"
After being told by a four year old they gave in lol

 

[MrsHop]

Cw I also forgot to add Piper is on our shortlist! As well as Pieta (OH isn't a fan though!)

 

[Squeakz]

My mum was the same. She didnt like any of our names and they were our children as well...... also my gran said when we told her we were having a boy "thats a shame...never mind" because theyd already started buying girl things x

 

[tabbi]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

If I was you and you want the name heidi call your baby it. All my family said not to call my daughter lilith as it's a whore's name...and that they wouldn't call her by that name but her middle name instead. Well my daughter is called Lilith Sabriel they call her by her first name now as they had no chance.

As for wearing skulls all the time, you sound like me, I actually know a few good sites that do babygrows (not all in black will add), bibs, tops you name it. I brought one for DD and DS and they looked so cute, so I got another for this one.

Don't let anyone tell you how to raise/name your baby or what it can wear or not. As for feeding, I'd turn and say to your MIL face...if you buy or have brought any bottles you'd best take them back, as I won't be needing them for the first six months. And when it comes to you needing bottles you'll make the choice as to which you'll buy and use with your child. If need be throw her off by saying you want try a few before you settle.


As for what you could rant about hun, make a thread and get it out in the open and see if people can give advise etc... plus you'll be able have a laugh and unload. lol x x x

 

[MrsHop]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

If I was you and you want the name heidi call your baby it. All my family said not to call my daughter lilith as it's a whore's name...and that they wouldn't call her by that name but her middle name instead. Well my daughter is called Lilith Sabriel they call her by her first name now as they had no chance.

As for wearing skulls all the time, you sound like me, I actually know a few good sites that do babygrows (not all in black will add), bibs, tops you name it. I brought one for DD and DS and they looked so cute, so I got another for this one.

Don't let anyone tell you how to raise/name your baby or what it can wear or not. As for feeding, I'd turn and say to your MIL face...if you buy or have brought any bottles you'd best take them back, as I won't be needing them for the first six months. And when it comes to you needing bottles you'll make the choice as to which you'll buy and use with your child. If need be throw her off by saying you want try a few before you settle.


As for what you could rant about hun, make a thread and get it out in the open and see if people can give advise etc... plus you'll be able have a laugh and unload. lol x x x

Heidi was decided before MIL said that now MrHop has been put off. I don't understand where this whores name thing comes from, personally I don't know any!

I will be investing in some funky skull clothes and no doubt all my friends will, I think that will annoy her, that they'll be gifts!

I definitely won't be budging at all on the feeding front! She is shockingly disgruntled about it but tough! I said it's not as easy as just buying bottles because they're on sale and she told me not to be silly lol. I give up!

No doubt there will be a reason for a real rant soon! I'm sure you'll all be amused by the rubbish she talks! Xx

 

[tabbi]

I'm quite scared that if I start on this topic you may never shut me up!

I've been told if it's a girl I'm not allowed to call her Heidi (which I loved!) Because it's a whore's name and everyone will call her Heidi-ho. If it's a boy I'm not allowed to call him Jesse because that's a gay boys name.

Baby is also be called "our" baby and she went and bought things before I did, before my scan!

We were "stupid" for waiting for the scan to tell people because "you can't think like anything is going to happen" and they asked nearly every day if they could tell the rest of the family and moaned when we said no.

I have a slight obsession with skulls, pretty ones mostly! I have a sugar skull tattoo and the majority of my wardrobe is skull related clothing. Apparently I'm not allowed to dress the baby in skulls. Now tbh if I wasn't told this I probably wouldn't, now because she's said it this baby will more than likely be completely skull covered!

And the reaction I had when I said I was planning to exclusively breastfeed for at least six months was phenomenal. She's been trying to plant little seeds about how she'll buy bottle sets and how I can express when she has the baby overnight. Which is not happening!

I could go on. Don't even get me started about wedding planning! That was a nightmare!

If I was you and you want the name heidi call your baby it. All my family said not to call my daughter lilith as it's a whore's name...and that they wouldn't call her by that name but her middle name instead. Well my daughter is called Lilith Sabriel they call her by her first name now as they had no chance.

As for wearing skulls all the time, you sound like me, I actually know a few good sites that do babygrows (not all in black will add), bibs, tops you name it. I brought one for DD and DS and they looked so cute, so I got another for this one.

Don't let anyone tell you how to raise/name your baby or what it can wear or not. As for feeding, I'd turn and say to your MIL face...if you buy or have brought any bottles you'd best take them back, as I won't be needing them for the first six months. And when it comes to you needing bottles you'll make the choice as to which you'll buy and use with your child. If need be throw her off by saying you want try a few before you settle.


As for what you could rant about hun, make a thread and get it out in the open and see if people can give advise etc... plus you'll be able have a laugh and unload. lol x x x

Heidi was decided before MIL said that now MrHop has been put off. I don't understand where this whores name thing comes from, personally I don't know any!

I will be investing in some funky skull clothes and no doubt all my friends will, I think that will annoy her, that they'll be gifts!

I definitely won't be budging at all on the feeding front! She is shockingly disgruntled about it but tough! I said it's not as easy as just buying bottles because they're on sale and she told me not to be silly lol. I give up!

No doubt there will be a reason for a real rant soon! I'm sure you'll all be amused by the rubbish she talks! Xx

Make him warm up to the name again if you love it...its easy. Go for the skulls clothes get your friends buy them as the gifts for baby. or for baby shower can send you a list of sites that are amazing.

I wouldn't budge on feeding and good on you for not shifting either Its the best thing for you and baby. So what as well if they are on sale, they will be again before baby would need them and who's to say baby will ever need a bottle you could breastfeed until a year then no bottle is needed.

We'll all be here for your rant. And ignore her she had her chance it's yours baby not her's...or is she having the baby for you? Hummmm its a joke when some MIL say our baby too. good luck x x x

 

[gemloulau]

Sorry tri hopping!

Tabbi could you let me have the list of websites you mention? I'm skull obsessed too, I had my 12wk scan yesterday so celebrated by buying a gorgeous skull baby grow on eBay!

Thank you xx