Any single mothers working full time?

[Sophie_P]

It's just me and the little one, in a two bedroom house. I've come to the conclusion I need to work full time(currently three days a week). But I feel so guilty. But I need the extra money. Are there any mums that work full time? How do you manage?

I feel so depressed right now, like I'll be missing out.

 

[Mummybexee]

Well I think any full time working mum single or not feels like that soph. I work full time and sometimes feel like it's unfair he should be in full time care but the weekends are packed with fun and tea time / bath time etc are fun

He's so social it's crazy- he's just been chatting with a baby in the doc waiting room. His development mentally is amazing aswell

It's not all bad

 

[littlemonkey]

Mummybexee is right it feels that way working full time no matter what. I'll be honest I hate it, especially now I'm pregnant again and if I had the time again I would have made do with no money and working part time. But we did What we thought was right at the time. We always knew we would have another soon after and we couldn't afford my mat pay being based on part time hours.

 

[MrsG81]

I was a single mother from my eldest being a newborn to around 14months. It's not easy when you have to work full time but sometimes it is just the only way. Don't beat yourself up about it.

I used to do chores once Dan was in bed asleep at night so we had a few hours of just eating and playing once I got home from work and I tended to make a lot of the weekends. We were always out doing fun stuff.

He used to love going to the childminders, there was only him and one other under 3 child there (during school hours, she had before and after school older kids too) so he had plenty of attention and I think it really did help him to become such a sociable little boy xxx

 

[babyslog]

Hey Soph.. I only work PT but my mum & dad both worked FT, and after they split up my mum still had to remain FT to pay the bills.. Im 1 of 4 tht lived at home & i it helps none of us were effected by the fact we were all in nursery young and when in school had to go after school clubs etc..
Plenty of time to have lots of fun like the others have said and you should be prob of yourself!

I personally wouldnt like to go bk FT until ive had all my children & they are in school, but im fortunate enough to nor have to pay childcare with the hrs i work as my OH is off the days i do and we have help from family.

But im sure she wont feel like ahes missin out hun! Shell make lots of friends and have fun paked days in childcare xx

 

[Loula]

Ive just gone full time after part time for a couple years.
Cant say its much different apart from instead of having set days i work any day and do long shifts. May mean that lo is away for a couple of nights but it has to be done x

 

[Mackmummy]

I'm not a single mum as I am married but my hubby is only home weekends so in the week I am on my own. I go back to work in September and am hoping to go back four days but do full time hours over those four days. My mum will have two days with oscar, two days at nursery and the Friday wand weekend with me. I know what you mean that you feel guilty but I think it's good for the baby to have variety and mingle with other people.

 

[Iwant3]

I've only ever worked full time when I had my son (who is now 9 in March) but what I found helped was to have a small diary and write in there things you plan to do with your lo on the times you have together - that way you can look and see what;s coming up and see at a glance all the time you do actually have together. Even went swimming with him in the early evening and things like that!

Find childcare that you are comfortable with and help you feel better about leaving them. I am a childminder and have had children come to me at 1 year old and I now take them to school -they are 100% comfortable in my house and are relaxed and know us really well

 

[mrswoody]

I'm not a single mum but my oh works away during the week so I am on my own with the girls all week. I worked full time when I had my first and I'm going back full time again (I have no option of part time with my work).
It's not ideal and I wish I could do part time hours but the nursery my eldest goes to is one of the best in our town and the staff are fab. My youngest will also be going there.
Yes it is hard work and yes I felt like I missed out but I cherished (and still do) all the time I did have with my eldest. She learnt a whole load of new things at nursery and she is very advanced for her age which is down to nursery. If I had her home with me she wouldn't be how she is so there are pros and cons to both.
The thought is worse than the reality when working and having children x