Any other "older" mothers ttc

[ShineyHappyPeople]

Hi,
I'm an older mum.Had my son at 41,big surprise that was as we didn't think that we could..OH is/was infertile.
I've now got the baby bug and am desperate for another before i do get too old.
Were trying but nothing as yet,maybe he will just be our little gift from heaven.

Thats amazing trish

 

[trish5566]

Thanks Shiney HP,It was a big surprise.
Keith and i have been together for 5 years and never bothered about useing any protection because his previous partner who he had been with for 10 years,they had been trying but nothing was happening so he went and got tested and the result was that he was as fertile as a vasectomised bloke.
To cut a long story short i went to the GP thinking i was going thruogh the change as my mother (rip )was in her early 40's when she went through hers.
We'll just rule everything else out said the GP!!
Did a test thinking it was just run of the mill and BFP!!!!!
Started crying there and then as the first thing that came into my mind was that Keith would think that i had been 'straying'.
Went to work and rang him to tell him..
Now i have my lovely son Finlay,born 3 weeks early weighing 5lb 2ozs ,i'm not or should i say wasn't the least bit maternal but now he is my life.The feelings you get rushing through your body are amazing,especialy(sp) when you weren't expecting it.

Trish

 

[san]

Trish how lovely - I love miracle stories like that. Af still a no show and I'm swinging between "omg I'm pregnant" to "pull yourself together of course you're not"!! Omg I hate this wait, I'm angry with myself because I have so much to be grateful for and so many are in a far worse position. I'm just incredibly impatient.

 

[san]

Ok took another test (no.7 ) another BFN. I'm actually quite worried/scared now - I've always been as regular as clockwork, I've always shown bfp on the day af due with all full term pregnancies and 4 m/c. I'm sure the first day of lmp was 26th April - cause it was dh birthday but was allowing for mistake. That makes me 1 week late - only ever been late when pregnant. I have pregnancy symptoms - boobs bigger, dizziness, nausea, horrible taste in my mouth etc. I'm dreading it being ectopic (I've heard ectopic don't always show as positive?) and actually praying for af to arrive now - just hate this uncertainty. Just one more straw to clutch at, am I right in thinking that there is a point in pregnancy when hcg stops showing up and pregnancy tests are no use? Am reluctant to admit (feel a fool ) that sometimes I swear I feel butterflies (like first movement) - what are the chances that I'm further along than I think I am. Omg that sound so stupid I really am getting paranoid! See what can happen to perfectly rational ladies when af fails to arrive! Sorry this is such an epic. Normal service will resume asap.
x

 

[mrs_metal]

San

I can understand from all those symptoms why you're upset and confused, I think it might be best if you visit your doctors, they can arrange blood tests or a scan or something

Good luck, hope you get the result you want

 

[san]

Well another day and still no sign of af ! However I have calmed down since yesterday my god I sounding frantic. Really need a kick up the bum - there are so many people far worse off than me! Not usually so self centred (I hope)!

I'm still not sure either way but as no sign of af and no bfp I've decided not to do anything (no tests, drs etc) for atleast another week. I have exams this week and wil focus on them for now - or at least thats the plan - by 5 o'clock tonight I'll probably be panicing again - lol!!

Thanks for your support -kind words and concern really do help!

xx

 

[san]

Still no af - really don't know what to think. On one hand I've been pregnant 8 times (4 full term, 4 mc) before and know how it feels and in many ways I "feel" pregnant. But on the other hand I've done 7 pregnancy tests in the last 10 days (last one last Saturday) and they have all be bfn - now that has never happened before when I am pregnant - I've always shown bfp on the day af is due (she was due 24th May)! So where does that leave me? Very late - never happened before but I'm 43 so the reality is that is possible! Suffering from an infection - not likely as no pain or discomfort anywhere! Ovulated late and "caught" late, unlikely as surely that would still be showing. Oh well I'm not doing anything about it yet - can't bear to test again before the weekend (just hate the bfn!) and will probably go and see the dr next week. I just feel such a fool. x

 

[emeraldsroses]

san, one really important question: how old were you when you started your periods? This may be essential to know because you may not want to hear this, but it could be the start of menopause * it's not* You may want to check with your GP in case you're not certain.

 

[san]

Hi emerald I have considered that but I had bloods taken a couple of months ago and all levels were fine. I didn't start my periods till I was nearly 14, the last of all my friends.

Now I do feel like a complete fool - just did another test (so much for waiting until the weeked - lol) and another bfn. This is really odd. The only explanation I can think of now is that the bd bleed I had a few of weeks ago was actually af - although it had stopped by the morning and I needed no pads etc - but that would still mean af was due again by now.

Oh this is ridiculous I just wish af would arrive so I knew where I was at. Beginning to think we're too old anyway and should shelve the idea. Que sera sera!

Baby dust to you all,
xx

 

[san]

double post
xx

 

[reallyoldmum]

San,

I am 42 and have a daughter of nearly 21 and a son of 18. I had a bad ectopic in December and had a cycle of over 125 days after - had a bleed on 14th May and I was delighted to get a series of very + hpt's yesterday and today - just waiting for my beta number on Wednesday to really start celebrating but hold on in there and it will happen.

Jane x x x x x

 

[san]

San,

I am 42 and have a daughter of nearly 21 and a son of 18. I had a bad ectopic in December and had a cycle of over 125 days after - had a bleed on 14th May and I was delighted to get a series of very + hpt's yesterday and today - just waiting for my beta number on Wednesday to really start celebrating but hold on in there and it will happen.

Jane x x x x x

Congratulations Jane - baby glue to you ! (What is a beta number?) Did you have bfn's before your bfp's yesterday - or did you not test?

 

[reallyoldmum]

Sans during my long cycle I tested all the time (cost me a fortune ) and had a couple of false really weak positives. To be honest the only reason I tested on sunday night with an internet cheapie was because we were out on our boat at the weekend and I caught a fish - when I reeled it in the smell made me heave!! I always feel that way about smells when I am pregnant I was gobsmacked when the IC showed a pink line and followed up with a Digi yesterday morning but I am still really early - around 10/12 days past ovulation.

A beta number is the amount of HCG in your blood - as I had an ectopic at christmas they will check that it is of normal levels, I will feel much happier when I see it is of a normal level and rising properly.

Good luck and thanks for the baby glue

Jane x x x

ps I only feel 33 too!!

 

[san]

Jane that is wonderful and just the thing I need to hear! Take care.
x

 

[~Honey~]

San, at this stage I'd personally advise you to visit the doc - s/he would be able to take a blood test and see for sure if you are preggers (there are some women who never test positive on HPT's). It might end all this uncertainity too.

 

[san]

I wish I could but I have a peculiar relationship with our GP's as we know them very well (only prefessionally) as my mum was Practice Manager for 30 years - My dr just wouldn''t understand and I know they would think us mad - as would most people - lol - I mean we have 4 children already! I suppose I know where they are coming from especially as I'm 43 and dh is 46, but we support ourselves, our children are very responsible young adults so why can't we celebrate wanting to expand our brood. Well when I see him next week I will be so embarassed because when I found out I was pregnant last year (whilst on the mini pill) he asked me "what are you going to do?" as in will you abort? He couldn't comprehend that we would want it even if it wasn't planned - sadly it was a blighted ovum and I lost it anyway. So either way I'm dreading seeing him - as it is I've had low stomach pain this evening and the ache at the top of my thigh that says the witch is about to fly in, so maybe this month I won't have to see him and we can start our next cycle.
How are you Honey?

 

[san]

Another day and still no af - just want her to get here now so I can start planning bd'ing for next month - lol !! A low ache in my back tells me she should be here soon - fingers crossed! hugs and babydust to all.

x

 

[~Honey~]

I don't know if I wish that AF will come for you San or not!!! Your doc ... well, I guess if it was me, I'd change cos I don't know if you sound like you're entirely comfortable with him. When I got preggers the first time, I changed my own GP I'd had for years - he was obnoxious to me and when I told him I was spotting, he said "Let nature run it's course" which is a totally bollocks thing to say to someone who's obviously worried. My new doc is female, lovely and very supportive.

I'm doing ok - decided to temp for a week and confirm O this time (not happened yet) so I avoid the what's happenings like I had last month. Work has been mental and tough and we were in the UK for the weekend last weekend to visit the MIL which is never a relaxing trip... all in all I'm exhausted and very very glad it's Friday!!!!

 

[san]

Lovely to hear from you Honey - glad things are okay in your world and I know what you mean about that Friday feeling! Good luck with O and enjoy lots of bd'ing!
Still no af for me and I do think about changing drs but then its swings and roundabouts and sometimes its to our advantage that we know him so well.
I did another test this pm (may have already mentioned that ) another BFN! Talk about torment and torture - will definately go and see the dr after my exams in a couple of weeks (assuming af hasn't arrived by then). At the back of my mind there is the little niggle that ectopics don't always show positive but I keep trying not to think about it.

 

[san]

Well another day and still no af! 2 weeks late now! Just wondering if this is an exceptionally long cycle - simply don't think I can be pregnant - how can 9 (yes 9 ) tests be wrong - lol! Anyway as I was saying - if it is a long cycle presumably I could realistically ovulate at anytime - for instance Wednesday I had ewcm - could that be late ovulation. Presumably as we are still bd'ing then I could still conceive during this long cycle. This is just so complicated I just wish af would arrive or a bfp and then at least I'd know where I was at.
Lots of bd and luck to all those still waiting!
xx