Anyone grow up in a big family?

[Sam's Mum]

Not really sure which section to put this in (other, better mod please feel free to move it )

Yet another thread about having more than 2 kids... but just wondering how it is from the kids' point of view rather than how much harder it is to have 3 as a parent.

If you grew up with 2 or more brothers and sisters, is there anything you felt you missed out on? Did you get less attention than you wanted from parents (or do kids ever get enough?!), did you still manage to have lots of family days out, did you go on holiday, did any of you feel left out, or is it great being part of a bigger family?

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I grew up just me and my brother but OH is one of 8!! 2 real sisters then 2 brothers on his mums side and 2 sisters and 1 brother on his dads! He hated it and doesn't class his half brothers and sisters as his siblings! We're not in touch with either his mum or dad, he grew up thinking they loved and were occupied with his younger half siblings more than him and his real sisters!

 

[MrsR]

I grew up with two older sisters but feel a bit of a fraud replying as my sisters are 9 and 7 years older than me! I don't really remember ever living with the eldest as she moved out at 16. I love having siblings, especially now we're all adults but ask them and they'd probably give you a different answer! I know my eldest (L) hated having a sister so close in age (N) and they've never got on! Whilst I get on great with both of them!

We still went on holidays every year sometimes 2/3 times a year as my grandma lived in Tenerife and we'd fly out and stay with her and I know that we did all go on a couple of holidays all together though for the majority of my childhood it was either just me and N with mum and dad or just me!

I think I was given a lot more freedom than they were regarding playing out etc but tbh I felt more like an only child than the youngest if three, simply because there is such an age gap.

Not sure this really answers your questions and I've rambled a bit now! Oooops! Sorry! x

 

[Sam's Mum]

I guess it all depends on the kids and there's no way to know for sure until you try it... it's good to know that things like holidays aren't impossible with 3 kids though.

I can't imagine being one of 8 though when there are lots of families and new partners involved...must have been hard for him

 

[isobel84]

ive got 4 sisters, 2 older and 2 younger. im close in age with the older ones and i did feel left out sometimes as it was mostly them 2 against me..(we are VERY close now tho) the younger ones are 8 years younger (i always adored her) and i got a 5 yearold sister which i dont really know as i lived here almost 4 years of her life.
But I think that even tho we didnt have much money growing up my parents always did there best for us to not miss out. we didnt get anything expencive, we didnt go far on holidays, always lived on our last pennies but to be honest.. i never felt i missed out cuz i learnd to apprichiate what i had and got

 

[Sam's Mum]

Thanks I do worry about one feeling left out, but that and having less time to give them attention individually are really the only things I'm worried about. Never thought I'd be thinking about having a third...

 

[flexilexi394]

Im the only girl with 2 brothers, im the middle. i actually thought we were all treated very equally, none of us were spoiled and we just got things we wanted by working for them or getting them for birthday or xmas pressies rather than having things bought for us. i get on well with my bros and we never have fallen out or anything, i would love to have 3 i think x

 

[evajo]

I was a middle child and we were all close in age, i also have to half brothers who are quite a bit younger. We never had much money but i love having a brother and sister although i do remember being very different to them; i was still happy in my own world! We used to go on cheap camping holidays and didn't have al the latest fashion trends but we were always happy x
I have four now and i think my children are so lucky to have each other as company, although the arguing at times is testing!

 

[Sam's Mum]

Thanks everyone... all I've had are negative comments from people I know about having more so it's good to know I'm not guaranteed to make them all miserable if I do have three

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Ooh could there be another pf baby mod soon??

 

[Sam's Mum]

Not yet...but maybe

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Eek! Mamafy's almost due so we need another!!

 

[mrsH2009]

I'm one of 4 and I loved it, we always had fun days out and family holidays and as we have grown up I think we have just got closer, Sunday dinner at my mums is great it's really buzzy and like a Xmas gathering every week

 

[Sam's Mum]

Thank you That's one thing I love the thought of - big family dinners when they're all older

 

[Sam's Mum]

Eek! Mamafy's almost due so we need another!!

I guess as a PF mod it is my duty to keep the pregnant team going